The Best Life Podcast

Back for the third time since his original introduction 7 years ago, today we’re talking to Mr. JillFit himself, Keith Lockwood. At the beginning of Jill’s and Keith’s relationship, neither one wanted to get married. We all know how that turned out. What changed? What caused the change of heart, for both Jill and Keith? Change is a gradual process—with therapy and working on communications skills, the Lockwoods are building their Best Lives and Best Marriage together.Changing our minds about marriage [1:59]Learning communication in therapy [8:04]Men’s vs. women’s communication styles [16:25]Childhood examples of communication [20:17]Are men threatened by powerful women? [23:28]What makes a good man [33:41]I don’t need you, but I do want you [40:21]Self-abandonment [52:15]Subscribe to The Lighthouse Lettershttps://dannyjdotcom.substack.com/Don’t forget to leave us a review and subscribe so you never have to miss an episode! Comments and questions can also be sent to [email protected], and you can head to thebestlifepodcast.com to join our Facebook Group.FOLLOW US ON IG: @TheBestLifePodcastFOLLOW JILL: @jillfitFOLLOW DANNY J: @dannyjdotcomYou can also follow us on Facebook@Jill Coleman@Danny-JAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

As AI gets more advanced, we’re seeing an influx of AI “influencers” and it’s getting hard to tell, y’all. And even when we know an account is AI, we still find ourselves comparing our looks and lives to the fake ones, and feeling shitty in the process. We know that “83 year old model” is fake, but she’s still #goals. Unfortunately, we still live in a society that conflates our worth with our looks, and the goal posts just keep moving father back as editing and fake content just keeps flooding our feeds. As much as we wish we could opt out of the beauty rat-race entirely, we find ourselves stuck in it time and time again. But hey, we’re at least trying to own it.Two types of entrepreneurs [1:57]AI content is taking over [5:25]Differentiating human-made content [7:40]Does the end justify the means? [9:55]Who decides where the line is? [13:18]The struggles of new generations [15:14]Classism in the beauty industry [20:20]Our social worth is tied to how we look [23:52]Trying to remain optimistic, despite the horrors [28:25]Knowing what battles are worth it [32:30]Subscribe to The Lighthouse Lettershttps://dannyjdotcom.substack.com/Don’t forget to leave us a review and subscribe so you never have to miss an episode! Comments and questions can also be sent to [email protected], and you can head to thebestlifepodcast.com to join our Facebook Group.FOLLOW US ON IG: @TheBestLifePodcastFOLLOW JILL: @jillfitFOLLOW DANNY J: @dannyjdotcomYou can also follow us on Facebook@Jill Coleman@Danny-JAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Some entrepreneurs would have you believe that the only way to be successful is by grinding 24/7. We’re not so sure. There’s certainly a time and place for working long hours, but if that’s all you ever do, it’s going to kick you in the ass at some point. A busy needs rest at some point, and is it even possible to be working at maximum efficiency every moment of every day? In any case, extremes will keep cycling back and forth from too much to not enough, and back again. We’ll just keep living our Best Life.A European excursion [0:54]A summer romance? [12:46]Low rise jeans are coming back [17:13]What it takes to get to the top [22:38]Fast isn’t the only option [25:39]How effective is your work day? [30:05]Scarcity in start up culture [34:11]Sustainability over the long term [36:54]Everything comes back around eventually [42:17]Subscribe to The Lighthouse Lettershttps://dannyjdotcom.substack.com/Don’t forget to leave us a review and subscribe so you never have to miss an episode! Comments and questions can also be sent to [email protected], and you can head to thebestlifepodcast.com to join our Facebook Group.FOLLOW US ON IG: @TheBestLifePodcastFOLLOW JILL: @jillfitFOLLOW DANNY J: @dannyjdotcomYou can also follow us on Facebook@Jill Coleman@Danny-JAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Trolls are everywhere online. No one can escape them and everyone hates them, but what if trolls are only trolls because they hate themselves? We all know the old adage that hurt people hurt people, and internet bullies are no different. People can take all the pain and suffering they’ve been feeling and use it to fuel their hate comments. The algorithms prioritize and push that hate, and with the added bonus of being able to hide behind anonymous accounts, it’s never been easy to take out your internal pain on random internet strangers. But internal pain or not, it’s still a load of bullshit to unload your suffering to whoever crosses your path online.The psychology behind troll accounts [2:22]Even trolls can hurt your feelings [5:12]Anonymity makes us brave [8:48]More accountability is a good thing [13:30]When interest turns into obsession [18:03]A hate-following epidemic [22:14]Haters aren’t going anywhere [28:06]Learning to tune out the comments [30:42]Subscribe to The Lighthouse Lettershttps://dannyjdotcom.substack.com/Don’t forget to leave us a review and subscribe so you never have to miss an episode! Comments and questions can also be sent to [email protected], and you can head to thebestlifepodcast.com to join our Facebook Group.FOLLOW US ON IG: @TheBestLifePodcastFOLLOW JILL: @jillfitFOLLOW DANNY J: @dannyjdotcomYou can also follow us on Facebook@Jill Coleman@Danny-JAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

We’re pretty sensitive to cheating and the harm it causes a person (we’ll give you three guesses as to why) so we found ourselves wondering if are crushes ever okay while you’re still in a relationship? There’s no stopping the rush of feelings when it comes to having a crush, but we do have some say over our actions and every single one of us knows when too far becomes too far. Fantasizing may not be a red flag, but hiding and secrecy sure are. Look, when it comes to crushes, we think the best course of action is pretty damn simple: don’t fucking do anything that you wouldn’t want your partner to do to you.Finding formal attire [1:22]Focusing on our potential for finances [4:27] You can’t control a crush [7:47]Is having a crush mean something is wrong in your relationship? [10:12]An emotional attachment is a slippery slope [12:17]Are you hiding this person from your partner? [16:45]Pulling away from a chemical rush [18:50]When does fantasy go too far? [21:36]Drawing the line at progression [23:41]The grass is always greener [26:10]Subscribe to The Lighthouse Lettershttps://dannyjdotcom.substack.com/Don’t forget to leave us a review and subscribe so you never have to miss an episode! Comments and questions can also be sent to [email protected], and you can head to thebestlifepodcast.com to join our Facebook Group.FOLLOW US ON IG: @TheBestLifePodcastFOLLOW JILL: @jillfitFOLLOW DANNY J: @dannyjdotcomYou can also follow us on Facebook@Jill Coleman@Danny-JAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Knowing your partner’s sexual fantasies has the possibility to be really really hot, or really really off-putting. Fantasy can mean a lot of things to different people—some may want their fantasies to stay in their heads, and some may want to try them out—so if you and your lover aren’t aligned, shit can get tricky. Sex is vulnerable enough already, and if being honest about what gets you off brings you closer together, we’re all for that. But if you uncover some freaky secrets… just know that you can never unlearn them.Mid-day masturbation [3:01]The effort of sexting [4:36]AI in advertising [7:53]Sharing your fantasies with your partner [13:10]There are some kinks you may not want to know [15:34]Knowing too much about your partner [19:14]What’s the utility in sharing? [21:26]Minimum effective dosing [24:44]Subscribe to The Lighthouse Lettershttps://dannyjdotcom.substack.com/Don’t forget to leave us a review and subscribe so you never have to miss an episode! Comments and questions can also be sent to [email protected], and you can head to thebestlifepodcast.com to join our Facebook Group.FOLLOW US ON IG: @TheBestLifePodcastFOLLOW JILL: @jillfitFOLLOW DANNY J: @dannyjdotcomYou can also follow us on Facebook@Jill Coleman@Danny-JAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Trying to find love has been a shit show since… well, forever. We’re just getting better and better with age, but the dating scene, and let’s be honest, men in general, seem to be getting worse. Dating apps are dead, singles events make us feel like pigs being sold for slaughter, and meeting someone out in the wild is next to impossible. Even if you meet someone, the chance that they know what they want in a relationship, are emotionally mature, AND you find them attractive is rare, too. All that said, we’re still holding on to hope that the right person is out there. Cynicism feels safe, but we still believe in magic.We’re too old and tired for NYC [2:05]A less than stellar AI event [6:51]No more ice-breaker activities [15:24]Lore-dumping [20:19]Living your “truth” [23:21]Men aren’t suffering enough [25:15]The state of dating apps [30:02]Attempting to stay optimistic [35:10]Safety in cynicism [37:01]Love can’t be understood via algorithm [41:01]Where do you even meet people now? [42:20]Re-building communities [45:36]Marketing ourselves [51:43]Subscribe to The Lighthouse Lettershttps://dannyjdotcom.substack.com/Don’t forget to leave us a review and subscribe so you never have to miss an episode! Comments and questions can also be sent to [email protected], and you can head to thebestlifepodcast.com to join our Facebook Group.FOLLOW US ON IG: @TheBestLifePodcastFOLLOW JILL: @jillfitFOLLOW DANNY J: @dannyjdotcomYou can also follow us on Facebook@Jill Coleman@Danny-JAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

We would probably all agree that listening in on your partner’s therapy sessions or reading their journals is wrong, but what about reading their ChatGPT history? More and more people are working through issues in their personal lives using their AI chatbots as a journal-meets-therapist, and that might include relationship issues. And when someone inevitably finds some less than flattering information about themselves typed out to their partner’s own personal robot… shit gets sticky. Everyone is entitled to their privacy, but with new technologies, do new lines need to be drawn?Walking around with a lady boner [1:02]A very special wedding [7:30]Being seen from your bad side [13:35]Seeing your partner’s ChatGPT history [16:45]An erosion of safety [20:12]Is there an obligation to communicate every little issue? [23:28]Eavesdropping on someone’s therapy [29:39]The dangers of substituting therapy with AI [31:21]We should all share less [34:41]Owning your thoughts and feelings [36:21]I Stumbled Across My Boyfriend's ChatGPT and It Ended Our Relationship - Lindsay Hall WritesSubscribe to The Lighthouse Lettershttps://dannyjdotcom.substack.com/Don’t forget to leave us a review and subscribe so you never have to miss an episode! Comments and questions can also be sent to [email protected], and you can head to thebestlifepodcast.com to join our Facebook Group.FOLLOW US ON IG: @TheBestLifePodcastFOLLOW JILL: @jillfitFOLLOW DANNY J: @dannyjdotcomYou can also follow us on Facebook@Jill Coleman@Danny-JAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Are we old now? Because we can’t remember anything anymore. Maybe it’s because of our hormones, or maybe it’s early-onset dementia, or maybe (okay, almost definitely) it’s due to our algorithm-trained brains forgetting how to focus on anything for more than 1.7 seconds. No matter the true cause, we feel stupid and we hate it. Are we alone in this, or are you struggling too, Bestie?Celebrity train wrecks [1:53]Our memories are fading [5:43]Forgetting the facts of our own lives [8:43]Maybe we’re just stupid [11:43]A million things competing for our attention [14:00]Is it our brains, or is it something else? [19:35]What’s important to us [24:15]Names and faces out of context [29:21]Subscribe to The Lighthouse Lettershttps://dannyjdotcom.substack.com/Don’t forget to leave us a review and subscribe so you never have to miss an episode! Comments and questions can also be sent to [email protected], and you can head to thebestlifepodcast.com to join our Facebook Group.FOLLOW US ON IG: @TheBestLifePodcastFOLLOW JILL: @jillfitFOLLOW DANNY J: @dannyjdotcomYou can also follow us on Facebook@Jill Coleman@Danny-JAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Nobody likes a girl who hates on other girls, especially for the benefit of men. Once upon a time, when we were younger, we would brag about how we “weren’t like other girls,” but now we know better. Our female friendships have saved us from our darkest moments, and we’d be honored to be exactly like other women. Femininity isn’t a weakness—it’s strength to find beauty and connection even in the darkest times. We don’t hate the “pick-me” girls out there, but we do feel kind of embarrassed for them.The Bird Life [1:20]Pick-me behavior [4:56]Taking up a misogynist narrative [7:57]Our female friendships have saved us [9:19]Seeing femininity as weakness [11:29]Internalized self-hatred [13:42]Finding an appreciation for beauty [16:40]Gaining maturity [21:41]Subscribe to The Lighthouse Lettershttps://dannyjdotcom.substack.com/Don’t forget to leave us a review and subscribe so you never have to miss an episode! Comments and questions can also be sent to [email protected], and you can head to thebestlifepodcast.com to join our Facebook Group.FOLLOW US ON IG: @TheBestLifePodcastFOLLOW JILL: @jillfitFOLLOW DANNY J: @dannyjdotcomYou can also follow us on Facebook@Jill Coleman@Danny-JAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Our algorithms feed us the things we consume the most, and unfortunately for us, we love looking at memes about men being evil. But as funny as the people of the internet are, we do want to be mindful of what we’re consuming because what consumer colors our perception of the world—and believe it or not, we don’t actually hate men. But the same thing is true for memes about being broke, fat, ugly, or any other negative thing we could call ourselves. If we take too much of it in, it starts to become our reality, and that’s not the Best Life we dreamed for ourselves, all those years ago.In the new studio [0:59]The importance of meeting your neighbors [3:08]You create what you consume [6:04]Relating to a reality you don’t want [9:06]It’s hard to look away from a train-wreck [12:22]We all need higher standards [13:51]Making peace with being alone [15:42]Don’t let things outside your control ruin your life [18:13]When are we crossing into delusion? [25:50]What reality do you want to have? [30:05]Money isn’t moral [34:04]Knowing who your true friends are [39:59]Don’t let your algorithm happen to you [42:41]Subscribe to The Lighthouse Lettershttps://dannyjdotcom.substack.com/Don’t forget to leave us a review and subscribe so you never have to miss an episode! Comments and questions can also be sent to [email protected], and you can head to thebestlifepodcast.com to join our Facebook Group.FOLLOW US ON IG: @TheBestLifePodcastFOLLOW JILL: @jillfitFOLLOW DANNY J: @dannyjdotcomYou can also follow us on Facebook@Jill Coleman@Danny-JAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

