ep 4: the cost of chasing skinny, successful & perfect

Elisha Tamasi, known as The Polynesian Life Coach, is a confidence and self love coach helping women fall in love with the woman they see in the mirror and know they are worthy exactly as they are.After being fired from her dream job as an international flight attendant, Elisha hit rock bottom battling body shame, toxic relationships, and numbing out with alcohol, drugs, and food. Through deep inner healing, she rebuilt her relationship with herself, found unshakable confidence, and turned her pain into purpose.Today, she’s the founder of Destination Self Love, an online program guiding women home to themselves. Elisha runs the program through scholarships and brand sponsorships, making self love and confidence coaching accessible to women who may have never believed this kind of transformation was possible for them.connect with Elisha: THEPOLYNESIANLIFECOACH.COM📺watch and subscribe on youtubein this conversation, Leesh and i explore the themes of self-betrayal and self-abandonment, delving into personal journeys of self-discovery and the tools that can cultivate unshakable self-love!! we discuss the impact of self-sabotage, the pervasive feeling of 'not enough’ and the importance of self-reflection and awareness. Leesh shares her experiences with coaching and the significance of having someone believe in you before you can believe in yourself. we go through the importance of healing the inner child and creating a safe space for emotions, while also providing practical steps for self-validation and personal growth.what we explored this episode00:00 introducing Leesh01:40 the opposite of self-love04:40 hitting rock bottom06:25 so you’re saying my thoughts create my reality?12:00 help me believe that i am enough as i am!!13:54 props to Byron Katie’s The WORK15:40 how to break free from diet culture & self-hatred18:30 but i don’t know how to stop this negative pattern23:06 breaking the generational curse (blessing)27:50 reparenting 6-year-old Leesh29:20 how i can give myself what i seek in others33:20 how having a coach transformed Leesh’s life38:11 why some people wait for rock bottom to change44:26 watching Leesh at work50:27 you’re an actor in a movie.. what’s your script?50:58 powerful vs forceful emotions52:02 do affirmations even work?52:45 healing the root cause of body image issues57:48 everything is just an expression of love59:45 a message to all women struggling with not-enoughness1:03:00 the strongest force in the mind1:03:22 the “when i, then i” fallacy1:05:55 what success means to Leesh1:08:10 what success means to Dave1:10:22 what being “liberated” means to Leeshsome takeawaysthe journey of self-discovery often involves confronting past traumas.self-sabotage can stem from not listening to one's intuition.the feeling of 'not enough' is a very common struggle.breaking the cycle of self-doubt requires conscious effort and reflection.coaches play a vital role in helping individuals believe in themselves.awareness of one's thoughts and feelings is the first step towards change.healing the inner child is a powerful method for self-acceptance.investing in yourself can prevent hitting rock bottom.comfort can hinder growth and change.visualisation can help in achieving goals.root causes of negative beliefs must be addressed.self-worth is not determined by external factors.everyone is worthy as they are right now.success is subjective and defined by personal values.connect with me👉free resourcespractical tools, guided practices and resources to help you create more clarity, confidence and alignment - all 100% free. no catch - just high-impact support for high performers & purpose-driven humans ready to grow. enjoy! 👉need more support?if you’re interested in coaching programs and more support.👉linkedin👉facebook👉instagram👉tiktok👉youtube👉websitelots of love,david 💙