EP#96: Long Term Monogamy & Passion: Is it Possible? With Coach Dora Bradford

I'm thrilled to introduce you to a dear friend and colleague, Dora Bradford. Dora is a women's healthcare provider and an intimacy coach who has been working as a nurse practitioner for almost three decades. We're going to delve into the topic of monogamy and passion in relationships, a subject that is close to my heart. The Journey to Intimacy Coaching Dora and I met during our training as sex and love coaches and quickly formed a strong bond. Dora, a divorced woman with two adult children, was inspired to transition into intimacy coaching after witnessing the struggles of women who were hesitant to discuss their intimacy issues with their partners. Monogamy and Passion: Can They Coexist? As someone who has been in two monogamous marriages that lacked passion, I've often wondered if marriage and passion are synonymous. Can they coexist? Dora believes they can. She shares her perspective on creating a sensual and intimate experience with a partner, emphasizing the importance of touch. Not necessarily sexual, but caressing and being slow and methodical in exploring each other's bodies. Creating a Sensual Experience Dora mentions a book that suggests using eyelashes to caress a partner's body, creating a fine and sensual touch. I can relate to this, as my therapist once suggested various ways to make love throughout the day, such as doing household chores, picking kids up from school, grabbing the groceries, or giving a massage. Dora suggests feeding your partner delicious snacks and creating a sensory experience with mood lighting, music, and scents. We both agree that planning and prioritizing intimate moments is crucial to avoid falling into a rut in a relationship. Finding Time for Intimacy We also discuss creative ideas for finding time for intimacy in busy schedules. Suggestions include scheduling intimate time, getting a babysitter or asking family members for help with childcare, booking a hotel room, or taking advantage of opportunities when the kids are at school. The Frequency of Sex in Relationships The frequency of sex in relationships can vary greatly from person to person. Some women go months without sex, while others have sex multiple times a day. Communication and Compromise Dora emphasizes the importance of communication and finding a compromise that satisfies both partners' needs. Even if gourmet sex isn't possible multiple times a week, couples can still engage in spontaneous and unplanned intimate moments. Reigniting a Sex Life Finally, we discuss how to reignite a sex life when a couple has fallen into the rut of living like roommates. Dora suggests hugging, holding each other, and engaging in eye gazing to gradually reconnect and create a sense of safety. I hope you found this conversation as enlightening as I did. Remember, it's crucial to make time for intimacy and prioritize it despite the demands of daily life.  If you enjoyed this episode, please subscribe, write a review, and share the podcast with your friends.  Your support through my Patreon account helps keep this podcast going.  Connect with Dora: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/coachdorabradford/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/dora.bradford Group Coaching Program: Website: https://www.dorahelpmyintimacy.com/ Connect with Jen: https://linktr.ee/jenniferkayloruscin Leave me a voice message that I can share on future episodes: ⁠https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/theopenbedroompodcast/message⁠ This podcast is sponsored by my Patreon: https://www.patreon.com/JenniferKayloRuscinPodcast Shop sex toys ⁠HERE⁠! $10 OFF ADULT TOYS & LUBE: Use JENK at Checkout. Follow Jen: https://linktr.ee/jenniferkayloruscin