EP266: Did They Really Know?

In this episode of The Estranged Heart, Kreed walks through why "knowing better" quietly conflates two different things:  awareness that something was missing and access to a practiced alternative and why that gap matters more than intent does. "You knew better. You just didn't do better." It's one of the sharpest sentences an adult child can hand a parent and it sounds airtight. In this episode, Kreed takes it apart, along with a second claim making the rounds in parenting content: that some parents raise children out of obligation instead of desire.This one applies whether you're the parent trying to understand what you did or didn't have access to, or the adult child trying to understand why "and they loved me" and "and they harmed me" haven't felt like they could sit in the same sentence.Key Takeaways:"Knowing better" and "having access to better" are not the same thing. Harm doesn't require intent to be real, and it isn't the same claim as abuse. Regulation - not love, not intention - determines whether Both/And is possible. RESOURCES & SUPPORTFacebook Support Group (facilitated by Kreed) - https://www.facebook.com/groups/estrangedmotherssupportgroupOne-on-One ServicesPrivate coachingConsultingMediation servicesConnect with Kreed:Website: theestrangedheart.comEmail: [email protected] the work: Buy Me a Coffee (donation platform)Disclaimer: Kreed Revere is not a licensed therapist. Nothing in this podcast should be considered or taken as therapy. If you need therapeutic support, please seek out a therapist near you.