Ep. 372: The Sex Talk You Never Had with Your Parents with Vanessa and Xander Marin

Talking about sex is a tricky situation. Most of us had a brief and most likely awkward sex-talk with our parents at some point, and were then left to figure out the rest by ourselves. Movies, books, and porn make up some of our first experiences with sex—how we should feel about it and what it should look like—which has left us all with a lot of baggage and confusion. Sex shouldn’t feel like pressure or performance, it should be fun! We were lucky enough to talk to sex therapist Vanessa Marin, and her business partner and husband, Xander Marin, about their work to destigmatize sex talk and keep the spark alive in sex lives everywhere!A non-awkward way to ask questions about sex [2:18]Becoming a dynamic duo [4:28]The decision to build a personal brand [7:11]What makes talking about sex so hard? [11:46]Two different types of sex drives [15:34]False portrayals of sex in media [20:01]Requests disguised as questions [23:14]Initiation and rejection [26:58]Feeling obligated to give sex to your partner [33:12]Working around differing arousal templates [35:25]Navigating life and business with a partner [39:13] Fuck First and making sex a priority [44:50]What really kills libido [48:55]The sexual conditioning and pressure put on men [51:04]What happens when we have open conversations about sex [57:44]A nightly make-out session [1:00:56]Buy the Sex Talks book: sextalksbook.comFollow Vanessa and Xander on IG: @vanessaandxanderDon’t forget to leave us a review and subscribe so you never have to miss an episode! Comments and questions can also be sent to [email protected], and you can head to thebestlifepodcast.com to join our Facebook Group.FOLLOW US ON IG: @TheBestLifePodcastFOLLOW JILL: @jillfitFOLLOW DANNY J: @dannyjdotcomYou can also follow us on Facebook@Jill Coleman@Danny-JAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy