The Open Bedroom Podcast
by The Open Bedroom Podcast
Welcome to the world of open desire, honest conversations, and relationships designed on purpose. I’m Jennifer, a certified sex and relationship coach, and this podcast is a space for curious couples and throuples who want more—more connection, more pleasure, and more freedom to define love on their own terms.Here we explore open relationships, swinging, polyamory, and ethical non-monogamy with depth, nuance, and zero shame. We talk about navigating online dating in open relationships (yes, Tinder, Bumble, Feeld), creating customized relationship dynamics that actually work.
Episodes
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EP#235: We're Now Monogamous
My husband and I have been in a semi-open relationship for almost 5 years, but this past summer we decided to go completely monogamous again. Here's why, what we've learned, and why we chose each other. Watch more episodes, subscribe and download the free Opening Up Guide:...
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EP#234: Don't Do These 5 Things When Dating
Foxy and I unpack 5 dating archetypes to avoid: the Mansplainer, the Needy Partner who turns you into their therapist, the Future-Planner who’s asking about laundry detergent before you’ve even met, the Silent Date, and the person who Ghosts you on the day you’re supposed to meet. Along the way,...
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EP#233: The Making of a Happy Slut: Sex, Polyamory & Unlearning Shame with Samia Mounts
How does someone become a Happy Slut? And what happens when you stop following society's rules about sex, love, and relationships? In this episode of The Open Bedroom, I'm joined by Samia Mounts, host of the Happy Slut podcast, for a candid, funny, and unapologetic conversation about her journey...
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EP#232: Sexless Marriages with Coach Karen Bigman
What happens when the sex just… stops? Not because you stopped loving each other. Not necessarily because anyone cheated. But somewhere between work, kids, stress, resentment, hormones, routine—or just life—you look up and realize you’ve become roommates instead of lovers. Today I’m talking with...
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EP#231: What Monogamous Men Are Missing: Lessons from Open Relationships
What can men in monogamous relationships learn from guys who’ve successfully navigated open relationships? Quite a bit, actually. In this episode of The Open Bedroom Podcast, I’m sharing three skills I’ve seen men develop in ethical non-monogamy that can make any relationship better—including a...
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EP#230: Should I Stay or Should I Go? with Betsy Pake
I’m Jennifer, and today I’m talking with Betsy Pake about one of the hardest questions we ask ourselves: "Should I stay, or should I go?" We talk about relationships, divorce, career changes, self-abandonment, and the expectations we inherit from our families and society. Betsy shares what she…
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EP#228: Sex Advice From Sex Workers
This week my guests are giving you sex advice directly from sex worker's mouths! George Goulburn and London Sterling of Australia tell us not only what men and women ask for, but how to give it to them. Follow George Goulburn: www.georgegoulburn.com...
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EP#229: How Do I Tell My Partner I’m Kinky with Kink Consultant Amanda Dames
In this episode of the Open Bedroom Podcast, I welcome Amanda Dames, a kink consultant, sexologist, and former NYC dominatrix. Amanda shares her journey discovering her kink identity, her experience as a dominatrix, and her transition into coaching. Our conversation covers BDSM dynamics, power...
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EP#227: Taking Back Control of Your Erections with Scott & Jen
Erectile dysfunction can feel incredibly isolating—but it affects far more men and couples than most people realize. I'm joined by my husband Scott for an honest conversation about his experience with erectile dysfunction. Scott shares what it felt like to lose trust in his own body, the...
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Ep#226: Why Do Good Girls Have Bad Sex? Breaking Free from Purity Culture with Aimee Latta
Today I'm speaking with with Aimee Latta, a certified embodied intimacy and relationship coach. Aimee shares her journey from growing up in Mormon purity culture, where sexuality was shrouded in shame, to fully embracing her pleasure and pansexual identity. She discusses how deeply ingrained...
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Ep#225: Everyone Has Herpes with Nurse Amber
Today I'm chatting with Nurse Amber, a board-certified women's health nurse practitioner, to discuss sexual health and STIs. We cover the prevalence and stigma of herpes, common STIs like chlamydia and gonorrhea, testing frequency, and prevention methods including PrEP and DoxyPEP. Our…
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Ep#224: Can You Still Cheat in an Open Relationship? with Mindy Glover
Today I'm sitting down with therapist and relationship coach Mindy Glover to talk about infidelity and open relationships. We explore why infidelity causes such deep pain, the importance of clearly defining boundaries, and how assumptions can lead to misunderstandings. Mindy introduces me to the...