No one is more dramatic than a man who gets his advances rejected. We don’t mean to speak for every woman, but also… we’re pretty sure every single woman has either had an experience where a man lashed out at her for saying no, or she had to lie instead of saying no out of fear of backlash. We’ve heard men complain that they “can’t even approach women in public anymore” but we have no problem with being approached! The issue is that men just don’t seem to be able to take “no” for an answer. Our advice to men? Just be normal. Please, for the love of god, just be fucking normal. Jill’s big move [1:54]Long drives and nights in the hot tub [5:25]No one is more emotional than a man who gets rejected [8:34]When someone says no, walk away [15:35]Saying yes out of fear of what comes after the no [17:33]Just be normal [24:59]It doesn’t have to be personal [29:37]Just be a bitch [32:25]Subscribe to The Lighthouse Lettershttps://dannyjdotcom.substack.com/Don’t forget to leave us a review and subscribe so you never have to miss an episode! Comments and questions can also be sent to [email protected], and you can head to thebestlifepodcast.com to join our Facebook Group.FOLLOW US ON IG: @TheBestLifePodcastFOLLOW JILL: @jillfitFOLLOW DANNY J: @dannyjdotcomYou can also follow us on Facebook@Jill Coleman@Danny-JAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Break ups are hard enough as it is, but the longer you’re with someone, the more of a logistical mess it is to end your relationship. There are finances, housing, and even family members to consider as you separate your lives—but none of those are good reasons to stay if your heart is already telling you to go. We won’t lie to you, Bestie, it’s going to be hard. You just have to trust yourself to handle the hard stuff one day at a time, and know that you deserve happiness and peace… and sometimes the quickest way there is through the messy middle. Why is everything so damn expensive? [2:04]The logistics of a breakup [7:33]Sometimes the most fair thing is to leave [10:15]The first decision is the hardest [12:50]You can’t predict the outcome [17:13]A relationship is made up of two people [18:55]The only thing you owe people is the truth [20:13]Trust yourself to take it one step at a time [22:10]You don’t have to make the decision right this second [27:23]Subscribe to The Lighthouse Lettershttps://dannyjdotcom.substack.com/Don’t forget to leave us a review and subscribe so you never have to miss an episode! Comments and questions can also be sent to [email protected], and you can head to thebestlifepodcast.com to join our Facebook Group.FOLLOW US ON IG: @TheBestLifePodcastFOLLOW JILL: @jillfitFOLLOW DANNY J: @dannyjdotcomYou can also follow us on Facebook@Jill Coleman@Danny-JAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Being in love is great and all, but the real benefit to being in a relationship is the opportunity to split costs. It’s ridiculously expensive just to be alive, which leaves single people unfairly disadvantaged—they have to take care of everything on their own. And it’s not just the financial burden you face when you’re single, there are social struggles, too. While everyone else has a person to celebrate the ups with and get support from during the downs, you have to ride the waves mostly on your own. We think it’s time to start sending a little more support to your single friends… and maybe a few hundred bucks, while you’re at it.An awful first date [2:13]Everything costs more when you’re single [8:28]Making time to celebrate your people [12:34]No where is left that’s affordable [14:21]The older generations aren’t keeping up with the times [18:36]Wanting to celebrate with someone [20:28]You have to allow people to show up for you [24:16]Thoughts on divorce registries [24:52]Starting from scratch costs an arm and a leg [27:28]Subscribe to The Lighthouse Lettershttps://dannyjdotcom.substack.com/Don’t forget to leave us a review and subscribe so you never have to miss an episode! Comments and questions can also be sent to [email protected], and you can head to thebestlifepodcast.com to join our Facebook Group.FOLLOW US ON IG: @TheBestLifePodcastFOLLOW JILL: @jillfitFOLLOW DANNY J: @dannyjdotcomYou can also follow us on Facebook@Jill Coleman@Danny-JAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

We all probably agree that men, as a group, need to be going to therapy. But when it comes to your individual man… is it okay to demand that they go? We know firsthand exactly how therapy can make relationships better so of course we’d want our partners to try it out, but therapy still carries a lot of stigma, especially to men. We can try to lead them to therapy, but there’s no good outcome when forcing it, so your best bet is to draw your line in the sand, and be willing to let the chips fall, even if it means walking away. You deserve a partner who values you, Bestie.Danny’s new bangs [0:51]Asking your partner to go to therapy [3:38]Continuing to de-stigmatize therapy [5:48]Know what your goal is [8:25]A you issue, a me issue, or a we issue [10:58]“Fix this or I’m leaving” [13:13]Being honest about your line in the sand [15:32]No one wants a mother-child dynamic [18:22]Easier said than done [20:43]You can’t always control the outcome [24:41]Men struggle understanding their feelings [27:04]Walking away with self respect [33:13]Being aware of someone’s capacity [34:20]Subscribe to The Lighthouse Lettershttps://dannyjdotcom.substack.com/Don’t forget to leave us a review and subscribe so you never have to miss an episode! Comments and questions can also be sent to [email protected], and you can head to thebestlifepodcast.com to join our Facebook Group.FOLLOW US ON IG: @TheBestLifePodcastFOLLOW JILL: @jillfitFOLLOW DANNY J: @dannyjdotcomYou can also follow us on Facebook@Jill Coleman@Danny-JAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

We’ve chosen not to have children of our own, but would we date a man with kids? Becoming a step-parent is no joke—it’s a lot of responsibility, often with very little credit, and you’ll rarely, if ever, be the priority in your partner’s life. All of that goes double if the kids in question are under age 10, too. There’s a special place in heaven for people willing to take that on, but at this point, it ain’t gonna be us. Dating someone who has kids [1:47]Being a step-parent is rough [4:57]A different level of responsibility [7:48]Looking for red flags [11:07]What’s Danny’s type now? [15:19]Have older men given up? [19:26]Subscribe to The Lighthouse Lettershttps://dannyjdotcom.substack.com/Don’t forget to leave us a review and subscribe so you never have to miss an episode! Comments and questions can also be sent to [email protected], and you can head to thebestlifepodcast.com to join our Facebook Group.FOLLOW US ON IG: @TheBestLifePodcastFOLLOW JILL: @jillfitFOLLOW DANNY J: @dannyjdotcomYou can also follow us on Facebook@Jill Coleman@Danny-JAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

We’ve been friends for a decade now and we’re not at all the same people we were when we met. Luckily, we’ve grown together, but not every friendship is so lucky. Sometimes we travel in an entirely different direction from our loved ones and it makes maintaining a relationship tricky, and sometimes that growing apart leads to a friendship breakup. Whether you slowly go ghost or have “the talk” is ultimately up to you, but we always advocate for leaving things open—you’ve grown apart now, but you could always grow back together in the future.Hyrox and leaving Vegas [2:06]Outgrowing a friend [10:16]Letting the friendship fade away slowly [12:44]People change over time [15:26]Asymmetrical friendships [16:57]Be ready to let the chips fall [20:26]Let the friendship evolve [24:40]Subscribe to The Lighthouse Lettershttps://dannyjdotcom.substack.com/Don’t forget to leave us a review and subscribe so you never have to miss an episode! Comments and questions can also be sent to [email protected], and you can head to thebestlifepodcast.com to join our Facebook Group.FOLLOW US ON IG: @TheBestLifePodcastFOLLOW JILL: @jillfitFOLLOW DANNY J: @dannyjdotcomYou can also follow us on Facebook@Jill Coleman@Danny-JAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

When’s the last time you looked into your cringe archive? Everyone who has a personal brand has to go through some less than perfect posts before they get better—it’s a rite of passage. Too many people quit before they even begin because they’re too embarrassed to be seen posting something “cringe,” but you have to be willing to be cringe if you want to be seen and to make a difference. We’ve all been cringe at one point or another… Hell, we’re *still* cringe, but we show up and share our lives, and that’s what really matters to us.Danny J’s name change [0:56]A marriage mishap [5:33]Your cringe archive [9:13]Cringe just keeps happening [12:16]The phone followed us everywhere in 2017 [13:24]Cringe is most cringe-worthy to ourselves [17:12]You have to start in order to get better [19:50]Subscribe to The Lighthouse Lettershttps://dannyjdotcom.substack.com/Don’t forget to leave us a review and subscribe so you never have to miss an episode! Comments and questions can also be sent to [email protected], and you can head to thebestlifepodcast.com to join our Facebook Group.FOLLOW US ON IG: @TheBestLifePodcastFOLLOW JILL: @jillfitFOLLOW DANNY J: @dannyjdotcomYou can also follow us on Facebook@Jill Coleman@Danny-JAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Have you ever seen a course being sold by someone who teaches you how to sell courses about building courses? We love the internet business space and we think there’s so much good shit out there you can learn, but unfortunately for as many honest and hard working entrepreneurs there are, there are even more scammers, grifters, and snake oil salespeople. Sure, you can make a great living online, but it’s never been as simple as just “make a course and then sell tons of units,” as much as we’d like it to be. Selling courses, building an online business, and developing a personal brand is tough work, and anyone who tells you otherwise is lying. Or trying to sell you something. Most likely, they’re lying in order to sell you something. Selling courses about selling courses [3:49]If it was that simple, everyone would do it [6:50]It lacks integrity [10:22]A course on how to make money on OnlyFans [12:22]Not everyone can have the same level of success [15:14]We attract who we are [18:29]The beginnings of a pyramid scheme [21:02]Do the ends always justify the means? [23:54]What worked for you won’t always work for me [26:44]Subscribe to The Lighthouse Lettershttps://dannyjdotcom.substack.com/Don’t forget to leave us a review and subscribe so you never have to miss an episode! Comments and questions can also be sent to [email protected], and you can head to thebestlifepodcast.com to join our Facebook Group.FOLLOW US ON IG: @TheBestLifePodcastFOLLOW JILL: @jillfitFOLLOW DANNY J: @dannyjdotcomYou can also follow us on Facebook@Jill Coleman@Danny-JAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

