EP 29: Dating After Trauma: Setting Boundaries & Reclaiming Your Self-Worth

What if the endless healing work you're doing is actually keeping you stuck? In this raw and transformative conversation, sexual liberation coach Sammy Schultz shares her journey from numbing sexual trauma with alcohol to becoming the strong woman she needed growing up—and how that completely changed the way she dates.EPISODE TIMELINE:00:00 - Introduction & Welcome03:11 - Sammy's Background & Journey Begins06:22 - From Sexual Trauma to Sexual Liberation10:56 - Why YouTube Tried to Censor Her Content13:41 - Getting Stuck in Healing Mode17:31 - The Pattern of "If I Were More Healed, I'd Be Worthy"21:26 - Why Healing Work Didn't Change Sammy's Dating Life24:51 - Shifting from "I'm Broken" to "I'm Whole"28:21 - The Intention Behind Healing vs. Living31:46 - Becoming the Woman You Needed Growing Up35:31 - From Auditioning to Being the Chooser39:26 - Centering Yourself Instead of Begging the Universe43:01 - How Sexual Trauma Impacts Dating & Relationships47:36 - Breaking Generational Trauma Cycles51:21 - Recognizing What True Safety Actually Feels Like54:56 - Dating from Your Inner Mama Bear (Not Your Inner Little Girl)57:41 - How to Feel Safe Speaking What You Want1:00:31 - Worshiping the "Bitchy" Version of Yourself1:02:26 - Final Advice: Be the Center of Your Own UniverseIN THIS EPISODE WE EXPLORE:Why years of healing work doesn't always translate to better dating experiencesHow to shift from auditioning for love to becoming the chooserSetting powerful boundaries without fear of being perceived as "too much"Dating from your inner mama bear instead of your wounded inner childThe complete dating rulebook that changed everything"Instead of begging an external universe to give you what only you can give you, you have to become the center of your universe. You become the universe and you give it to yourself. You stop asking for things and you just give it to yourself. Rather than going out and being like 'maybe someone will choose me,' it's 'let me see if this place, this person, is amazing enough for me.'"- Sammy SchultzCONNECT WITH SAMMY:Sammy Schultz is a sexual liberation coach who helps women become the strong woman they needed when they were growing up. After spending years numbing sexual trauma with alcohol and facing a life-threatening health experience, Sammy got sober and began her healing journey—which eventually evolved into teaching women how to stop healing and start living.Ten years ago, Sammy started a YouTube channel to share her journey of sexual healing, even after the platform threatened to delete her content. Since then, she's helped countless women transform their relationship with their bodies, their sensuality, and their worthiness in love and money. Sammy specializes in combining neuroscience and sensuality to help women break free from people-pleasing patterns, set powerful boundaries, and date from a place of wholeness rather than fixing themselves.Her approach is bold, unapologetic, and refreshingly honest—teaching women that the "bitchy," "demanding" version of themselves isn't something to apologize for, but something to worship.Sammy's Instagram: @sammybeloveCONNECT WITH MADDEN:Madden's Instagram: @maddenzappaIMPORTANT PODCAST LINKS:Submit YOUR dating stories and questions: Date Differently Diaries (completely anonymous