EP270: The Grace We Give

In this episode of The Estranged Heart podcast, Kreed shares a deeply moving letter originally published by Dr. Joshua Coleman, written by an estranged mother reflecting on her relationship with the mother who abandoned her and the daughter from whom she is now estranged.At the heart of the letter is a question that reaches far beyond estrangement: Can we tell the full truth about how someone hurt us without reducing that person to the harm they caused?This episode explores the difference between understanding and excusing, and what it means to hold accountability, impact, context, boundaries, and humanity at the same time.Why understanding is not exoneration and context does not erase impactHow curiosity can help us see the person behind the behavior without denying our own lived experienceWhy someone else's suffering does not have to be required for our suffering to be legitimateThe difference between accountability and reducing another person to a verdictHow multiple truths can coexist: You hurt me. You had your own wounds. Both matter.The difficult question at the center of the episode: Am I asking for a kind of humanity that I am unwilling to extend to someone else?RESOURCES & SUPPORTFacebook Support Group (facilitated by Kreed) - https://www.facebook.com/groups/estrangedmotherssupportgroupOne-on-One ServicesPrivate coachingConsultingMediation servicesConnect with Kreed:Website: theestrangedheart.comEmail: [email protected] the work: Buy Me a Coffee (donation platform)Disclaimer: Kreed Revere is not a licensed therapist. Nothing in this podcast should be considered or taken as therapy. If you need therapeutic support, please seek out a therapist near you.