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Ep#223: Avoiding the Roommate Syndrome with Coach Kevin Anthony
Today I'm sit down with certified sexologist and relationship coach Kevin Anthony to explore mismatched libido in relationships. We discuss key causes including hormonal changes, performance anxiety, emotional resentment, and the natural fading of new relationship energy. Kevin shares practical...
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EP#222: The Truth About STI Risk, Testing & Sexual Health with Robert Johnson
Today I’m joined by Robert Johnson, founder of Shameless Care, a telehealth company focused on sexual health, STI testing, and sexual wellness medications. After a missed STI diagnosis changed his life, Robert built Shameless Care to challenge outdated sexual health practices and bring more...
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EP#221: Fully Charged: Primal Sex with Melissa Louise
In this episode of the Open Bedroom Podcast, I welcome back Melissa Louise, a certified erotic blueprint coach, to explore "fully charged primal sex." We dive into the biological and evolutionary roots of male and female sexuality, including why men are naturally silent during sex, how prolactin...
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EP#220: Kink Curious With Faith Laux
Today I'm welcoming somatic sex and relationship coach Faith Laux, who shares how her stage four colon cancer diagnosis inspired her to explore kink as a healing practice. Faith explains that kinky play doesn’t require sexual partners, discusses the importance of negotiation and communication…
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EP#219: Why Women Don't Want Nice Guys With Marni Kinrys
Today I'm speaking with Marni Kinrys, founder of the Wing Girl Method, about why being a "nice guy" often kills attraction. Marni explains the crucial difference between being "nice" (passive, conflict-avoidant) and being a "good man" (confident, assertive, emotionally intelligent). We discuss…
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EP#218: Why You’re Not Getting a 2nd Date
In this episode of the Open Bedroom Podcast, My husband Scott and I discuss why people often don't get a second date, identifying 5 problematic dater archetypes: Chatty Cathy, Negative Nancy, Pillow Princess, Boring Brenda, and Free Date Fran. Our central message is simple: show genuine curiosity...
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EP#217: The Truth About Premature Ejaculation with Jeff Abrahams of Promescent
Today I'm sit down with Jeff Abraham, CEO of Promescent, a sexual wellness brand. Jeff shares how Prometheus developed their patented delay sprays and wipes to help men with premature ejaculation by reducing hypersensitivity—without numbing their partners. We dive into the "orgasm gap" between…
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EP#216: Sensitive is Sexy, Nervous System Regulation for Intimacy with Rachel Dorneanu
In this episode of the Open Bedroom Podcast, I sit down with licensed therapist and certified sex therapist Rachel Dorneanu to talk about what it means to be a Highly Sensitive Person (HSP) and how it impacts intimacy. Rachel walks me through the DOES framework (Depth of processing,...
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EP#215: When the Match Doesn’t Match Your True Desires
In this episode of The Open Bedroom Podcast, I sit down with my husband Scott as we reflect on his recent breakup with a woman we’d been dating. We get real about the importance of relationship alignment, the challenges that come up when expectations around exclusivity and autonomy don’t quite...
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EP#214: Things Your Momma Never Told You About Your Vagina with Heather Florio
Hey, it’s Jen, and this episode of The Open Bedroom Podcast is all about the things your momma probably never mentioned about your vagina (and trust me, you’ll want to hear this!). I’m joined by Heather Florio, the fabulous CEO of Desert Harvest, and together we’re busting myths, spilling…
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EP#213: Successful Sex Work (in Australia) with George Gouldburn
In this episode of The Open Bedroom Podcast, I sit down with George Goulburn, who left his corporate career to become a straight male escort in Australia. George opens up about his unique journey, sharing what inspired his career change and what life is really like as a male escort. We dive into...
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EP#212: How to Create a Threeway: Most Replayed Moment
This is the most listened to segment of EP136: How to Have a Threesome. To listen to the rest of the episode that includes HOW to communicate to your partner during a threesome, click the link below: https://open.spotify.com/episode/5d0pUBCL1Fkv7CQVwu15U4?si=knry02cqRNOTmHlpiXuK8g Wanna have a...
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EP#211: How to Thrive in Neurodiverse Relationships with Seb & Dr. Alison Ash
In this episode of The Open Bedroom Podcast, I explore how neurodiversity—specifically ADHD and autism—affect relationships, intimacy, and daily life. I’m joined by Seb, who has ADHD and two decades of experience supporting neurodivergent individuals, and his neurotypical wife, Dr. Alison Ash....
