EP121: Healing from Narcissistic Triangulation: How I Reclaimed My Sibling Relationships

In this video, I’m responding to a viewer’s question about a painful but common tactic in narcissistic families: the isolation of siblings to maintain control. Drawing from my own life, I share how my mother used "triangulation" to position herself as the middleman between my brothers and me. For years, we didn't go to each other; we went to her. I discuss the regret of lost time, the reality of being the "golden child," and the difficult but necessary decision I made at 35 to go no contact. Healing is a process of unlearning. Even at 43, I’m still identifying those inherited tendencies to ensure they don’t touch my marriage or my children. If you’ve felt pitted against your own family, know that you can bridge those gaps and build something authentic on your own terms.