EP 37 How to Get the Best Spiritual Guidance

Tarot is not the only means of getting guidance. Today I would like to address the bigger issue of how to get the best spiritual guidance. The short answer to that question is that you will only get the best guidance the day you realise that the Universe does not play favourites and that you need to realise that someone else's feelings and interests are no more or less important than yours. This is hard to stomach, especially if you have been hurt by that person. I know what I am talking about. In order to get the best spiritual guidance, you need to be ready to hear what you need to hear as opposed to what you want to hear. The best spiritual guidance is rarely what you want to hear. It is often what we need to hear. These can be two entirely different things. The best spiritual guidance comes from an eagle view into the situation. Most people are not ready to hear it. How can you get ready to hear it? First you need to understand how the mind works. You also need to learn about ego. Everyone gets defensive when they feel criticised or attacked. It's perfectly normal. And you need to learn to "bite your tongue" when you are in that space because it is your ego that is likely to answer and you may regret what you say later, when you don't feel so threatened. Second, you need to learn to listen for the sake of listening, instead of listening to find out when you can say your piece. You need to listen to the other person with the goal to understand the other person's perspective. This is called active listening. I think it should be taught in school. There is one exception to this advice: if you are being abused or are in danger. Then your priority is not to listen but to take yourself to a place of safety. Domestic abuse, bullying and violence are no joke. Don't listen to your abuser, your bully or your attacker. It's obvious advice but I feel the need to say this, just in case someone misconstrues my words or takes them out of context. Third, understand that beliefs are thoughts we believe are true. They are not necessarily THE truth. They are a truth. And they can be changed if they don't serve the version of reality that you would like to espouse (again, do not take my words as incitement to live in denial). We all live in some level of denial. Fourth, know that your ego lies to you constantly, to "protect you". Fifth, recognise your wounds and scars so that you can take responsibility for your triggers. I share two examples of true spiritual guidance that was gifted to me by psychic mediums in the episode and I encourage you to listen to it to find out about them. Where can you get this guidance from? Some psychic mediums, although remember that they can only impart guidance to their own level of wisdom or slightly higher, but not much. They two can be blinded by their own beliefs. I remember a psychic telling me how lovely my second husband was and what a good man he was, when it turned out he abused me repeatedly and I was not safe in that relationship. Not ideal. Ultimately, run that guidance through your own intuition, unless of course that guidance came directly from your intuition. Be warned, though, that your ego is incredibly clever and it can pretend to be your intuition. It is a master of disguise. Last, let go of the idea of vengeance. We do not want vigilantes. Leave that to the legal system or divine justice. And if, sadly, you are in an abusive relationship of any nature, with a parent, child, boss, friend or partner, I invite you to watch videos by Dr Ramani on YouTube. If you would like a reading with me, I am offering all podcast listeners a 50% discount on my half hour sessions, if they have never worked with me. To hear the discount code, listen to the episode, then use this link to book your session.