Ep 311: The Truth About Trauma: Healing, Patterns, and Your Story | Scott Stolarick

In this episode of Adult Child of Dysfunction, Tammy Vincent sits down with trauma-informed therapist Scott Stolarick to explore the true complexity of trauma—and how it impacts both victims and those who cause harm.With over 30 years of clinical experience, Scott brings a rare and powerful perspective, having worked on both sides of trauma in the correctional system and private practice. Together, Tammy and Scott unpack how trauma is not defined by the event itself, but by how it is experienced and processed—and how unresolved trauma can quietly shape behaviors, relationships, and patterns throughout life.Scott shares a powerful analogy of trauma as a small crack in a windshield that spreads over time if left untreated, illustrating how trauma can expand into multiple areas of life if not addressed.This conversation also dives into the role of shame, denial, and support systems in healing, and why being seen, heard, and validated is often the first step toward recovery. Most importantly, Scott emphasizes that trauma does not define you—it is only one piece of your story.🔑 KEY TAKEAWAYS• Trauma is defined by your experience—not the event itself• Unresolved trauma expands and impacts multiple areas of life• Healing requires safe spaces, validation, and willingness• Shame and denial are major barriers to recovery• Your past influences your present—but does not define your future• True healing comes from integrating, not avoiding, your experiences• You are more than what happened to you⏱ CHAPTERS / TIMESTAMPS00:00 Introduction to Scott Stolarick01:15 How Scott got into trauma work03:30 Understanding trauma from both sides11:15 What trauma actually is15:50 The “windshield crack” analogy19:00 How trauma spreads if untreated22:00 Shame, disclosure, and healing25:00 Trauma, patterns, and perception31:10 Final message: Your life is a mosaic🔗 CONNECT WITH SCOTT STOLARICKWebsite: http://www.mosaicpathwaycounseling.orgLinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/scott-stolarick-lcpc-cctp-298734252/Hey there, I’m so glad you’re here and tuning in! If this episode spoke to your heart, just know there’s even more support waiting for you.Book Your Free Clarity and Calm Call: No Judgement, just a chat https://calendly.com/tammyvincent/clarity-and-calm-callIf you are curious about where you stand energetically, or just need a frequency boost, book your FREE biofrequency voice scan here: https://calendly.com/tammyvincent/complimentary-scan-demo if you want to take part in an amazing club, where you can get unlimited scans and free coaching every month, sign up here: $25 ($250 Value) Join For One Month Here https://workshops.tammyvincent.com/offers/JQz3QDrr/checkoutIf you would like to ask a question, and hear the answer in a future episode, please leave your question here: https://www.speakpipe.com/TammyvincentcoachingTrials To Triumph: An Adult Child's Emotional Freedom Blueprint: Use code THRIVE25 for 75% off today. https://workshops.tammyvincent.com/offers/DSbcgrZZ/checkoutAs an international inspirational speaker, NLP Practitioner, Trauma-Informed Coach, Neurofit Trainer, and Best-Selling Author, I bring both deep personal experience and professional training to the work I do. I believe in prevention, not just intervention — and use a body, mind, and spirit approach to guide others toward becoming the happiest, healthiest versions of themselves.My holistic toolbox includes nervous system regulation, trauma-informed coaching, nutritional support, and natural healing strategies,🔑 Start Your Healing JourneyFind ALL THE THINGS HERE: Anything that I have to offer is right here✈️ Bonus for Travel Lovers!Did you know I also offer access to an amazing travel savings program that can help you save up to 70% on hotels, resorts, cruises, and more? Let’s compare your next upcoming itinerary and see how much you could save.👉 Try the Trip Check: https://calendly.com/tammyvincent/trip-check📺 Subscribe to My YouTube Channel👉 Adult Child of Dysfunction on YouTube🌟 Book Me to Speak at Your Event👉 Let’s connect: https://calendly.com/tammyvincent/speakers-event-chat🫶 Let’s Connect📩 Email: [email protected]📱 Text: 513-280-3555🌟 If this episode helped you, please share it with a friend, leave a review, and hit follow. Every share helps break generational cycles and brings healing into more lives.