We know pretty-privilege exists, but is there another layer we haven’t been paying attention to? Some studies show that women who wear makeup make more money than their female counterparts that don’t. We’ve definitely noticed how much better people treat us when we look good—we do still live in a patriarchal society, after all—but is it worth it to start investing more money into your Sephora budget in order to get a raise at work? Whether it’s a case of feeling confident and therefore performing better, or just a case of good ol’ misogyny, this doesn’t feel like something we should ignore.Women who wear makeup are paid more [3:28]Grooming vs. pretty-privilege [6:49]Doing better when you look better [8:17]Are people putting more effort into their looks? [11:01]Everything is “viral” now [14:51]Looksmaxxing, softmaxxing, and hardmaxxing [15:58]Average is attractive [18:09]The difference teeth make [19:36]The energy component [21:37]Looks in business [25:06]Unfortunately, the patriarchy still reigns [28:43]Subscribe to The Lighthouse Lettershttps://dannyjdotcom.substack.com/Don’t forget to leave us a review and subscribe so you never have to miss an episode! Comments and questions can also be sent to [email protected], and you can head to thebestlifepodcast.com to join our Facebook Group.FOLLOW US ON IG: @TheBestLifePodcastFOLLOW JILL: @jillfitFOLLOW DANNY J: @dannyjdotcomYou can also follow us on Facebook@Jill Coleman@Danny-JAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Look, we’re not into asking permission from our partners to do anything, but there’s something to be said about being mindful of how they feel. Your partner’s feelings should (hopefully!) matter as much as your own, and if you can make them feel loved and cared about, why wouldn’t you? All that said, let’s get one thing straight: no man will ever stop us from doing what we want due to their insecurity.Asking your partner for permission to do something [3:01]Feeling some type of way [6:25]What’s the compromise? [9:13]Consideration without concessions [11:24]What is mine? vs. what is yours? [14:13]Subscribe to The Lighthouse Lettershttps://dannyjdotcom.substack.com/Don’t forget to leave us a review and subscribe so you never have to miss an episode! Comments and questions can also be sent to [email protected], and you can head to thebestlifepodcast.com to join our Facebook Group.FOLLOW US ON IG: @TheBestLifePodcastFOLLOW JILL: @jillfitFOLLOW DANNY J: @dannyjdotcomYou can also follow us on Facebook@Jill Coleman@Danny-JAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Not all men are evil monsters, but whenever we have a troll insulting our age or appearance… well, it’s always a man. Maybe it’s just because we have such incredible men in our lives, but it seems like the men of the internet are always bitter and rude, and it’s kind of breaking our hearts. We want to believe the best in men, but they’re making it really hard. The way we see it, there are only two options moving forward: we need to hold men to a higher standard, or we all need to become lesbians.The contrast in quality of men [4:13]We’re living in completely different worlds [7:59]Audacity in anonymity [10:25]Why is liking women considered “un-masculine”? [15:09]We need more (public) accountability [18:00]Holding a higher standard [22:48]Look out for the good men [24:55]Subscribe to The Lighthouse Lettershttps://dannyjdotcom.substack.com/Don’t forget to leave us a review and subscribe so you never have to miss an episode! Comments and questions can also be sent to [email protected], and you can head to thebestlifepodcast.com to join our Facebook Group.FOLLOW US ON IG: @TheBestLifePodcastFOLLOW JILL: @jillfitFOLLOW DANNY J: @dannyjdotcomYou can also follow us on Facebook@Jill Coleman@Danny-JAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

As we get older, we find ourselves looking back on our happiest memories and noticing that what makes them happy isn’t what we’re doing, but the people we’re with. Life can get monotonous, bogged down with the million-and-one little things we have to do to keep our lives running. That’s why it’s so important to keep in touch with loved ones—because without a community to share them with, our lives could pass us by. So we’re grateful for you, Bestie, and everyone else in our lives who make an effort to care about us, too, no matter how much time passes or how far away we get.Showing up for your people matters [1:23]Build your own community [5:22]Finding the bright spots in your own life [7:48]Make an effort to stay connected [12:58]Getting discerning about friendships [19:34]Way less fucks to give [26:19]Let people be there for you [28:44]Subscribe to The Lighthouse Lettershttps://dannyjdotcom.substack.com/Don’t forget to leave us a review and subscribe so you never have to miss an episode! Comments and questions can also be sent to [email protected], and you can head to thebestlifepodcast.com to join our Facebook Group.FOLLOW US ON IG: @TheBestLifePodcastFOLLOW JILL: @jillfitFOLLOW DANNY J: @dannyjdotcomYou can also follow us on Facebook@Jill Coleman@Danny-JAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Somewhere along the way, liking (or not liking) someone’s instagram posts has become an act of politics. We like the things we stand for—or at the very least, the things we want to be seen caring about. So when someone you care about doesn’t give your post that double tap, it feels vindictive. But then again, isn’t it possible someone just didn’t see it? In any case, if you cared about us at all, you’d like our posts. And if you really want to show us you care, then leave a comment, too. A new career for Danny [1:44]Do your friends and family need to interact with your content? [15:51]Are we “voting” with our likes? [19:03]People hate-following you [23:11]The politics of commenting [27:45]Public call-outs [33:05]Love this! [35:15]Subscribe to The Lighthouse Lettershttps://dannyjdotcom.substack.com/Don’t forget to leave us a review and subscribe so you never have to miss an episode! Comments and questions can also be sent to [email protected], and you can head to thebestlifepodcast.com to join our Facebook Group.FOLLOW US ON IG: @TheBestLifePodcastFOLLOW JILL: @jillfitFOLLOW DANNY J: @dannyjdotcomYou can also follow us on Facebook@Jill Coleman@Danny-JAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

It’s a brand new year, so now is the perfect time to think about what we want the next 365 days of our lives to look like. Things feel fresh and we’re finding ourselves craving some routine, so for this episode we did something we hardly ever do—we thought about what we were going to talk about ahead of time. So today, we’re sharing all of our “in’s” and “out’s” for 2026. We learned a lot in 2025, both personally and professionally, so there are things we’re eager to keep doing and things we’re ready to leave behind.The future will blow our minds [1:33]Craving routine at this time of year [5:43]2026 In’s and Out’s [9:24]The fear that good things will never last [10:48]No more “vanilla” content [13:13]Niceties for the sake of niceness is out [14:41]Building an identity separate from going through infidelity [19:26]Letting go of shame and self-hatred [24:06]New year, new last name [28:26]Taking really good care of ourselves [33:52]Being more unapologetic [36:52]Doubling down on our personal brands [44:24]Falling in love with Hyrox [47:38]Finding things to look forward to and work towards [49:54]Money and intentional travel [51:15]Showing up more on camera [55:42]Subscribe to The Lighthouse Lettershttps://dannyjdotcom.substack.com/Don’t forget to leave us a review and subscribe so you never have to miss an episode! Comments and questions can also be sent to [email protected], and you can head to thebestlifepodcast.com to join our Facebook Group.FOLLOW US ON IG: @TheBestLifePodcastFOLLOW JILL: @jillfitFOLLOW DANNY J: @dannyjdotcomYou can also follow us on Facebook@Jill Coleman@Danny-JAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

