Ep. 65- Faking Orgasms, Using Sex Toys And Understanding Pleasure with Emily King

Carla is joined by Somatic Therapist and Sexologist Emily King to discuss how so much of what we’ve been taught about sex isn’t actually helpful or even true.Emily shares how she got into sexology, and how that shaped the way she understands behaviour, power, and connection.They talk about sex work, stigma, and the realities of laws in places like Edinburgh, before moving into more personal conversations around desire, libido, and what it actually means to feel connected to your body.Carla and Emily explore things like faking orgasms, performance, and why so many people struggle to talk openly about sex with partners or even friends.They finish off the episode by talking about sex toys, shame, porn, and the way people learn about sex growing up, and Emily shares practical ways to start reconnecting with your body, from understanding arousal to building a healthier relationship with pleasure.Timestamps00:00 Introduction to Emily01:30 What a sexologist actually does02:32 Emily’s journey into this work07:28 The reality of sex work laws in Edinburgh09:24 OnlyFans, safety and exploitation16:04 Rethinking consent through a pleasure-based lens18:21 Losing your libido and reconnecting with your body22:29 How conversations about sex start growing up27:43 Shame around masturbation and talking to friends33:19 Breaking the shame around vibrators38:05 Boredom in sex and building a pleasure practice43:30 Vulva gazing workshops52:23 What holistic pelvic care actually is56:31 Low libido, “depressed vaginas” and faking orgasms01:00:48 Why sex is often centred around erections01:06:35 Where to find EmilyThanks so much for listening to this weeks episode! Make sure to subscribe to hear more episodes every week.Connect with Carla:Instagram: ⁠⁠@CarlaMcGreevy1⁠⁠Work with Carla: ⁠⁠Carla McGreevy⁠⁠Join the Ocean Healing Community: HereJoin Carla’s mailing list: ⁠⁠Stay Connected⁠Connect with Emily:Instagram: @EmilyKingTherapyWebsite: Here