EP66: We Don't Talk About It - The Trauma Veterans Carry After War

What happens when the danger ends but your nervous system never gets the message? In this deeply honest episode of Loving Everything, I sit down with Oregon native and U.S. Air Force veteran Grant Hohman to talk about something we rarely acknowledge in public conversations about trauma, mental health, and survival. We don't talk about it. We don't talk about what it feels like when hypervigilance lives in the body long after service ends. We don't talk about the quiet moments that can feel harder than combat. We don't talk about chronic pain, depression, emotional numbness, or the internal voice that tells us we should be "strong enough" to handle it alone. In this conversation we explore: • PTSD and the nervous system after trauma • Why soldiers scan rooms and read faces long after deployment • The connection between trauma, chronic pain, and exhaustion • The unspoken culture of "I'm fine" in military life • Self criticism, shame, and emotional survival strategies • What finally makes someone reach out for help • How healing begins when silence breaks This episode is especially meaningful for anyone navigating trauma recovery, relational trauma, attachment wounds, betrayal trauma, depression, or post traumatic stress. If you've ever believed you should be "over it by now," this conversation is for you. You are not broken. Your nervous system learned how to survive. __ Find out more about Andrea Love and her services here: andrea.love Find out more about The House of Healing & Love here: thehouseofhealing.love ___ All production by Cody Maxwell. sharkfyn.com Artwork by Heather Grace Gordy. Opening graphic assets by arakelov and Envato Elements.