EP02 被討厭的勇氣：阿德勒說的那句最刺人的話 | 你以為是理由，其實是盾牌. 不是活在你的人生，是在跑別人的劇本

你有沒有一件事。說了很久。準備了很久。就是沒有動。 如果阿德勒看到你，他不會問你為什麼沒有動。他會問你，沒有動，對你現在有什麼好處。 這個問題很刺人。但也可能是你這週需要聽到的那個問題。 Jenny這集說的是被討厭的勇氣。這本書背後的哲學思想來自阿爾弗雷德阿德勒。阿德勒和佛洛伊德是同時代的人，但他說了完全不同的事。佛洛伊德說你的過去決定你的現在。阿德勒說，你不是被過去驅動的，你是朝向目的走的。 這就是目的論。你現在不動、你現在不說、你現在不改變，阿德勒不問原因，他問目的。那個還沒開始的事，讓你保住了什麼。那個沒有說出口的話，讓你避開了什麼。 這本書還說了一件更難接受的事。你花了多少力氣，在管理別人怎麼看你。你做了多少決定，其實是為了讓別人滿意。阿德勒說，活在別人的認可需求裡，等同於把你的人生課題交出去了。 Jenny說這本書的洞見是真實的，但她也不完全認同目的論把所有困境都說成是選擇。真實的人比這個框架複雜。 這集Jenny想問你一個問題。那個還沒開始的事，你在保護什麼。 好好想這個問題。那個答案就是你的刀在哪裡。 There is probably something you have been meaning to do. Something you have told yourself you will get to when the time is right, when the conditions improve, when you feel ready enough. Alfred Adler, the Austrian psychologist whose ideas are at the center of this book, would ask you a different question. Not why you have not started. But what not starting is giving you right now. In this episode, Jenny talks about the book called The Courage to Be Disliked, which is built around Adler's psychology and presented as a philosophical dialogue between a young man and a philosopher. The young man is unhappy. He has reasons for being unhappy. And the philosopher systematically dismantles every one of those reasons. The core idea Jenny focuses on is Adler's teleological view of human behavior. Unlike Freud, who argued that the past causes the present, Adler argued that behavior is pulled toward purposes. The things that keep you stuck are not simply effects of what happened to you. They serve a function you are getting something from right now. The second idea Jenny explores is the need for approval. Adler makes a pointed distinction between your life tasks, the things that are actually yours to decide, and other people's life tasks, which are theirs to decide. When you spend your energy trying to manage other people's opinions of you, you are living someone else's script. Jenny finds both ideas genuinely useful, and also pushes back on where she thinks the framework goes too far. The question she leaves you with this week: what does not starting let you keep. That answer, when you can sit with it honestly, is usually where things begin to shift. 被討厭的勇氣, 阿德勒, 目的論, 認可需求, 課題分離, 心理學, 自我成長, 說書podcast, 哲學對話, Adler, Courage to Be Disliked, teleology, need for approval, task separation, Japanese philosophy book, self help, weekend podcast, Jenny週末來閒聊, book review Chinese, 人生課題 Powered by Firstory Hosting