As we get deeper and deeper into our 40’s, we’re finding ourselves less impressed with whatever everyone else is up to. Flashy lives and high follower accounts feel kind of meaningless and we’re happy to watch the next generation make all the same mistakes we did and care about all the things we used to. Having a million followers doesn’t mean you have a million dollars, and having a million dollars doesn’t mean you’re even happy. We’ll stick to doing what feels right to us and having conversations with interesting people, instead of influential people. Getting our boobs checked out [3:50]Curating friendships in our 40’s [7:02]“Success” feels less impressive now [11:28]Visibility isn’t the same thing as success [14:48]We’re passing the baton [18:40]History repeats itself [20:51]You’re allowed to change your mind [24:48]The Best Life Live? [28:58]Subscribe to The Lighthouse Lettershttps://dannyjdotcom.substack.com/Don’t forget to leave us a review and subscribe so you never have to miss an episode! Comments and questions can also be sent to [email protected], and you can head to thebestlifepodcast.com to join our Facebook Group.FOLLOW US ON IG: @TheBestLifePodcastFOLLOW JILL: @jillfitFOLLOW DANNY J: @dannyjdotcomYou can also follow us on Facebook@Jill Coleman@Danny-JAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

2026 is tomorrow, so it’s out with the old and in with the new! Jill had a pretty great personal year while Danny-J had a pretty shitty one, so we’re wondering, what kind of year did you have? In any case, we’re feeling refreshed and excited for what 2026 has to offer us. Cheers to a new year, Besties!What the fuck is Hyrox? [2:01]Paying to pay attention [9:50]A weird year, all around [13:34]What we’re leaving behind, and what we’re adding in [15:59]Feeling lit up for the new year [21:19]Social media changes [24:49]Why we love Threads [30:39]The vibe for 2026 [31:59]Subscribe to The Lighthouse Lettershttps://dannyjdotcom.substack.com/Don’t forget to leave us a review and subscribe so you never have to miss an episode! Comments and questions can also be sent to [email protected], and you can head to thebestlifepodcast.com to join our Facebook Group.FOLLOW US ON IG: @TheBestLifePodcastFOLLOW JILL: @jillfitFOLLOW DANNY J: @dannyjdotcomYou can also follow us on Facebook@Jill Coleman@Danny-JAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Life is shitty to us in one way or another, no matter who we are or what we try to do to prevent it. It is, however, our choice on what to do about the shittiness. Blaming others, giving up, or leaving weird hate comments on Facebook isn’t going to make the pain of our pasts go away, so we have to own them and heal them in whatever ways we can. Maybe that looks like going to therapy, maybe it looks like doing ayahuasca in the jungle, or maybe it looks like getting plastic surgery in Vietnam. We’ve tried all three, Besties! The method doesn’t matter, just as long as we learn to accept what is and let things go when it’s time.Our hair journeys [0:58]Danny J’s psychic reading [7:13]Why are Facebook comments so nasty? [17:05]Are we asking for hate comments? [22:33]We have to heal ourselves [30:34]Exposing yourself to other perspectives [36:46]How to let things go [43:29]We all have a choice [49:52]Subscribe to The Lighthouse Lettershttps://dannyjdotcom.substack.com/Don’t forget to leave us a review and subscribe so you never have to miss an episode! Comments and questions can also be sent to [email protected], and you can head to thebestlifepodcast.com to join our Facebook Group.FOLLOW US ON IG: @TheBestLifePodcastFOLLOW JILL: @jillfitFOLLOW DANNY J: @dannyjdotcomYou can also follow us on Facebook@Jill Coleman@Danny-JAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

We’ve heard of quiet-quitting when it comes to work, but what about quiet-quitting your relationship?—not really leaving, but not putting in any effort beyond the bare minimum either. We saw something recently that claimed many women over 40 are quiet-quitting their marriages. Nothing good comes out of apathy or resentment, and it seems to us that this is where the seeds of infidelity get sewn. We’d be the first to tell you that marriage isn’t always sunshine and roses, but the way we see it, if you’re unhappy you should try to do what you can to make it work, and if it ain’t working then don’t hold someone else captive to your unhappiness. Life is going to suck in any situation, so might as well make the most of it, rather than staying put in a situation you hate.Bullshit holiday sales [0:48]Facebook Marketplace addiction [5:02]Gamifying purchases [9:05]A gown but no place to wear it [10:46]Date number 3 [13:12]Quiet-quitting your marriage [17:17]The beginnings of infidelity [19:35]Married people on dating apps [21:28]How hormones affect our feelings [25:10]Choosing unhappiness over uncertainty [28:00]Choose your hard [31:21]Making the best of any situation [37:50]Subscribe to The Lighthouse Lettershttps://dannyjdotcom.substack.com/Don’t forget to leave us a review and subscribe so you never have to miss an episode! Comments and questions can also be sent to [email protected], and you can head to thebestlifepodcast.com to join our Facebook Group.FOLLOW US ON IG: @TheBestLifePodcastFOLLOW JILL: @jillfitFOLLOW DANNY J: @dannyjdotcomYou can also follow us on Facebook@Jill Coleman@Danny-JAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

The holidays are around the corner and with visiting family inevitably comes arguing with your weird uncle about some insane thing happening in the news. There’s a time and place for walking away from discussions about politics—we can recommend this action highly—but maybe there’s a time for you to engage, too. All of us are more alike than we are different, and when we lead with curiosity and truly listen to others, finding common ground (and peace!) is possible, too. Unless the person you’re talking to is insane. We can’t help you there.No one likes a control freak [5:07]There’s some crazy news every day [9:19]When holding your tongue feels impossible [12:09]A battle of morals and self-righteousness [15:17]When to call it out and when to leave it alone [20:06]Actually listening to a different perspective [23:59]We’re more alike than we are different [26:55]It’s okay to keep your distance, too [28:12]Subscribe to The Lighthouse Lettershttps://dannyjdotcom.substack.com/Don’t forget to leave us a review and subscribe so you never have to miss an episode! Comments and questions can also be sent to [email protected], and you can head to thebestlifepodcast.com to join our Facebook Group.FOLLOW US ON IG: @TheBestLifePodcastFOLLOW JILL: @jillfitFOLLOW DANNY J: @dannyjdotcomYou can also follow us on Facebook@Jill Coleman@Danny-JAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Today, Jill and Danny dive into everything from TikTok earworms and the chaos of keeping up with new platforms to Danny’s new “50 First Dates With Myself” challenge that has completely reignited her creativity and joy on social media. Danny shares how the idea was born, her experience returning to TikTok after years away, and how her first official date set the tone for a year of intentional, elevated solo experiences. Planning meaningful dates matters in both single life and long-term relationships, and when you raise your standards with yourself, they naturally raise for what you expect from others. That’s why carving out novelty, play, and effort is essential for feeling alive—in love, in life, and in how you show up for yourself.Getting back on TikTok [2:17]What people think of Danny’s 50 first dates [4:19]The first few dates [8:30]Raising the standard for yourself [12:27]Life is too short not to celebrate [14:05]Breaking out of routine [17:21]Exploring a creative side [19:33]Something to get excited about [22:43]Making content doesn’t have to be complicated [26:07]Subscribe to The Lighthouse Lettershttps://dannyjdotcom.substack.com/Don’t forget to leave us a review and subscribe so you never have to miss an episode! Comments and questions can also be sent to [email protected], and you can head to thebestlifepodcast.com to join our Facebook Group.FOLLOW US ON IG: @TheBestLifePodcastFOLLOW JILL: @jillfitFOLLOW DANNY J: @dannyjdotcomYou can also follow us on Facebook@Jill Coleman@Danny-JAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Last week we talked about Jill’s big news, so this week we wanted to share Danny’s: she’s dating again! Except there’s one big catch—Danny is dating herself. No more waiting around for a man to go try new foods or do fun things, she’s going to take herself. And it’s not just doing activities alone, she’s dating herself with intentionality and presence. Connecting with others is always great, but connecting with yourself is everything.Going on 50 First dates [1:02]Why wait for a man to do the things you want to do? [2:23]The rules [4:33]Presence and intentionality [7:38]Sticking it out, even if you want to leave [10:07]Looking good for yourself [13:28]What does and doesn’t count as a date [16:05]Subscribe to The Lighthouse Lettershttps://dannyjdotcom.substack.com/Don’t forget to leave us a review and subscribe so you never have to miss an episode! Comments and questions can also be sent to [email protected], and you can head to thebestlifepodcast.com to join our Facebook Group.FOLLOW US ON IG: @TheBestLifePodcastFOLLOW JILL: @jillfitFOLLOW DANNY J: @dannyjdotcomYou can also follow us on Facebook@Jill Coleman@Danny-JAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Our girl Jill is married! For our OG Besties, you know what a wild ride it’s been—we started this podcast before Jill even met her now husband. We all couldn’t be happier for her, or more proud of her for having the courage to trust in love again. Of course, Jill’s wedding was beautiful and perfect, and we thought since our Besties have seen Jill through it all, you deserved to know how the day went, too.The difference between a girlfriend and a wife [5:07]An intimate wedding [8:11]The best dance night of our lives [12:50]Jill’s biggest regret and a secret wager [18:42]The best wedding ever [24:08]The vows and the first look [27:16]Having the courage to trust love one more time [31:02]Growing old with someone [40:38]Changing Jill’s last name [46:54]Setting up Danny with a new man [48:48]Subscribe to The Lighthouse Lettershttps://dannyjdotcom.substack.com/Don’t forget to leave us a review and subscribe so you never have to miss an episode! Comments and questions can also be sent to [email protected], and you can head to thebestlifepodcast.com to join our Facebook Group.FOLLOW US ON IG: @TheBestLifePodcastFOLLOW JILL: @jillfitFOLLOW DANNY J: @dannyjdotcomYou can also follow us on Facebook@Jill Coleman@Danny-JAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

There are some studies coming out that show young people—especially boys—are turning more and more towards AI for relationships instead of their peers. Yikes. Me are already lonely, and we think it has a lot to do with porn, technology, and social conditioning. If they’re outsourcing companionship to AI bots, it seems like it can only go down from here. We need real human interaction to build real human social skills, right? All we can say is good luck to the parents out there. The problems with turning to AI for companionship [3:35]Our brains are changing, in a bad way [7:21]Men have fewer emotionally fulfilling relationships [9:30]Why don’t men have friends? [14:12]We need human connection to build human social skills [16:02]Just be a nice person [20:12]Does change start with school? [25:07]Subscribe to The Lighthouse Lettershttps://dannyjdotcom.substack.com/Don’t forget to leave us a review and subscribe so you never have to miss an episode! Comments and questions can also be sent to [email protected], and you can head to thebestlifepodcast.com to join our Facebook Group.FOLLOW US ON IG: @TheBestLifePodcastFOLLOW JILL: @jillfitFOLLOW DANNY J: @dannyjdotcomYou can also follow us on Facebook@Jill Coleman@Danny-JAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

It’s somehow the era of the Trad Wife—at least on Threads and Twitter—and it seems like all the former Boss Babes are hanging up their blazers and turning them in for aprons. But does it really have to be just one or the other? We want to live soft lives, too, but we love working and getting shit done! Everyone has different goals for their lives, so while some women may be opting for a more “traditional role,” lets leave some room for all the others who want something else.Do strong women want to be “led”? [6:01]We got shit to do [9:19]Not everyone feels the same way [13:09]Time has hardened us more than we’d like [16:08]It’s hard to leave the past in the past [20:49]There are always strings attached [22:34]A rebellion against hustle culture [27:03]Subscribe to The Lighthouse Lettershttps://dannyjdotcom.substack.com/Don’t forget to leave us a review and subscribe so you never have to miss an episode! Comments and questions can also be sent to [email protected], and you can head to thebestlifepodcast.com to join our Facebook Group.FOLLOW US ON IG: @TheBestLifePodcastFOLLOW JILL: @jillfitFOLLOW DANNY J: @dannyjdotcomYou can also follow us on Facebook@Jill Coleman@Danny-JAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

We’re back in our Shenanigans Era! Okay maybe not, because we’ve really been home-bodies in recent years… but one thing we really miss from 2016-2018 is sharing our day-to-day lives with our followers. Having a strong personal brand is more important now than ever and part of building a personal brand is sharing what you’re up to! So even though we don’t get up to too much shenanigans anymore, we’re going to start sharing the same way we did all those years ago. Wanna join?The best way to stand out is to be you [2:35]Getting out of the habit of sharing [6:24]What to share and what to keep private [9:52]The content we love watching [12:09]Thinking about safety [15:06]Are filters making us uglier? [18:47]A personal branding challenge [20:06]Subscribe to The Lighthouse Lettershttps://dannyjdotcom.substack.com/Don’t forget to leave us a review and subscribe so you never have to miss an episode! Comments and questions can also be sent to [email protected], and you can head to thebestlifepodcast.com to join our Facebook Group.FOLLOW US ON IG: @TheBestLifePodcastFOLLOW JILL: @jillfitFOLLOW DANNY J: @dannyjdotcomYou can also follow us on Facebook@Jill Coleman@Danny-JAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

As we get older, we want to look and feel good for ourselves, but we kind of want to look good for our partners too! Men can be annoying as hell for sure, but men as a whole are not the same thing as the individual men in our lives, and that includes our partners. It’s not a crime to want to look hot for your significant other! Life is long and there are ways our appearances will change that we have no control over and of course we hope to be loved through all of those changes. Buuuuut that doesn’t mean we’ve given up on trying to be hot in the ways we can control. The chronically late personality type [2:51]The right time to get to the airport [9:11]Looking good for yourself AND your partner [11:36] Controlling the things you can control [15:41]The energetics of feeling hot [19:22]Compatible lifestyles [22:07]Sometimes we make it about looks when it isn’t [24:26]Subscribe to The Lighthouse Lettershttps://dannyjdotcom.substack.com/Don’t forget to leave us a review and subscribe so you never have to miss an episode! Comments and questions can also be sent to [email protected], and you can head to thebestlifepodcast.com to join our Facebook Group.FOLLOW US ON IG: @TheBestLifePodcastFOLLOW JILL: @jillfitFOLLOW DANNY J: @dannyjdotcomYou can also follow us on Facebook@Jill Coleman@Danny-JAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

We’ve talked about botox and plastic surgery on this podcast before and Besties know, we’re all for it. Maybe when we were younger we were on Team Aging Naturally, but now that we’re in our 40’s, small cosmetic enhancements make us feel beautiful and confident… Well, for the most part they do. But there are some cosmetic procedures that do more harm than good, especially one specific procedure Danny had done this summer, but we’ll leave that story for you to hear in the full episode. Aging naturally or with enhancements [1:14]Should we be getting Sculptra? [5:28]The ways we ruined our skin in our youth [8:27]Hairline surgery gone wrong [15:51]Healing takes longer than you want it to [35:24]Surgery is rough, no matter how minor [39:00]Subscribe to The Lighthouse Lettershttps://dannyjdotcom.substack.com/Don’t forget to leave us a review and subscribe so you never have to miss an episode! Comments and questions can also be sent to [email protected], and you can head to thebestlifepodcast.com to join our Facebook Group.FOLLOW US ON IG: @TheBestLifePodcastFOLLOW JILL: @jillfitFOLLOW DANNY J: @dannyjdotcomYou can also follow us on Facebook@Jill Coleman@Danny-JAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

