EP#99: Breaking the Rules: A Candid Conversation on Dating, Relationships, and Openness with Cashelle Kali

Today we have Cashelle Kali, a guest who is in an open relationship and known for breaking rules in various aspects of her life.  She discusses the outdated thinking around dating and relationships, and Cashelle shares her perspective on the subject.  She talks about her unconventional lifestyle, her belief in individual sovereignty, and her experiences with dating multiple people. We also touch on topics such as sleeping in separate bedrooms, the healing benefits of cuddle tribes, and navigating relationships as a mother. Cashelle emphasizes the importance of open and honest communication in all types of relationships.  The episode concludes with Cashelle offering advice on communicating needs and desires without blame, and Jen expressing gratitude for her insights and growth. Reference to Jojo’s Episode #80 https://spotifyanchor-web.app.link/e/ddN6UbGgyCb Cashelle’s Skincare Line: https://www.smokeylotus.com/ Follow Cashelle: https://www.instagram.com/smokeylotus/ Key Timestamps: The energy of breaking the rules [00:03:02] Cashelle discusses the idea of breaking societal rules and imposing rules on her own sovereignty in dating and relationships. Letting go of labels and expectations [00:04:11] Cashelle talks about the importance of letting go of the need for labels and expectations in relationships and embracing growth and learning. Intimacy without sex and redefining relationships [00:09:31] Cashelle explains her relationship with her female partner, which is intimate and seen as a partnership, but without a sexual component. She also discusses the difference between best friends and intimate partners. The trend of sleeping in different rooms [00:12:07] Discussion about the trend of younger couples choosing to sleep in separate bedrooms and questioning the happiness and desire to be with their partner. Meeting touch needs without sex [00:13:13] Exploration of how the guest discovered a new type of relationship where her touch needs were met without the expectation of sex, leading to increased creativity and income. Openness about dating and relationships with children [00:14:44] Conversation about Cashelle approach to discussing dating, multiple partners, and honesty with her teenage daughter, as well as conditioning her to make her own rules in relationships. The importance of deep connective communication [00:24:03] Jen discusses the importance of deep connective communication and the need to find friends who can fulfill that role. Joining a cuddle puddle club without discussing with partners [00:24:42] Cashelle mentions joining a cuddle puddle club without discussing it with their partners, which may lead to broken agreements. How to communicate needs and seek help from others [00:26:10] Cashelle provides a simple statement to communicate unmet communication needs and asks for help from others in meeting those needs.