Episode 139: How to Deal When the Abuse Continues Post-Separation

Leave a text or voice message so we can respondLeaving an abusive relationship is supposed to bring peace, but for many, the abuse doesn’t end—it evolves and often ramps up. In this episode of The Be Better You Podcast, we tackle the reality of post-separation abuse and provide actionable steps to regain your power. I explore common tactics abusers use to maintain control, such as lying to children, launching smear campaigns, harassing you through texts or calls, weaponizing new partners, refusing to follow court orders, and financially draining you through frivolous legal motions. These behaviors are rooted in the abuser's need for control and their desire to punish you for leaving.We also dive into the emotional and psychological toll this continued abuse takes on you and your children. From anxiety and isolation to the erosion of trust and stability, post-separation abuse leaves deep scars that require intentional healing. Many victims feel unprepared for this escalation, often underestimating how far their abuser will go or lacking the support network needed to navigate it.To empower you, I share practical strategies for reclaiming control. Learn how shifting your mindset, by uncovering limiting beliefs that create fear or insecurity, can give you back your power. We discuss how setting and maintain boundaries, train the abuser through consistent actions, and document their behavior helps to protect yourself legally. Building a strong support system with friends, family, mentors, and professionals is also essential. I include personal stories, such as my own experiences with repeated court battles, and offer advice I’ve given to others dealing with harassment.This episode is filled with relatable examples, empowering steps, and hope for a better future. Don’t forget to stay tuned for my upcoming book, releasing this February, which will dive even deeper into this topic and offer a guide to reclaiming your life after abuse. If you’re experiencing post-separation abuse, reach out to me on Instagram or Facebook to share your story and start your journey toward healing.Set up your Free Call Today! Support the showReady to stop overthinking your past relationship and start feeling like yourself again?Get Your FREE HEALING BUNDLE www.radiatenrise.com and explore coaching programs, self-paced courses, resources, and tools designed to help you break free from emotional abuse, rumination, and self-doubt.✍🏻 Set up a for a FREE Call and discover what's really keeping you stuck, along with the next steps to help you move forward.📧 Questions? Email: [email protected]💬 Come say hi on Instagram or Facebook:Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/allisonkdagney/Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/allisonkdagney/Formerly The Emotional Abuse Recovery Podcast