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EP#210: From Dinner to Desire: How to Create a Sexy Night at Home
Today I'm sharing my step-by-step guide for creating a sexy, intentional Valentine’s Day or sexy night at home. I explain the difference between spontaneous and responsive desire, and offer practical tips to build anticipation throughout the day—starting with bedtime rituals, flirty texts, and…
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EP#209: Purity Culture Fucks Up Men
In this episode of The Open Bedroom Podcast, I talk with show listener Mr. Pollyanna, who shares his journey from an evangelical Christian upbringing and purity culture to embracing emotional vulnerability and polyamory. We discuss the damaging effects of toxic masculinity, religious shame, and...
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EP208: How Men Weaken Themselves By Constant Ejaculation with Melissa Louise
In this episode of The Open Bedroom Podcast, I welcome back sexuality and tantra expert Melissa Louise for a deep dive into men’s sexual energy, ejaculation, and the cultural narratives around male sexuality. Melissa shares her personal stories and offers practical advice on how to harness sexual...
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EP#207: A Polyamorous Wedding- Jen & Scott Get Married!
In this episode of The Open Bedroom Podcast, I share the story of how Scott and I decided to get married after four years together. I reflect on our initial hesitations, the practical reasons behind our choice—including financial planning and a prenup—and our intimate, DIY park ceremony…
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EP#206 Our Throuple Broke Up
Today I'm sharing an update about the breakup of my polyamorous triad with Scott and Jess, reflecting on the challenges of differing relationship needs. I discuss the evolution of my relationships, the importance of self-fulfillment, and lessons I’ve learned about communication, boundaries, and...
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EP#205: Love Without Borders: Inside the Life of a Long-Distance Throuple Love You Two 2022
Ever wondered how couples navigate long-term commitment while exploring other connections? This candid discussion explores one couple's journey into ethical non-monogamy (ENM) after 20 years of marriage. From initial hesitations to embracing polyamorous connections, they share their story of...
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EP#204: How Trauma Affects Adult Relationships with Jason Shires
Psychotherapist Jason Shires shares how childhood trauma shapes adult relationships. Jason explains how internal defense mechanisms formed in childhood impact our partner choices and relationship patterns. We discuss therapeutic approaches like Internal Family Systems and somatic experiencing…
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EP#203: The Surprising Truth About Why People Cheat with Paul Keable from Ashley Madison Dating App
This interview surprised me. I tried to enter it with an open heart, and didn't too too much pre-research that might sway my questions or energy toward Paul.I was honestly blown away by Paul's authenticity, the data behind why people cheat, how we can be better partners to avoid cheating, and how...
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EP#202: How Can Couples Navigate Mismatched Libidos and Cultivate Intimacy? with Dr. Alison Ash
In this episode of The Open Bedroom Podcast, I welcome Dr. Alison Ash, a trauma-informed intimacy coach, to discuss navigating mismatched libidos in relationships. We explore how libido fluctuates due to life circumstances, the shift from spontaneous to responsive desire, and the impact of stress...
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EP#201: Our First Throuple Vacation
Today I'm giving you a life update - our engagement and upcoming wedding, hormones and my health, pilates, and how to vacation as a throuple! Timestamps: (3:39) Life Updates (20:43) Intro to Jess, our Third (24:37) Balcony Suite is the way to go with 3 people (30:33) Why it's so great vacation…
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EP#200: Is an Open Relationship Right for You?
In this episode of The Feminine Rebellion, I join host Natty Frasca to discuss the realities of open relationships. As a certified sex and relationship coach, I share my personal journey—from experiencing sexual dissatisfaction to embracing ethical non-monogamy with my partner, Scott. Together,...
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EP#199: Becoming a Man of Substance with Rob Kancler NEW
In this episode of The Open Bedroom Podcast, I interview Rob Kancler, an expert in men’s sexual health and intimacy. We discuss the widespread crisis of physical intimacy, the impact of cultural conditioning, and the lack of honest conversations about sex—especially among men. Rob shares insights...
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EP#198: Pleasure as the Antidote to Anxiety with Candia Raquel
In this episode of The Open Bedroom Podcast, I welcome Candia Raquel, a Mexican sensualist, scientist, and artist, to discuss how pleasure can be a powerful antidote to anxiety. We explore the difference between sensuality and sexuality, the impact of societal conditioning on our relationship…
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EP#197: How to Stop Having The Same Fights Over & Over Again with Andrea Dindinger
In this episode of The Open Bedroom Podcast, I talk with Andrea Dindinger, a veteran marriage and family therapist, about why couples have the same arguments repeatedly—often over small issues like running late or household chores. Andrea explains these fights usually mask deeper needs for love,...
