ep 29: why do you resist feeling your feelings?

📺watch and subscribe on youtubethere's a message most of us received early in life.. it sounds like “toughen up. don't cry. push through. get on with it.” and for me it was direct - i was told to “put up, shut up and get on with it.” and i did.. i got very good at it. i pushed through school, university, relationships, career failures and family pain. i kept moving and kept achieving. and underneath all of it, there was a whole world of feeling i had learned to lock the door on. in this episode i get into why so many of us (and men especially) resist feeling our feelings, where that resistance actually comes from, what it costs us biologically and psychologically, what ancient wisdom traditions have known for thousands of years that modern culture keeps forgetting and a clear practical guide to begin (gently, without needing to rip yourself open). this one's close to my heart. enjoy 💙what we explored this episode00:00 welcome welcome!01:24 put up, shut up and get on with it03:54 how suppression followed me through school, uni, career and business06:39 dr jekyll and mr hyde08:24 8 years of therapy and still not breaking the resistance10:58 masculine conditioning and the damage it's doing13:14 the productivity industrial complex14:44 brené brown and shame18:16 what actually happens in the body when you suppress emotion20:54 ancient wisdom on feeling your feelings23:24 the cruel irony25:34 why feeling an emotion fully is what allows it to complete and release27:50 the window of tolerance and the fear of falling apart29:24 step by step (a practical guide to beginning)32:07 coming home to yourselfresearch references and thought leadersTerrence Real — author of I Don't Want to Talk About It. Boys are socialised to treat vulnerability as unsafe and feelings as a liability.Brené Brown — author of Daring Greatly. Shame is the fear of disconnection and the primary reason people suppress emotion.Candace Pert — author of Molecules of Emotion. Suppressed emotions continue circulating as neuropeptides, affecting immune function, hormones, and digestion.Bessel van der Kolk — author of The Body Keeps the Score. Suppressed emotion gets encoded in the body's fascia, musculature, and organs.→ www.besselvanderkolk.comStephen Porges — developer of Polyvagal Theory. Chronic suppression locks the nervous system in survival mode.→ www.stephenporges.comPeter Levine — founder of Somatic Experiencing. Incomplete emotional responses create frozen residue of energy stored in the body.→ www.somaticexperiencing.comHeartMath Institute — research on cardiac coherence. Processing emotion makes the body more intelligent, resilient, and capable.→ www.heartmath.orgDan Siegel — author of Mindsight. Name it to tame it — labelling an emotion reduces amygdala activation and calms the nervous system.→ www.drdansiegel.comRichard Schwartz — developer of IFS. Turning toward a feeling with curiosity rather than judgment reduces its intensity.→ www.ifs-institute.comAncient wisdom — Buddhism, Hinduism, Kabbalah, and Stoicism all point to the same truth: suppression is avoidance. The path to freedom runs through the feeling, not around it.connect with me👉take the root cause auditfree five minute assessment - answer a few honest questions about what's showing up in your life right now. i'll personally review your responses and send you back a detailed breakdown of the specific emotional pattern driving your behaviour within 48 hours. no call and no pitch. just clarity on what's actually keeping you stuck.👉free resourcespractical tools, guided practices and resources to help you create more clarity, confidence and alignment - all 100% free. no catch - just high-impact support for high performers & purpose-driven humans ready to grow. enjoy! 👉need more support?if you’re interested in coaching programs and more support.👉linkedin👉facebook👉instagram👉tiktok👉youtube👉websitelots of love,david 💙