EP 84 How to Be High Vibe No Matter What

A quick reminder that my Trust Your Intuition Online Course is available at a 50% discount for the whole month of April (2025)on my Thinkific platform. Click here to purchase. But before we start on the how to stay high vibe no matter what, I wanted first to define what is high vibe. Sometimes when we want to define something, we have to say what it's not. So there's two things that for me, high vibing is not. The first thing that it's not is smiling when you feel like crying, shouting, kicking or screaming. That is not being high vibe. Smiling is easy. I can just smile now, but inside I can have incredible feelings bubbling in me that make me feel totally disconnected from this smile. So for me, high vibe comes from a much, much deeper place than just smiling and pretending things are okay. High vibe for me is an energy. Now I'm going to explore a little bit this idea because I think as children, we all knew when people were pretending they were happy and when they were not because all children can read energy. I remember numerous instances when my mom would say, don't be silly, or this or that or the other because what I was looking at didn't fit with how it made me feel. And I think all children are like that. So maybe actually the start of this episode would be for you to ask your children and have this conversation with them to help them understand that there's nothing wrong with them. The second thing that being high vibe is not is complaining, bitching, gossiping and feeling like the world is against you. This is really low vibe. To me, the definition of being high vibe is a feeling of unconditional happiness that comes from knowing that the universe has your back. And I need to say this is work in progress because from where we come from, if you are from the same kind of background as me, where we were taught to feel that the world was full of dangers, that we had to be careful with strangers, that we shouldn't trust other people and all sorts of things, this is kind of an alien concept. It will take some work on yourself, on your beliefs, on your mindset to get to the point where you have this unconditional happiness. And also talking about unconditional happiness, we are also taught to believe that something or someone is going to make us happy. And that comes from the fact that our parents want to make us happy. So if we're not happy, they take it personally as a sign that they haven't done their job. I remember as a child feeling sad, feeling angry feelings that were not welcome in our house. We had to be happy and if we weren't, we were constantly reminded how other people were less happy than we were less fortunate, and we should just count our blessings, which is counterproductive when you're dealing with emotions. Note: I mention in the episode that my memoir My Father Who Art in Heaven is only available privately. This is not longer the case. It is now available on Amazon. Click here to purchase it. Here's a couple of tips that I've identified that can help you to be high vibe regardless of the circumstances. Stop labelling things as good or bad. Ask yourself how can I make the most of the this situation? Don't complain about what is happening to you Ask yourself: how can I turn this challenge into an opportunity? Face your fears and ask ask yourself if they are real. A great way to do this is to use Byron Katie's process. Listen to upbeat music, be mindful of the lyrics though Do something creative Watch something funny and have a good laugh Be aware that because this is an episode from a previous podcasts, my facebook page has changed and some of the references to websites are no longer active.