Ep. 40 Why You Keep Having the Same Fight: The Missing Step After Conflict

Have you ever had an argument, agreed to "move on," and then found yourself still thinking about it weeks later?In this episode of Relating with Jen Funk, relationship coach Jen Funk explains the critical difference between resetting after conflict and actually repairing after conflict - and why so many couples get stuck repeating the same arguments over and over again.Many couples believe that ending the conversation means the problem is solved. But when hurt feelings, misunderstandings, and emotional injuries aren't repaired, resentment begins to build. Over time, those unresolved hurts create emotional distance, reduce trust, and leave both partners feeling unseen and unheard.You'll learn why understanding is more important than agreement, how emotional injuries impact your relationship, and the simple questions you can ask yourself after conflict to determine whether true repair has happened.The difference between conflict resolution and conflict repairWhy couples keep having the same argumentHow resentment builds in relationshipsWhy "agreeing to disagree" often isn't enoughUnderstanding vs. agreement in healthy communicationEmotional safety after conflictJohn Gottman's research on repair attemptsThe emotional bank account conceptFour questions to ask after a disagreementHow to rebuild connection after conflictIf you've ever felt like your partner doesn't understand you, or you've struggled to let go of old hurts, this episode will help you create deeper connection and healthier communication in your relationship. Connect with Jen:🌐 ⁠⁠https://www.jenfunkcoaching.com⁠⁠💌 Weekly newsletter + relationship tips:⁠⁠https://www.jenfunkcoaching.com/newsletter⁠⁠Download Jen’s free guide:5 Simple Habits to Improve Your Relationship Today⁠⁠https://www.jenfunkcoaching.com/5simplehabits