EP 92: Affirmations that Actually Work - And Why Others Fail

In this episode, Elex dives deep into the transformative power of daily affirmations and positive self-talk . Sharing a vulnerable, real-time look at a tough week in her staffing agency, she explains how she shifts her mindset from a "negative Nancy" to her own inner coach . Learn the history, the science, and the practical way to build realistic, impactful affirmations that reshape your brain . Episode Key Takeaways: Realism vs. Pessimism: Being a realist means seeing things exactly as they are . Pessimism assumes things will stay terrible . Re-evaluating pessimism to become a realist is vastly better for your long-term mental health . The "Inner Coach" Mindset: You can look directly at a bad situation and choose to talk to yourself like a supportive coach rather than an angry internet commenter . Since we are adults, we have to be our own coaches and keep ourselves accountable . Affirmations Aren't Magic: An affirmation is simply conscious self-talk . You are likely already doing daily affirmations—they just might be negative ones (like calling yourself a "dummy" when you mess up) . Consistency Reshapes the Brain: Reshaping a negative mindset takes time . Think of it like paving a new path over worn down grass; it takes conscious effort over an extended period before your brain automatically gravitates toward the positive path . Avoid Toxic Positivity: Your brain is a lie detector . If you tell yourself far-fetched lies (like "I am completely fearless"), your brain will reject it . Use "bridge phrases" that allow you to work on getting 1% better every day . The 19th Century (The Father of Affirmations): French pharmacist Émile Coué noticed patients healed faster when given sugar pills alongside a repeated phrase . He had them chant 20 times a day: "Every day and every way, I am getting better and better." The 1980s (The Mirror Work Explosion): Author Louise Hay popularized "mirror work"—looking at yourself in the mirror and practicing positive self-talk . This pop-culture explosion famously inspired the classic SNL skit ("I'm good enough, I'm smart enough...") .