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EP#196: NRE in ENM: Benefits, Dangers, and Tips to Manage the NRE Phase
What is New Relationship Energy? (00:01:19) Explains the chemical basis of NRE, its emotional impact, and outlines the episode’s structure: dangers, benefits, and management.Dangers of NRE: Neglect and Rash Decisions (00:02:44) Discusses neglecting existing relationships, children, work, and…
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EP#195: The Third Perspective: Navigating Life as the Unicorn with Alley
In this episode of The Open Bedroom Podcast, I interview Alley, the first “third” (a person joining a couple) featured on the show. Alley shares her candid experiences as a third in a polyamorous triad, discussing communication challenges, emotional complexities, and the importance of clear...
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EP#194 How To Get The Love You Crave with Aasha T.
Ever wonder why some relationships feel effortlessly passionate while others lose their spark? The secret lies in masculine and feminine polarity. In this episode, we’re diving deep into how embracing your natural energy—whether masculine or feminine—can transform your relationship and help you…
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EP#193 Let's Talk Erections & Cock Rings with Dr Elliot Justin
Driven by technological advancements and a growing emphasis on sexual wellness, the sextech market has exploded on a global scale in recent years. The wearables category has arguably seen the most interesting and compelling growth with products that do things like help alleviate pain during...
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EP#192 Why Dating Isn’t Working for You
In this episode of The Open Bedroom Podcast, I sit down with Veronica Lynn Clark, a transformative coach and spiritual teacher, to explore conscious dating, self-discovery, and intimacy. We discuss how beliefs and past trauma shape our relationship patterns, the importance of self-awareness, and...
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EP#191: Our Throuple Became a Quad: Yes there's 4 people in this relationship dynamic
Our Throuple just because a Quad! Here's the deets in today's short episode + things I'm learning in real time so you know what episodes I'll be recording next. Background & Relationship Structure (00:01:13) Jen explains her relationship with Scott and Jess, and the concept of a semi-closed…
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EP#190: Still Fucking Like You're 16? Why So Many Women Are Sexually Unhappy!
Melissa Louise joins Jen for a candid discussion on sexual satisfaction and intimacy. They explore how many men remain stuck in adolescent sexual habits, the impact on relationships, and the importance of evolving one’s sex life. Melissa emphasizes communication, emotional safety, and mutual...
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EP#189: From Jealousy to Joy: A Southern Psychologist’s Journey into Polyamory with Dr. Don Edmondson
In this episode of the Open Bedroom podcast, I interview psychologist Don Edmundson about his journey into polyamory. Don opens up about his personal experiences navigating jealousy, attachment, and the societal expectations of masculinity while building a polyamorous family with two partners and...
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EP#188: Dyad Dates: How to Nurture Your 1:1 Time with Each Partner
In this episode of the Open Bedroom Podcast, I explore the importance of nurturing one-on-one time—what I call “dyad dates”—with each partner in a polyamorous relationship. I share personal stories about my connections with Scott, Jess, and Steph, highlighting how each relationship is unique and...
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EP#187: What It's Like in a Long Term Throuple
Jen, Scott and Jess, share candid insights into their lives as a throuple after nine months together. They discuss the evolution of their relationship, navigating distance and family disapproval, and the importance of communication and inclusivity. The trio also reflects on their adventurous...
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EP#186: What I Learned by Watching Dying for Sex
Today I'm talking about my emotional reaction to the series "Dying for Sex," featuring Michelle Williams. This show's beautiful themes of life, desire, and the importance of using one's voice showcases 5 key takeaways: 1. Pursuing desires 2. Using one's voice 3. Nurturing friendships 4.…
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About this show
Welcome to the world of open desire, honest conversations, and relationships designed on purpose. I’m Jennifer, a certified sex and relationship coach, and this podcast is a space for curious couples and throuples who want more—more connection, more pleasure, and more freedom to define love on their own terms.Here we explore open relationships, swinging, polyamory, and ethical non-monogamy with depth, nuance, and zero shame. We talk about navigating online dating in open relationships (yes, Tinder, Bumble, Feeld), creating customized relationship dynamics that actually work.
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