EP246: Is It Really A Double Standard?

Show Notes When a therapist posted about the "engagement asymmetry" in estrangement content - noting that posts about what parents did wrong go viral while content about adult children's responsibility goes quiet - it sparked a conversation worth having carefully. In this episode of The Estranged Heart podcast, Kreed unpacks why that asymmetry exists, what it's actually telling us, and why the "both sides" framing, however well-intentioned, can quietly close the very doors we're hoping to open. This is an episode about developmental power, the sequence of healing, and what it actually means to lead with love when leading feels like the hardest thing you've ever been asked to do. Key Topics Why estrangement content that names the adult child's experience spreads and what that hunger is really telling us The difference between both/and thinking and the symmetry trap Developmental power: what a parent holds that a peer does not The distinct types of estrangement and why treating them as one category does real harm Echo chambers on both sides: what happens when pain finds community but not growth The sequence of healing and why it almost always needs to start with the parent What "leading with love" actually looks like and why it isn't surrender What every reconciliation Kreed has witnessed has had in common Time stamps 00:00 — Introduction and Context of Estrangement 02:48 — The Asymmetry of Engagement in Estrangement Discussions 06:09 — Understanding Responsibility in Parent-Child Relationships 08:55 — Different Types of Estrangement 11:59 — The Echo Chamber Effect in Estrangement Narratives 14:47 — The Role of Parents in Healing and Reconciliation 17:58 — Final Thoughts on Healing and Love Resources Facebook Support Group (facilitated by Kreed) https://www.facebook.com/groups/estrangedmotherssupportgroup One-on-One Services Private coaching Consulting Mediation services Website: theestrangedheart.com Email: [email protected] Support the work: Buy Me a Coffee (donation based) https://buymeacoffee.com/kreedrevere Disclaimer: Kreed Revere is not a licensed therapist. Nothing in this podcast should be considered or taken as therapy. If you need therapeutic support, please seek out a therapist near you.