Ep.51 Hot & Unbothered

A lot of the conversations Tonia & Vanessa have on the Quality Coffee Podcast unravel patterns built because of how we were raised. In Hot & Unbothered, we dive into protection and how our parent’s version was more of sheltering us than anything. We didn’t feel prepared and confident entering our adult lives and too much was left for us to discover without guidance or information. We had to learn to be independent humans as very vulnerable people who became strong, confident and peaceful women but it cost us time, blood, sweat and tears. We know now what we needed more of and thus we pass on the wisdom by raising Tonia’s daughters (who are Vanessa’s Nieces) with compassion, information, explanations, apologies when we get it wrong, and showing up for true quality time. We were told things like: Because I said so!That’s for me to know. You’re too young. Just go play. This played into a lot of the insecurities we had to work through in our later years of life. We don’t have them anymore because we worked so hard on self-love and self-acceptance. We found our own confidence instead of seeking it from other people. Grab your coffee and let’s chat!