Ep. 66- How Shame Shapes Your Relationships and Self Worth

In today’s episode, Carla opens up an honest conversation about shame and how it quietly drives so many of our behaviours, from relationships to self worth to the way we cope.   She shares her own experience with shame and explores the difference between healthy and toxic shame, how shame develops early in childhood, and why it is one of the hardest emotions to identify and process. Timestamps00:00 How grief lives in the body and resurfaces over time 01:47 New course announcement  04:10 Speaking directly to men and accountability in rape culture 05:55 How patriarchy shapes consent and conditioning 08:06 The difference between healthy shame and toxic shame 12:59 Personal coping patterns driven by shame 16:27 Why shame begins in childhood 18:20 Sexual trauma, secrecy and silence 21:49 Childhood adaptations and how they carry into adulthood 24:32 The physical body language of shame 27:50 Forgiveness and how to actually practise it 30:30 How shame shows up in relationships 33:34 Breaking patterns and cycles of shame 37:50 Compassionate inquiry and somatic healingIf this episode resonated with you, make sure you’re following the podcast so you never miss an episode! Connect with Carla:Instagram: ⁠⁠@CarlaMcGreevy1⁠⁠Work with Carla: ⁠⁠Carla McGreevy⁠⁠Join the Ocean Healing Community: HereJoin Carla’s mailing list: ⁠⁠Stay Connected⁠