Ep 25: Family Dynamics, Caregiving, and Personal Boundaries: an interview with Kim

"I feel like people pleasing with me is more being taken advantage of because I would give anyone the shirt off my back. I would, not anymore." - KimIn this episode, Jenny chats with Kim White-Lopez about her people pleaser recovery journey. Kim, an improv comedian, actress, and paranormal investigator, delves into her personal experiences with people pleasing, beginning from a young age while caring for her terminally ill mother. They discuss how family dynamics  impact people pleasers and how she navigated setting boundaries and starting to heal despite the demand of being a caregiver for sick family members. They explore the nuances of setting boundaries, the impact of people pleasing on relationships, and the challenges that come with setting boundaries with loved ones. Alongside, Kim shares intriguing anecdotes from her paranormal investigations and how it intertwines with her journey of overcoming people pleasing. The episode wraps up with an inspiring note on taking care of oneself through a meaningful song lyric recommendation from 'Garden Party' by Ricky Nelson.00:00 Introduction and Guest Background00:24 Paranormal Investigations and Experiences04:03 People Pleasing and Personal Stories04:37 Family Dynamics and Caregiving Challenges06:34 Boundaries and Self-Care12:31 Friendships and People Pleasing14:43 Defining People Pleasing15:38 Being Taken Advantage Of16:40 The Cost of People Pleasing17:29 Personal Transformation and Self-Care18:31 Weight Loss Journey and Self-Discovery20:32 Bias and Treatment Based on Appearance22:37 Setting Boundaries in Personal and Professional Life26:16 The Importance of Authenticity29:55 Final Thoughts and AdviceShow Mentions:"Garden Party" by Ricky Nelson (Stone Canyon Band)Want to be a guest on the show? Email Jenny! [email protected] The Guest:Kimberly White-Lopez (“Kimber Lee”) @MunchKim0929 on Instagram Kimberly's Facebook page Kim was originally born in Fort Rucker, Alabama on a military base, but she was raised in Buffalo, NY for almost her entire life. She used to joke with her Dad and give him a hard time about her mom giving birth in a “tent,” until he drove her all the way to Alabama in 2008 to show her the small hospital where she was born.Kim currently holds a Bachelor’s of Science degree in Nursing and a minor in Psychology, and she has worked in the medical field for 18+ years: 14 of those with a focus in mental health providing psychiatric care to children, adolescents, and adults. Kim also has experience working as a Teacher’s Assistant, providing education and care to children with ASD and other developmental disorders requiring specialized needs. She says these individuals really hold a special place in her heart.When not working, Kim enjoys acting in front of the camera, as well as on the stage. She has been a TV/film actor since 2006 and has rejoined the scene again more recently in 2019. Kim has appeared in over a total of 33 films, television shows (i.e. American Idol, Extreme Makeover: Home Edition, Restaurant Impossible, Nick Groff’s Death Walker series, etc.), and music videos. She can be seen featured on major platforms including but not limited to: AMC, IFC, Amazon Prime Video, Disney+, Netflix, Hulu, etc. Kim is also an improvisational comedian and the Co-Founder, Producer, Operations...