We love having thoughtful and insightful conversations as much as the next people, but sometimes we just wanna shoot the shit. It’s been a hectic summer, so we wanted to sit down for an episode and talk about all the little things we’ve been thinking about lately. Having ChatGPT be our personal stylist [3:55]An obsession with Vans [5:59]Everyone loves retail therapy [9:23]Getting into F1 [12:52]An AI color analysis [24:05]What to wear to a wedding [29:01]Relationships in the age of AI [37:18]Putting your foot in your mouth [44:59]Subscribe to The Lighthouse Lettershttps://dannyjdotcom.substack.com/Don’t forget to leave us a review and subscribe so you never have to miss an episode! Comments and questions can also be sent to [email protected], and you can head to thebestlifepodcast.com to join our Facebook Group.FOLLOW US ON IG: @TheBestLifePodcastFOLLOW JILL: @jillfitFOLLOW DANNY J: @dannyjdotcomYou can also follow us on Facebook@Jill Coleman@Danny-JAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Our value systems are deeply personal and influence almost everything we do in our lives. We all have core values, whether they’re obvious to us or not. Getting clear on what our values are can help us find direction in work, play, love, and life. It’s often said that you teach people how to treat you, and with a defined set of values, you get to set the tone for your interactions and future choices. Not all things in this life can be important, and when you know what your core values are, you have the freedom to focus on what really matters to you.(This episode is a replay.)Why are values important? [1:59]Your values guide your expectations and your business [5:55]It’s nice to know what you stand for [8:39]Some questions to help you understand your own value system [10:22]You have to define what your values really mean to you [13:13]What are your anti-values? [15:21]Running tough decisions through your core values [17:36]Not everything can be important all the time [21:27]Subscribe to The Lighthouse Lettershttps://dannyjdotcom.substack.com/Don’t forget to leave us a review and subscribe so you never have to miss an episode! Comments and questions can also be sent to [email protected], and you can head to thebestlifepodcast.com to join our Facebook Group.FOLLOW US ON IG: @TheBestLifePodcastFOLLOW JILL: @jillfitFOLLOW DANNY J: @dannyjdotcomYou can also follow us on Facebook@Jill Coleman@Danny-JAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

We don’t normally talk about pop culture, but we just watched Unknown Number on Netflix and holy. fucking. shit. This episode is full of spoilers so if you haven’t watched yet, do it and report back! There are all sorts of fucked up people in the world and being able to hide behind screens and unknown numbers just makes the worst of us even bolder.We watched “Unknown Number” [1:39]Our theories [26:45]Cyber-stalking without consequences [38:38]Constant vigilance and fear [45:07]Subscribe to The Lighthouse Letters to hear about Danny’s Peru triphttps://dannyjdotcom.substack.com/Don’t forget to leave us a review and subscribe so you never have to miss an episode! Comments and questions can also be sent to [email protected], and you can head to thebestlifepodcast.com to join our Facebook Group.FOLLOW US ON IG: @TheBestLifePodcastFOLLOW JILL: @jillfitFOLLOW DANNY J: @dannyjdotcomYou can also follow us on Facebook@Jill Coleman@Danny-JAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Apparently, hating the same things is the mark of a great friendship. It makes sense—misery does love company. There’s something so freeing about getting to be the worst version of yourself in front of your friends and not only to be accepted, but for your base-level feelings to be validated. Life will always be full of some holier-than-thou-Kathys who “hate” gossip and find it “beneath” them, but Kathy is a bitch anyways and we have so much more fun hating her pretentious ass than she could ever imagine. No one is perfect all the time, and when we hate together, our friendships thrive. Seems like a win-win to us.The utility of gossip [0:59]Getting your hatred off your chest [3:09]Misery loves company [5:34]We hate Costco [7:56]Bonding over the things you love [9:24]Sand up the vagina [13:14]Letting your friends see the worst side of you [19:34]Some holier-than-thou people [24:44]We all have moments that aren’t our best [28:47]Subscribe to The Lighthouse Letters to hear about Danny’s Peru triphttps://dannyjdotcom.substack.com/Don’t forget to leave us a review and subscribe so you never have to miss an episode! Comments and questions can also be sent to [email protected], and you can head to thebestlifepodcast.com to join our Facebook Group.FOLLOW US ON IG: @TheBestLifePodcastFOLLOW JILL: @jillfitFOLLOW DANNY J: @dannyjdotcomYou can also follow us on Facebook@Jill Coleman@Danny-JAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Yeah, you read that title correctly. Danny-J went to the infamous Burning Man festival. We’ve been skeptics for years, but curiosity finally won out, and we wish we could say it was a great experience. Burning Man was fine, but there may or may not have been some unexpected bumps along the way. People always say, “you don’t get the Burn you want, you get the Burn you need,” but that’s left us with more questions than answers. Burning Man’s Reputation [1:52]Getting to Burning Man [7:46]Stuck in jail [16:20]The sights and sounds [17:41]Nextdoor to the orgy tent [23:39]Drugs passed from mouth to mouth [25:51]Not the Burn you want, the Burn you need [28:44]Freedom and non-judgement [30:38]A fine experience [34:50]Getting a call from jail [36:08]Hitting rock bottom [39:58]Subscribe to The Lighthouse Letters to hear about Danny’s Peru triphttps://dannyjdotcom.substack.com/Don’t forget to leave us a review and subscribe so you never have to miss an episode! Comments and questions can also be sent to [email protected], and you can head to thebestlifepodcast.com to join our Facebook Group.FOLLOW US ON IG: @TheBestLifePodcastFOLLOW JILL: @jillfitFOLLOW DANNY J: @dannyjdotcomYou can also follow us on Facebook@Jill Coleman@Danny-JAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

