Episode 12 - It’s Not Empathy—It’s Discomfort: Why Fixing Isn’t Helping

In this boundary-reset episode of The Glow Up Experience, Lindsay Jacobi unpacks a hard truth: the urge to “help” is often less empathy and more your discomfort with someone else’s feelings. From a flustered bartender who misplaced a card to years of laughing off hurtful comments to keep the peace, Lindsay traces how high-functioning codependency becomes a covert self-abandonment strategy—and how to stop. You’ll learn The difference between empathy (“I can witness your pain”) and enmeshment (“I can’t be OK until you are”) How “fixer energy” is a nervous-system coping mechanism, not a personality trait The pause–name–choose method to interrupt reflex rescuing Why prioritising others’ comfort over your own erodes self-trust Micro-boundaries that create connection without self-betrayal   Links & Resources Free Glow Up Bundle: https://coaching.glowupcollective.co/glow-up-edition 90-Day Private Glow Up Coaching: https://glowupcollective.co Instagram: @lindsaystewartjacobi