EP01 我的“早恋”：站在围墙外的非典型性中国父母 | My "Early Love": Unconventional Chinese Parents on the Outside Looking In

一般而言，对于中国家长来说，“性”、“爱情”似乎是一个相对禁忌的话题。无从说起，无从下口。当恋爱的气息悄然而至，对于我们来说，除了兴奋、好奇，似乎也多了很多害怕、不安，即来源于对新奇人生体验的不熟悉，也来源于外界的反应，可能是父母的耳提面命，也可能是老师再三的强调“早恋影响成绩”。如何对待爱，如何爱别人，爱自己，似乎是需要一生去探索的话题。但面对情窦初开的我们，我们能做什么？老师能做什么？父母能做什么？让我们来更好地面对这一人生课题呢？在本期节目中，我将和我的好朋友Jean一起聊聊她的非典型性的中国父母是如何参与女儿的“早恋”的。小时候的圣诞节，Jean都会收到父母以圣诞老人的口吻写给她的卡片，长大后，当她面对恋爱，也选择了写信的方式，宣告她的这个“早恋”决定。 In the Chinese context, topics like "sex" and "romance" are often skirted around, tricky to broach and navigate. When young love starts to blossom, it’s not just excitement and wonder we feel, but also trepidation and uncertainty. These feelings stem from both the novelty of the experience and societal reactions—whether it’s parents' cautionary tales or teachers hammering home the notion that "young romance can jeopardize academic success." Understanding love, learning how to love others and oneself, feels like a lifelong journey. As we grapple with these early emotions, how should we, and those guiding us like teachers and parents, approach and understand this intricate chapter of life? In today's episode, I'll be discussing with my dear friend Jean, diving into her unique story of how her unconventional Chinese parents engaged with her early romantic endeavors. Growing up, every Christmas, Jean would find cards from her parents, penned as if Santa Claus himself had written them. As she matured and started navigating the world of romance, she, in a poignant echo of the past, chose to communicate her feelings and choices through heartfelt letters. ***Full Transcript*** https://medium.com/@tingwongheoi