We’ve lived enough life by now to know that shame is never helpful. Sometimes when bad things happen to us as a result of our choices, some asshole hits us with the, “well, you did this to yourself.” No shit, Sherlock. Just because our choices led to less than desirable outcomes, doesn’t mean we can’t feel bad about it. Shaming anyone for the things they did or didn’t do won’t rewrite the past, and it certainly doesn’t make them feel better. Shaming someone like that only makes them hate you. And it’s always easy to judge people’s misfortunes until one day, you’ll have some misfortune of your own.There are no lessons [2:02]How we’re stretching our brains [4:09]Mountain biking, in the jungle [8:52]The tedium of running [11:36]You did this to yourself [15:48]Shame doesn’t help anyone [21:44]Holding space for others and yourself [25:00]Looking for validation of our choices [26:57]It’s hard to hate up close [30:37]Balancing accountability [33:07]It’s all the luck of the draw [35:48]People will judge anything [38:13]Subscribe to The Lighthouse Letters to hear about Danny’s Peru triphttps://dannyjdotcom.substack.com/Don’t forget to leave us a review and subscribe so you never have to miss an episode! Comments and questions can also be sent to [email protected], and you can head to thebestlifepodcast.com to join our Facebook Group.FOLLOW US ON IG: @TheBestLifePodcastFOLLOW JILL: @jillfitFOLLOW DANNY J: @dannyjdotcomYou can also follow us on Facebook@Jill Coleman@Danny-JAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Our Jill is getting married 🥹 If you’ve been a listener from the beginning, you’ll know what a big deal this is and just how proud we are. To celebrate Jill’s Final Fiesta (IYKYK), Danny-J planned a wild bachelorette trip in Cabo. And by wild, we mean incredibly tame and everyone was in bed by 10. No, really. Life may not look how we thought it would in our 20’s and 30’s, but we’re so happy everything ended up the way it did. Danny joined a calisthenics gym [5:89]Going to bed early is the best [5:38]Jill’s bachelorette weekend [6:41]A chill spa day with friends [10:46]The pros of a small, intimate group [13:32]Feeling like a burden for asking people to travel [15:51]Drinking in our 40’s [19:52] Planning out the little details [23:16]A weekend without men [26:41]Subscribe to The Lighthouse Letters to hear about Danny’s Peru triphttps://dannyjdotcom.substack.com/Don’t forget to leave us a review and subscribe so you never have to miss an episode! Comments and questions can also be sent to [email protected], and you can head to thebestlifepodcast.com to join our Facebook Group.FOLLOW US ON IG: @TheBestLifePodcastFOLLOW JILL: @jillfitFOLLOW DANNY J: @dannyjdotcomYou can also follow us on Facebook@Jill Coleman@Danny-JAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Much love and respect to the Gen Z hustlers out there, but that couldn’t be us. Maybe we’re getting lazy, or maybe we’re getting old, but either way, we don’t want to work anymore unless we absolutely have to. Life is too damn long—you can’t sprint this marathon! We’re too busy worrying about our parents getting crazy and the fact that bar soap is gross. We were more ambitious in our 20’s [2:20]Needing a deadline to get shit done [6:20]Enjoy the slow seasons [8:48]You can’t sprint a marathon [10:52]Our productivity tools [13:13]No toothpaste, no deodorant, no soap [16:58]Irish spring soap and lucky charms [21:01]The weird fall-out after loss [22:51]You can’t prevent or wait for death [32:13]Aging is so much more than what we look like [38:20]Subscribe to The Lighthouse Letters to hear about Danny’s Peru triphttps://dannyjdotcom.substack.com/Don’t forget to leave us a review and subscribe so you never have to miss an episode! Comments and questions can also be sent to [email protected], and you can head to thebestlifepodcast.com to join our Facebook Group.FOLLOW US ON IG: @TheBestLifePodcastFOLLOW JILL: @jillfitFOLLOW DANNY J: @dannyjdotcomYou can also follow us on Facebook@Jill Coleman@Danny-JAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Is everyone on Ozempic? Look, GLP-1s are a game changer for so many people’s health. People with metabolic dysfunction and chronic obesity are getting the help they need, which is amazing! Buuuut… let’s be honest with ourselves. It’s not just the chronically ill that are experimenting with weight loss drugs. Hey Bestie, it’s your body and you get to make the choice on whether or not you should try GLP-1s and we certainly won’t judge whatever choice you want to make. Just make sure you’re doing it for YOU, and not because everyone else is doing it.The Mexican water diet [0:58]Getting obsessive about walking [5:05]Using GLP-1s for maintenance [7:51]The “right” way to take them [10:08]It’s your body, your choice [16:04]Decide what’s worth it to you [23:16]Be aware of the side effects [28:27]Subscribe to The Lighthouse Letters to hear about Danny’s Peru triphttps://dannyjdotcom.substack.com/Don’t forget to leave us a review and subscribe so you never have to miss an episode! Comments and questions can also be sent to [email protected], and you can head to thebestlifepodcast.com to join our Facebook Group.FOLLOW US ON IG: @TheBestLifePodcastFOLLOW JILL: @jillfitFOLLOW DANNY J: @dannyjdotcomYou can also follow us on Facebook@Jill Coleman@Danny-JAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Modern life is just way too overstimulating. There’s more news flooding our feeds before we can even come to terms with what we’ve already seen and now we’re hearing things about people falling in love with their AIs? Between robot girlfriends and the now-infamous Coldplay Concert Cheating scandal, we feel more confused than ever about how to handle relationships in the digital age. Maybe we should just change our names, delete all our social media accounts, and disappear off-grid forever.Disappearing from the internet [3:24]Some wedding planning updates [6:26]Falling in love with an AI [8:41]A collective meme-ing of the Coldplay concert [12:07]A different perspective on finding out about infidelity [17:21]Hindsight is 20/20 [18:52]An adventure in Mexico [23:56]Getting a dog on an airplane [28:44]The government won’t make it easy [35:25]Subscribe to The Lighthouse Letters to hear about Danny’s Peru triphttps://dannyjdotcom.substack.com/Don’t forget to leave us a review and subscribe so you never have to miss an episode! Comments and questions can also be sent to [email protected], and you can head to thebestlifepodcast.com to join our Facebook Group.FOLLOW US ON IG: @TheBestLifePodcastFOLLOW JILL: @jillfitFOLLOW DANNY J: @dannyjdotcomYou can also follow us on Facebook@Jill Coleman@Danny-JAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Have you noticed an increase in discourse about why (or why not) birth rates are declining in America? We see a lot of blame directed towards women—things like, “women are too superficial” or “women aren’t willing to make sacrifices” or “women won’t date broke men.” Whatever the reason is, it’s a whole lot of bullshit and not a whole lot of men taking responsibility. The idea that women are gold-diggers is tired and frankly, untrue. What women really want is careers, flexibility and time to pursue hobbies, and male partners that don’t treat us like shit. Maybe the real reason women don’t want to have kids is because men aren’t interested in being good dads. But what do we know? We’re just a couple of dried up gold-diggers, right?Old fears brought up by big commitment [3:42]“Radical monogamy” [8:09]Do women only like men with money? [12:13]We tend to date people with similar status to us [17:43]Setting your children’s expectations [21:38]Look at the quality of men out in the world [25:29]A low self-esteem epidemic [28:07]Subscribe to The Lighthouse Letters to hear about Danny’s Peru triphttps://dannyjdotcom.substack.com/Don’t forget to leave us a review and subscribe so you never have to miss an episode! Comments and questions can also be sent to [email protected], and you can head to thebestlifepodcast.com to join our Facebook Group.FOLLOW US ON IG: @TheBestLifePodcastFOLLOW JILL: @jillfitFOLLOW DANNY J: @dannyjdotcomYou can also follow us on Facebook@Jill Coleman@Danny-JAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

The wellness industry needs to chill the fuck out. Everyone wants to live forever, but we haven’t heard any good reasons why we would want to. Look, we aren’t advocating for eating horribly, quitting exercise, doing hard drugs, or any other “unhealthy” choices but giving up every fun activity in life in hopes for a few more years seems like a major fucking bummer. We want long and healthy lives, yes, but not if that means living without any of the little things that make us happy. There’s only so much you can sacrifice in hopes of a longer life before it starts reducing the quality of your time. Our Best Life means finding a balance in it all.What the fuck is wrong with men? [4:29]The happiest people work on themselves [8:16]Trying to remain optimistic [10:34]Why live longer, if you aren’t having any fun? [13:37]Living unsustainably [16:57]How to find balance in life [21:43]Food is more than just fuel [23:54]The quantity/quality bell curve [28:50]You can’t change reality, so it’s best to accept it [31:27]Subscribe to The Lighthouse Letters to hear about Danny’s Peru triphttps://dannyjdotcom.substack.com/Don’t forget to leave us a review and subscribe so you never have to miss an episode! Comments and questions can also be sent to [email protected], and you can head to thebestlifepodcast.com to join our Facebook Group.FOLLOW US ON IG: @TheBestLifePodcastFOLLOW JILL: @jillfitFOLLOW DANNY J: @dannyjdotcomYou can also follow us on Facebook@Jill Coleman@Danny-JAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy