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Leave a text or voice message so we can respondIn this transformative episode of "The Emotional Abuse Recovery Podcast," host Allison Dagney dives deep into the intricate world of narcissistic myths, aiming to guide listeners on their path to healing from emotional abuse. The exploration begins with the debunking of the pervasive myth that all narcissists cheat. Allison introduces a nuanced perspective, emphasizing that cheating in narcissistic relationships can manifest in diverse, non-traditional forms, challenging conventional definitions.The journey continues with an examination of the myth surrounding the potential for change in narcissistic individuals. Allison artfully distinguishes between superficial behavioral adjustments and authentic personality transformation, cautioning against misinterpretations that may lead to vulnerable positions in relationships.Delving into the misconception that narcissists are oblivious to their actions, the podcast sheds light on the calculated nature of their behaviors and manipulative tactics. Allison encourages listeners to recognize the intentionality behind narcissistic actions, fostering a deeper understanding of the dynamics at play.The episode concludes by addressing the myth that narcissists can love. Allison explores the intricate layers of distorted love in these relationships, prompting listeners to reassess their understanding of love and its impact on their healing journey. The critical thinking section challenges preconceived notions, offering introspective questions that guide reflection, empowering listeners to navigate their recovery journey with resilience and newfound insights. The episode serves as a compass for those seeking solace, encouraging them to question everything they thought they knew about narcissism and themselves, ultimately fostering a community of support and healing. Set up your Free Call Today! Support the showReady to stop overthinking your past relationship and start feeling like yourself again?Visit www.radiatenrise.com and explore coaching programs, self-paced courses, resources, and tools designed to help you break free from emotional abuse, rumination, and self-doubt.✍🏻 Wanna Talk? Set up a for a FREE Call and discover what's really keeping you stuck, along with the next steps to help you move forward.https://www.radiatenrise.com/application-form📧 Questions? Email: [email protected]💬 Come say hi on Instagram or Facebook:Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/allisonkdagney/Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/allisonkdagney/Formerly The Emotional Abuse Recovery Podcast

Leave a text or voice message so we can respondHave you ever felt like you're doing everything "right" to heal, but somehow you still feel stuck?Maybe you've read the books, listened to the podcasts, gone to therapy, or spent countless hours trying to understand what happened in your relationship. Yet you keep finding yourself replaying conversations, questioning your decisions, or wondering why moving forward feels so difficult.What if the problem isn't what you think it is?In this episode of the Be a Better You Podcast, we're exploring the hidden blind spots that often keep survivors of emotional abuse stuck long after the relationship has ended. These aren't mistakes or flaws—they're the subconscious beliefs and survival strategies that once protected you but may now be preventing you from experiencing the freedom you're looking for.We'll explore why you may be solving the wrong problem, why wanting "closure" isn't always what it seems, how the need to be chosen can become confused with self-worth, and why healing isn't about becoming someone new—it's about seeing yourself more clearly.If you've ever wondered why you keep repeating patterns, struggle to trust yourself, or feel like you've made progress but still aren't where you want to be, this conversation will help you look beneath the surface and discover what might really be keeping you stuck.In this episode, you'll learn:Why the biggest obstacle to healing is often something you can't yet see.The difference between symptoms and the real problem.Common subconscious beliefs that develop after emotional abuse.Why insight alone doesn't create lasting change.That curiosity leads to deeper healing.If this episode resonates with you, please consider following the podcast, leaving a review, and sharing it with someone who may need this message today.REFLECTION QUESTIONS FROM THIS EPISODE:"What problem have I been trying to solve for years?""What if that isn't the real problem?""What belief would have to exist for this struggle to make perfect sense?""What have I accepted as true...that I've never actually questioned?""If someone watched my life...what belief would they think I have?" Set up your Free Call Today! Support the showReady to stop overthinking your past relationship and start feeling like yourself again?Visit www.radiatenrise.com and explore coaching programs, self-paced courses, resources, and tools designed to help you break free from emotional abuse, rumination, and self-doubt.✍🏻 Wanna Talk? Set up a for a FREE Call and discover what's really keeping you stuck, along with the next steps to help you move forward.https://www.radiatenrise.com/application-form📧 Questions? Email: [email protected]💬 Come say hi on Instagram or Facebook:Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/allisonkdagney/Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/allisonkdagney/Formerly The Emotional Abuse Recovery Podcast

Leave a text or voice message so we can respondLeaving a toxic or emotionally abusive relationship often means leaving behind more than just one person. It can leave you questioning your judgment, feeling isolated, and wondering if you'll ever be able to trust people again.In this episode, I'm joined by Dr. K, founder of Girlfriendism, to explore one of the most overlooked parts of healing: rebuilding healthy female friendships. Together, we discuss why making and maintaining friendships can feel so difficult after emotional abuse, how trauma changes the way we connect with others, and what emotionally safe friendships actually look like.We also talk about:Why survivors often feel disconnected or alone after leaving a toxic relationship.The green flags of healthy, supportive female friendships.How to recognize when a friendship feels safe versus familiar.Why healing doesn't have to happen in isolation.Practical ways to begin building a community of women who genuinely support your growth.If you've ever felt like you don't know who to trust anymore, or you've struggled to let people in since your relationship ended, this conversation will remind you that healthy connection is possible—and that the right friendships can become an important part of your healing journey.Connect with Dr. K:Learn more about Dr. K and the Girlfriendism community at Girlfriendism, a global movement dedicated to helping women build meaningful friendships and supportive communities. Links to Connect ⬇️www.girlfriendism.comGirlfriendism Global on Mighty Networks AppYouTube, FaceBook, Instagram, LinkedIn: @Girlfriendism Set up your Free Call Today! Support the showReady to stop overthinking your past relationship and start feeling like yourself again?Visit www.radiatenrise.com and explore coaching programs, self-paced courses, resources, and tools designed to help you break free from emotional abuse, rumination, and self-doubt.✍🏻 Wanna Talk? Set up a for a FREE Call and discover what's really keeping you stuck, along with the next steps to help you move forward.https://www.radiatenrise.com/application-form📧 Questions? Email: [email protected]💬 Come say hi on Instagram or Facebook:Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/allisonkdagney/Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/allisonkdagney/Formerly The Emotional Abuse Recovery Podcast

Leave a text or voice message so we can respondWhat do you do when someone publicly criticizes you, questions your mission, or tries to shame you into staying quiet?In this episode, I'm sharing a recent experience with an online troll who challenged not only my work but my decision to continue talking about emotional abuse and using paid ads to reach more women. While the comments themselves weren't the real story, what happened inside of me was.Years ago, criticism like this would have left me questioning myself. Instead, I found myself standing firmly in my values, recognizing how much healing had taken place, and realizing that confidence isn't about avoiding negative opinions. It's about knowing who you are and refusing to let someone else's beliefs determine your direction.We'll explore how emotional abuse conditions us to seek approval, why recovering from abuse means learning to trust yourself again, and how your subconscious beliefs influence whether criticism feels like a threat or simply another perspective. I'll also explain why I have no intention of stopping my work, why I'll continue speaking openly about emotional abuse, and why I believe using advertising to connect survivors with support is something to be proud of—not ashamed of.If you've ever been afraid of being judged, criticized, misunderstood, or seen, this episode will help you shift your perspective, strengthen your confidence, and remember that your purpose doesn't require everyone else's permission.In this episode, you'll learn:• How subconscious beliefs determine your response to negative comments.• What real confidence looks like after emotional abuse.And...• How to stop letting other people's opinions dictate your decisions.• Why your message matters, even when not everyone agrees with it.Whether you're recovering from emotional abuse, healing after a toxic relationship, rebuilding your self-worth, or learning to trust yourself again, this conversation will remind you that healing isn't measured by the absence of criticism. It's measured by your ability to keep moving forward in alignment with who you are. Set up your Free Call Today! Support the showReady to stop overthinking your past relationship and start feeling like yourself again?Visit www.radiatenrise.com and explore coaching programs, self-paced courses, resources, and tools designed to help you break free from emotional abuse, rumination, and self-doubt.✍🏻 Wanna Talk? Set up a for a FREE Call and discover what's really keeping you stuck, along with the next steps to help you move forward.https://www.radiatenrise.com/application-form📧 Questions? Email: [email protected]💬 Come say hi on Instagram or Facebook:Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/allisonkdagney/Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/allisonkdagney/Formerly The Emotional Abuse Recovery Podcast

Leave a text or voice message so we can respondHave you spent your life trying to keep everyone happy? Do you feel guilty setting boundaries, saying no, or making decisions that someone else might not like?In this episode of the Be A Better You Podcast, Allison explores why disappointing people feels so terrifying after emotional abuse, toxic relationships, people-pleasing, and chronic self-abandonment. You'll learn why someone else's disappointment doesn't mean you've done something wrong, how emotional abuse trains your nervous system to fear conflict, and why reclaiming your own authority is one of the most important steps in healing.Through a personal story about setting boundaries in a long-term friendship and business relationship, Allison shares how choosing herself ultimately led to freedom, even though it meant disappointing someone she cared about. She also explains the difference between hurting someone and disappointing someone, why living in alignment with your values matters more than meeting everyone else's expectations, and how saying "no" can help you discover your purpose and build healthier relationships.If you've ever struggled with guilt, people-pleasing, codependency, boundary setting, or the fear of letting others down, this episode will help you see disappointment in a completely new way.In this episode, you'll learn:Why disappointing people feels unsafe after emotional abuseThe difference between rebelling against someone and disappointing someoneHow to stop people-pleasing without feeling guiltyWhy healthy boundaries often disappoint othersHow to reclaim your own authority and live more authenticallyWhy someone else's expectations are not your responsibilityIf you're ready to stop living for everyone else and start trusting yourself, this episode is for you. Set up your Free Call Today! Support the showReady to stop overthinking your past relationship and start feeling like yourself again?Visit www.radiatenrise.com and explore coaching programs, self-paced courses, resources, and tools designed to help you break free from emotional abuse, rumination, and self-doubt.✍🏻 Wanna Talk? Set up a for a FREE Call and discover what's really keeping you stuck, along with the next steps to help you move forward.https://www.radiatenrise.com/application-form📧 Questions? Email: [email protected]💬 Come say hi on Instagram or Facebook:Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/allisonkdagney/Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/allisonkdagney/Formerly The Emotional Abuse Recovery Podcast

Leave a text or voice message so we can respondToday's episode features guest Lyndsey Kampen. Lyndsey shares her personal story with us about her experience with toxic relationships and how she overcame them to design the life she loves. She is a designer by trade and experience so designing her own life on her own terms was key to her happiness. Join us in the powerful discussion where two survivors collaborate to help other survivors thrive!Connect with Lyndsey:Website:https://designthelifeyoulovelynz.com/Podcast:https://designthelifeyoulovelynz.com/podcast-1YouTube:https://www.youtube.com/@DESIGNTHELIFEYOULOVEWITHLYNZ/videosInstagram:https://www.instagram.com/lyndsey_lynz_kampen/Facebook:https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=61556978291081Substack:https://substack.com/@lyndseylynzkampen?r=17eu48&utm_campaign=profile&utm_medium=profile-page Set up your Free Call Today! Support the showReady to stop overthinking your past relationship and start feeling like yourself again?Visit www.radiatenrise.com and explore coaching programs, self-paced courses, resources, and tools designed to help you break free from emotional abuse, rumination, and self-doubt.✍🏻 Wanna Talk? Set up a for a FREE Call and discover what's really keeping you stuck, along with the next steps to help you move forward.https://www.radiatenrise.com/application-form📧 Questions? Email: [email protected]💬 Come say hi on Instagram or Facebook:Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/allisonkdagney/Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/allisonkdagney/Formerly The Emotional Abuse Recovery Podcast

Leave a text or voice message so we can respondHave you ever felt like you're doing everything you possibly can to move forward... but somehow you still feel stuck?Maybe you've convinced yourself you just need to work harder, learn more, or push through a little longer.But what if the very thing you've been avoiding is the reason you can't seem to find the clarity you've been searching for?In this episode, Allison shares a deeply personal story from one of the hardest seasons of her life and reveals the surprising shift that changed the way she approached healing, decision-making, and even her business.If you've been overwhelmed, mentally exhausted, constantly thinking, or wondering why you can't seem to hear yourself think anymore, this conversation may be exactly what your brain needs.This episode might challenge everything you've been taught about what it takes to heal.🎧 Listen now and discover the one thing you may be overlooking that's quietly keeping you stuck.✨ Download your FREE Healing Bundle, including the 5-Day Guided Mentor Audio Series, Deconditioning Workbook, and introductory My Sound Mind audios. Set up your Free Call Today! Support the showReady to stop overthinking your past relationship and start feeling like yourself again?Visit www.radiatenrise.com and explore coaching programs, self-paced courses, resources, and tools designed to help you break free from emotional abuse, rumination, and self-doubt.✍🏻 Wanna Talk? Set up a for a FREE Call and discover what's really keeping you stuck, along with the next steps to help you move forward.https://www.radiatenrise.com/application-form📧 Questions? Email: [email protected]💬 Come say hi on Instagram or Facebook:Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/allisonkdagney/Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/allisonkdagney/Formerly The Emotional Abuse Recovery Podcast

Leave a text or voice message so we can respondHave you ever wondered why you've been through so much, yet still feel stuck in the same emotional patterns?In this episode of the Be A Better You Podcast, Allison explores a powerful distinction that completely changed her healing journey after spending 20 years in an emotionally abusive marriage: the difference between conflict and adversity.Many survivors of emotional abuse, narcissistic abuse, and toxic relationships assume that because life has been difficult, they must be growing. But what if years of emotional pain weren't creating growth at all? What if you were surviving inside chronic conflict instead of allowing adversity to transform you?In this episode, you'll learn:The surprising difference between conflict and adversityWhy staying in survival mode can keep you emotionally stuckWhy healing requires adaptation, not just enduranceThe hidden cost of waiting for someone else to rescue youHow resilience, self-trust, and emotional freedom are built through not just facing life's hardest moments - but action out of them.Practical mindset shifts to help you move from surviving to truly healingIf you struggle with overthinking, rumination, self-doubt, trauma bonding, or constantly replaying the past after a toxic relationship, this episode will challenge the way you think about healing and help you see your next chapter with greater clarity.🎧 If you're ready to stop living in emotional conflict and finally move forward, apply for your FREE Root Cause Assessment & Action Plan through the link in the show notes.Keywords: emotional abuse recovery, narcissistic abuse recovery, toxic relationships, healing after emotional abuse, trauma bonds, rumination, overthinking after a breakup, self-trust, personal growth, emotional healing, conflict vs adversity, resilience, rebuilding after abuse, mindset, mental health, emotional resilience. Set up your Free Call Today! Support the showReady to stop overthinking your past relationship and start feeling like yourself again?Visit www.radiatenrise.com and explore coaching programs, self-paced courses, resources, and tools designed to help you break free from emotional abuse, rumination, and self-doubt.✍🏻 Wanna Talk? Set up a for a FREE Call and discover what's really keeping you stuck, along with the next steps to help you move forward.https://www.radiatenrise.com/application-form📧 Questions? Email: [email protected]💬 Come say hi on Instagram or Facebook:Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/allisonkdagney/Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/allisonkdagney/Formerly The Emotional Abuse Recovery Podcast

Leave a text or voice message so we can respondIn this special episode, I'm joined by author Carole Murphy to explore an experience that changed the way she views life, grief, and healing. After the loss of her mother, Carole sought answers through a channeler, leading to a conversation that ultimately became the inspiration for her book.Whether you're deeply spiritual, simply curious, or a healthy skeptic, this conversation isn't about convincing you what to believe. It's about exploring perspectives that may help you think differently about loss, suffering, healing, forgiveness, and the connections that continue to shape our lives.Join us for an open-minded conversation that just might leave you with a little more hope, a little more peace, and a few new questions worth asking.Connect with Carole MurphyTo learn more about Carole, her three-volume Talking to the Light series, and her work exploring healing after maternal narcissistic abuse, visit www.sheaskedwhy.com.Website: www.sheaskedwhy.comEmail: [email protected] Set up your Free Call Today! Support the showReady to stop overthinking your past relationship and start feeling like yourself again?Visit www.radiatenrise.com and explore coaching programs, self-paced courses, resources, and tools designed to help you break free from emotional abuse, rumination, and self-doubt.✍🏻 Wanna Talk? Set up a for a FREE Call and discover what's really keeping you stuck, along with the next steps to help you move forward.https://www.radiatenrise.com/application-form📧 Questions? Email: [email protected]💬 Come say hi on Instagram or Facebook:Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/allisonkdagney/Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/allisonkdagney/Formerly The Emotional Abuse Recovery Podcast

Leave a text or voice message so we can respondThe Things You Don't Expect After Leaving a Toxic RelationshipMany survivors believe leaving a toxic relationship is the finish line.But for some, leaving is the moment the abuser realizes they are losing access to control—and that's when entirely new tactics can emerge.In this episode, we're talking about post-separation abuse: the ongoing attempts some emotionally abusive, narcissistic, or controlling partners make to maintain influence long after the relationship has ended.We'll explore what post-separation abuse looks like, why it happens, and the emotional toll it can take on survivors. From excessive texting and constant emergencies to smear campaigns, false accusations, financial sabotage, court manipulation, love bombing, hoovering, and using children as messengers, many survivors find themselves facing challenges they never expected after leaving.You'll learn:• What post-separation abuse is and how to recognize it• Why some abusers escalate after a breakup or divorce• The common mistake survivors make that keeps them emotionally hooked into the conflict• How ongoing abuse can create anxiety, hypervigilance, rumination, self-doubt, and exhaustion• Why healing isn't measured by whether they stop• What recovery actually looks like after emotional abuse and narcissistic abuseIf you've ever found yourself thinking, "I left, so why am I still struggling?" this episode is for you.The reality is that healing isn't always about getting the other person to change. It's about reclaiming your peace, your energy, your identity, and your future—even when someone else is trying to keep you stuck in the past.Visit the link in the show notes for free healing resources, including my 5-Day Guided Mentor Audio Series, Deconditioning Workbook, podcast episodes, and additional support for every stage of your healing journey.Keywords: post-separation abuse, emotional abuse recovery, narcissistic abuse recovery, toxic relationship recovery, coercive control, trauma bond recovery, divorce recovery, healing after emotional abuse, toxic ex, narcissistic ex, post-divorce abuse, emotional healing, relationship trauma, abuse recovery, recovering from a toxic relationship. Set up your Free Call Today! Support the showReady to stop overthinking your past relationship and start feeling like yourself again?Visit www.radiatenrise.com and explore coaching programs, self-paced courses, resources, and tools designed to help you break free from emotional abuse, rumination, and self-doubt.✍🏻 Wanna Talk? Set up a for a FREE Call and discover what's really keeping you stuck, along with the next steps to help you move forward.https://www.radiatenrise.com/application-form📧 Questions? Email: [email protected]💬 Come say hi on Instagram or Facebook:Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/allisonkdagney/Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/allisonkdagney/Formerly The Emotional Abuse Recovery Podcast

Leave a text or voice message so we can respondTo connect with Victoria you can follow her in instagram and tik tok:https://www.instagram.com/victoriadambrozio/https://www.tiktok.com/@victoriadambrozio Set up your Free Call Today! Support the showReady to stop overthinking your past relationship and start feeling like yourself again?Visit www.radiatenrise.com and explore coaching programs, self-paced courses, resources, and tools designed to help you break free from emotional abuse, rumination, and self-doubt.✍🏻 Wanna Talk? Set up a for a FREE Call and discover what's really keeping you stuck, along with the next steps to help you move forward.https://www.radiatenrise.com/application-form📧 Questions? Email: [email protected]💬 Come say hi on Instagram or Facebook:Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/allisonkdagney/Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/allisonkdagney/Formerly The Emotional Abuse Recovery Podcast

Leave a text or voice message so we can respondHave you ever found yourself wondering if you wasted the best years of your life on the wrong person?Maybe you've replayed old relationships in your mind, imagined different outcomes, or found yourself thinking, "What if I had made a different choice?" After emotional abuse, narcissistic abuse, a toxic marriage, or a painful divorce, many survivors find themselves grieving far more than the relationship itself. They're grieving the future they thought they were going to have.In this episode, we're exploring the hidden grief that nobody talks about after a toxic relationship: the grief of lost time, lost possibilities, and the life you imagined for yourself. You'll learn why your brain creates alternate timelines, why it's so easy to get stuck romanticizing the past, and how rumination can keep you trapped in a version of life that never actually existed.We'll discuss:• Why survivors often fantasize about old relationships or "what could have been" & What victims often fantasize about inside the abusive relationships that will help you feel less alone• The connection between emotional abuse, grief, and rumination• Why comparing your real life to an imagined timeline keeps you stuck• The hidden fear that you've "missed your chance" at love and happiness• How to stop mourning the life that never happened and start creating the one that's still possible• Why healthy, safe, emotionally connected relationships are still available after abuseIf you're struggling with regret after divorce, grieving lost years, healing from emotional abuse, recovering from narcissistic abuse, or wondering whether you'll ever find healthy love again, this episode will help you feel seen, understood, and hopeful about what's still ahead.✨ Apply for a Root Cause Assessment & Action Plan✨ Explore coaching, courses, and free resources at Radiate & Rise✨ Listen to more episodes on healing, rumination, self-worth, and recovery after toxic relationships Set up your Free Call Today! Support the showReady to stop overthinking your past relationship and start feeling like yourself again?Visit www.radiatenrise.com and explore coaching programs, self-paced courses, resources, and tools designed to help you break free from emotional abuse, rumination, and self-doubt.✍🏻 Wanna Talk? Set up a for a FREE Call and discover what's really keeping you stuck, along with the next steps to help you move forward.https://www.radiatenrise.com/application-form📧 Questions? Email: [email protected]💬 Come say hi on Instagram or Facebook:Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/allisonkdagney/Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/allisonkdagney/Formerly The Emotional Abuse Recovery Podcast

Leave a text or voice message so we can respondDo you replay conversations in your head for hours after they happen? Do you find yourself analyzing texts, worrying that you said the wrong thing, wondering if someone is upset with you, or constantly trying to figure out what other people are thinking?If so, you're not alone—and you may not be dealing with simple overthinking.In this episode, emotional abuse recovery coach Allison explores one of the hidden causes of rumination after toxic relationships: the subconscious belief that you are responsible for other people's feelings.Many survivors of emotional abuse, narcissistic relationships, childhood trauma, and people-pleasing patterns become hypervigilant to the emotions of others. They spend hours mentally replaying conversations, searching for clues, trying to avoid conflict, rejection, criticism, or disapproval. What feels like overthinking is often a nervous system response rooted in emotional survival.In this episode, you'll learn:• Why you can't stop replaying conversations in your head• The connection between emotional abuse and rumination• Why your brain keeps searching for certainty after interactions• How hypervigilance develops in toxic relationships• Why someone else's feelings are not your responsibility to manage• How to begin breaking free from mental loops and emotional exhaustionIf you've ever found yourself obsessing over a text message, worrying that someone is mad at you, overanalyzing social interactions, or struggling to stop thinking about what happened, this episode will help you understand what's really happening beneath the surface.Because healing isn't about learning how to think harder. It's about understanding why your mind keeps returning to the same thoughts in the first place.If you're ready to stop overthinking, quiet the mental noise, and finally find relief from emotional looping and rumination, this episode is for you. Set up your Free Call Today! Support the showReady to stop overthinking your past relationship and start feeling like yourself again?Visit www.radiatenrise.com and explore coaching programs, self-paced courses, resources, and tools designed to help you break free from emotional abuse, rumination, and self-doubt.✍🏻 Wanna Talk? Set up a for a FREE Call and discover what's really keeping you stuck, along with the next steps to help you move forward.https://www.radiatenrise.com/application-form📧 Questions? Email: [email protected]💬 Come say hi on Instagram or Facebook:Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/allisonkdagney/Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/allisonkdagney/Formerly The Emotional Abuse Recovery Podcast

Leave a text or voice message so we can respondYou know the relationship was unhealthy. You know they hurt you. You know you deserve better. So why do you still care?If you've ever found yourself thinking about a toxic ex, missing someone who treated you poorly, or feeling confused about why you're not "over it" yet, this episode is for you.In this episode, we're exploring one of the most frustrating parts of healing after emotional abuse, narcissistic abuse, toxic relationships, and heartbreak: caring about someone you know wasn't good for you. We'll talk about why caring doesn't mean you should go back, why it doesn't mean you made the wrong decision, and why these feelings can continue long after you've gained clarity about what happened.You'll learn: Why you still miss someone who hurt you  The difference between love, attachment, "trauma bonds," and more Why your nervous system craves familiarity, even when it's unhealthy  How hope, potential, and fantasy can keep you emotionally attached  The hidden thing that keeps many women stuck  What it actually looks like to heal after a toxic relationship If you've been searching for answers about why you still love your ex, why you can't stop thinking about them, why healing feels so difficult, or why part of you still cares despite everything that happened, this episode will help you understand what's really going on beneath the surface.Healing isn't about pretending you never cared. It's about understanding why you cared, what you're truly attached to, and learning how to choose yourself without carrying shame for the feelings that remain.🎙️ Ready to stop feeling stuck? Apply for a free Root Cause Call through the link in the show notes and discover the subconscious patterns, nervous system responses, and emotional loops that may be keeping you attached to the past. Set up your Free Call Today! Support the showReady to stop overthinking your past relationship and start feeling like yourself again?Visit www.radiatenrise.com and explore coaching programs, self-paced courses, resources, and tools designed to help you break free from emotional abuse, rumination, and self-doubt.✍🏻 Wanna Talk? Set up a for a FREE Call and discover what's really keeping you stuck, along with the next steps to help you move forward.https://www.radiatenrise.com/application-form📧 Questions? Email: [email protected]💬 Come say hi on Instagram or Facebook:Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/allisonkdagney/Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/allisonkdagney/Formerly The Emotional Abuse Recovery Podcast

Leave a text or voice message so we can respondIf you’ve ever caught yourself mentally arguing with your ex while driving, showering, trying to sleep, or folding laundry… this episode is for you.In this episode, we’re talking about the exhausting mental loops that so many women experience after emotional abuse, narcissistic abuse, toxic relationships, divorce, or heartbreak. The imaginary conversations. The replaying of old arguments. The “I should have said this” spirals. The constant need to explain yourself, defend yourself, or finally be understood.You’ll learn why your brain keeps creating these mental fights long after the relationship has ended, what triggers these intrusive thought loops, and why rumination can become emotionally addictive and difficult to stop.We also dive into: the nervous system’s role in repetitive thought loops  emotional rehearsing during and after toxic relationships   the hidden grief underneath anger and rumination  why logic alone doesn’t stop obsessive thinking  how to begin interrupting these subconscious survival patterns If you’re constantly replaying conversations, mentally fighting with your ex, struggling to stop overthinking, or wondering why you still feel emotionally stuck after the relationship ended, this episode will help you understand what’s really happening beneath the surface.This is not about “just letting it go.” It’s about understanding the deeper nervous system and subconscious patterns that keep women emotionally trapped in the past long after they’ve physically left the relationship.Apply for a Root Cause Call through the link in the show notes if you’re ready to stop living inside the loop and start healing at the root. Set up your Free Call Today! Support the showReady to stop overthinking your past relationship and start feeling like yourself again?Visit www.radiatenrise.com and explore coaching programs, self-paced courses, resources, and tools designed to help you break free from emotional abuse, rumination, and self-doubt.✍🏻 Wanna Talk? Set up a for a FREE Call and discover what's really keeping you stuck, along with the next steps to help you move forward.https://www.radiatenrise.com/application-form📧 Questions? Email: [email protected]💬 Come say hi on Instagram or Facebook:Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/allisonkdagney/Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/allisonkdagney/Formerly The Emotional Abuse Recovery Podcast

Leave a text or voice message so we can respondIf you keep finding yourself waiting for someone to change, holding onto the “good parts” of them, replaying their promises in your head, or wondering whether you’re giving up too soon…this episode is for you.In this powerful episode of the Be A Better You Podcast, we’re talking about the emotional trap of loving someone’s potential instead of recognizing their consistent patterns of behavior. This is one of the biggest reasons women stay stuck in emotionally abusive, emotionally immature, narcissistic, or unhealthy relationships far longer than they should.You may think you’re being hopeful, loyal, compassionate, understanding, or “seeing the best in people.” But after emotional abuse, hope can quietly become a coping mechanism that disconnects you from reality and keeps you emotionally attached to who someone could be instead of who they repeatedly show you they are.In this episode, you’ll learn:Why emotionally intelligent women often stay stuck in toxic relationshipsThe difference between healthy hope and emotional self-abandonmentWhy you keep waiting for them to changeHow trauma bonding and co-dependency fuel attachment to potentialWhy words and promises feel so convincing after emotional abuseHow to recognize relationship patterns instead of focusing on isolated momentsThe subconscious beliefs that keep women trapped in cycles of overthinking and confusionWhy “giving the benefit of the doubt” can become emotionally dangerousThe difference between emotional chemistry and emotional safetyWhy emotionally abusive relationships thrive on inconsistencyHow nervous system attachment keeps you hooked on emotional highs and lowsSigns you may be romanticizing someone’s future potential instead of accepting present realityIf you’ve been searching for:“How do I know if I should stay or leave?”“Why can’t I let go?”“Why do I keep hoping they’ll change?”“Am I trauma bonded?”“Why do I ignore red flags?”“Why do I feel addicted to the relationship?”“How do I stop overthinking my relationship?”“Can emotionally abusive people change?”“Why do I keep making excuses for them?”“Why do I feel guilty for wanting to leave?”…this episode will help you understand the deeper emotional and subconscious patterns driving those thoughts.This episode is not about becoming cold, bitter, or cynical. It’s about learning how to see clearly, trust yourself again, and stop building your future around someone else’s unfinished potential.✨ Ready for deeper healing?Explore the Emotional Healing Training Lab and the self-paced “Should I Stay or Leave?” course linked in the show notes. Set up your Free Call Today! Support the showReady to stop overthinking your past relationship and start feeling like yourself again?Visit www.radiatenrise.com and explore coaching programs, self-paced courses, resources, and tools designed to help you break free from emotional abuse, rumination, and self-doubt.✍🏻 Wanna Talk? Set up a for a FREE Call and discover what's really keeping you stuck, along with the next steps to help you move forward.https://www.radiatenrise.com/application-form📧 Questions? Email: [email protected]💬 Come say hi on Instagram or Facebook:Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/allisonkdagney/Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/allisonkdagney/Formerly The Emotional Abuse Recovery Podcast

Leave a text or voice message so we can respondParental alienation as a broad concept is one of the most painful and misunderstood experiences a parent can go through—especially after emotional abuse, divorce, or separation.In this episode, I sit down with Lisa Johnson of "Been There Got Out" to talk about the devastating reality of parental alienation, abuse by proxy, and what happens when an unsafe parent uses children as emotional weapons.We discuss how manipulative ex-partners use children to maintain control, how to avoid feeding into the same toxic dynamics, and what to do when your children begin pulling away from you. Lisa shares powerful insights and we talk about nervous system regulation, emotional self-control, and why becoming grounded—not defensive—is one of the most important things you can do.We also dive into parenting plans, custody agreements, and why iron-clad legal wording matters when dealing with high-conflict co-parenting situations.If you are navigating divorce, separation, custody battles, narcissistic abuse, or emotional abuse involving your children, this episode will help you feel seen, prepared, and empowered.Inside this episode: • What parental alienation actually looks like • Abuse by proxy and how children are used for control • Why reacting emotionally can work against you • Nervous system regulation during high-conflict co-parenting • How to respond when your child pulls away • Parenting plans and custody agreement mistakes to avoid • Protecting yourself emotionally and legallyThis conversation is honest, practical, and deeply important for anyone trying to parent through emotional abuse.If this episode resonates, make sure to grab my book Hack Your Mind, Heal Your Heart for deeper healing and subconscious reprogramming after emotional abuse.Connect with LISA JOHNSON & the BTGO team here: https://beentheregotout.com/Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/been_there_got_out/Get Lisa & Chris's Book: https://a.co/d/09VuyuWK Set up your Free Call Today! Support the showReady to stop overthinking your past relationship and start feeling like yourself again?Visit www.radiatenrise.com and explore coaching programs, self-paced courses, resources, and tools designed to help you break free from emotional abuse, rumination, and self-doubt.✍🏻 Wanna Talk? Set up a for a FREE Call and discover what's really keeping you stuck, along with the next steps to help you move forward.https://www.radiatenrise.com/application-form📧 Questions? Email: [email protected]💬 Come say hi on Instagram or Facebook:Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/allisonkdagney/Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/allisonkdagney/Formerly The Emotional Abuse Recovery Podcast

Leave a text or voice message so we can respondWhy do you always assume you did something wrong in relationships? Why does your mind immediately jump to “they must be thinking something bad about me” when someone pulls away, doesn’t respond, or seems off?In this episode, we break down the pattern of self-blame and obsessive mind-reading that many women experience after emotional abuse. You’ll learn why your brain fills in the blanks with worst-case assumptions, how trauma wires you to personalize other people’s behavior, and why this leads to anxiety, overthinking, and emotional exhaustion.We’ll also explore the difference between intuition and anxiety, and give you grounded, practical steps to interrupt the pattern so you can stop spiraling and start feeling more stable in your relationships.If you’ve ever felt like you’re constantly trying to figure out what others think of you—or blaming yourself when something feels off—this episode will help you understand why and show you a new way forward. Set up your Free Call Today! Support the showReady to stop overthinking your past relationship and start feeling like yourself again?Visit www.radiatenrise.com and explore coaching programs, self-paced courses, resources, and tools designed to help you break free from emotional abuse, rumination, and self-doubt.✍🏻 Wanna Talk? Set up a for a FREE Call and discover what's really keeping you stuck, along with the next steps to help you move forward.https://www.radiatenrise.com/application-form📧 Questions? Email: [email protected]💬 Come say hi on Instagram or Facebook:Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/allisonkdagney/Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/allisonkdagney/Formerly The Emotional Abuse Recovery Podcast

Leave a text or voice message so we can respondWhat if the clarity you’ve been searching for isn’t something you need to figure out… but something you can learn to receive?In this episode, I sit down with Christine Luken, Financial Dignity Coach, a Crystal Wisdom Codes practitioner, to explore a topic that a lot of people are curious about—but don’t always fully understand: crystals, intuition, and how we access deeper guidance in our lives.We go beyond the surface-level “woo” and get into a grounded conversation about what’s actually happening when people work with crystals. Christine shares how she experiences intuitive downloads (including what she calls “mind movies”), how she learned to trust what comes through, and why crystals aren’t something to depend on—but can act as amplifiers of energy, awareness, and insight.This conversation is for you if you’ve ever felt drawn to something more—whether that’s intuition, spirituality, or simply understanding yourself on a deeper level—but still want it to make sense.And if you’ve ever wondered… are crystals just rocks, or is there something more going on here? We get into that too.This isn’t about blind belief. It’s about awareness, reflection, and reconnecting to your own inner guidance in a way that actually supports your healing.To connect with Christine and get free resources go here: ⬇️Website: https://www.christineluken.com/ Money is Emotional Podcast: https://www.christineluken.com/podcast/ For women going through divorce: 💔Divorcing Woman’s Money Checklist http://bit.ly/divchklist OR First 3 chapters of Financial Dignity After Divorce book: http://financialdignityafterdivorce.com/  Set up your Free Call Today! Support the showReady to stop overthinking your past relationship and start feeling like yourself again?Visit www.radiatenrise.com and explore coaching programs, self-paced courses, resources, and tools designed to help you break free from emotional abuse, rumination, and self-doubt.✍🏻 Wanna Talk? Set up a for a FREE Call and discover what's really keeping you stuck, along with the next steps to help you move forward.https://www.radiatenrise.com/application-form📧 Questions? Email: [email protected]💬 Come say hi on Instagram or Facebook:Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/allisonkdagney/Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/allisonkdagney/Formerly The Emotional Abuse Recovery Podcast

Leave a text or voice message so we can respondYou feel the spark. The pull. The butterflies that make it feel like this could be something real.But what if that “chemistry” isn’t actually a good sign?In this episode, we’re breaking down why intense attraction after emotional abuse can be misleading—and how what feels like connection is often your nervous system recognizing a familiar (and unhealthy) pattern.You’ll learn the difference between true emotional safety and nervous system activation, why calm and consistent can feel boring at first, and how to stop mistaking anxiety for chemistry in dating and relationships.We also go deeper into how to rebuild trust with your body’s intuition, recognize patterns that mirror past abusive relationships or childhood dynamics, and begin shifting out of cycles of overthinking, chasing, and emotional highs and lows.If you’ve ever found yourself drawn to the same type of person over and over again… this episode will help you understand why—and what to do differently moving forward.This isn’t about ignoring attraction. It’s about understanding what’s driving it.In this episode, we cover: Why “chemistry” can be a red flag after emotional abuse  The difference between healthy attraction and trauma-based attraction  How your nervous system influences who you’re drawn to  Why calm, steady relationships can feel unfamiliar or wrong  How to trust your body’s intuition again  Practical ways to recognize and interrupt unhealthy relationship patterns If you're ready to stop repeating the same relationship cycle and start understanding your patterns at the root, you can book a free 30-minute Root Cause Call through the show notes.Keywords: emotional abuse recovery, trauma bonding, relationship patterns, dating after emotional abuse, nervous system healing, toxic relationships, healthy relationships, intuition and relationships, attachment patterns, why I feel chemistry with the wrong person, break toxic cycles, subconscious patterns, healing from narcissistic abuse, relationship anxiety, trauma and attraction Set up your Free Call Today! Support the showReady to stop overthinking your past relationship and start feeling like yourself again?Visit www.radiatenrise.com and explore coaching programs, self-paced courses, resources, and tools designed to help you break free from emotional abuse, rumination, and self-doubt.✍🏻 Wanna Talk? Set up a for a FREE Call and discover what's really keeping you stuck, along with the next steps to help you move forward.https://www.radiatenrise.com/application-form📧 Questions? Email: [email protected]💬 Come say hi on Instagram or Facebook:Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/allisonkdagney/Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/allisonkdagney/Formerly The Emotional Abuse Recovery Podcast

Leave a text or voice message so we can respondMost people dismiss their dreams as random noise… but what if they’re actually one of the clearest ways your subconscious tries to reach you?In this episode, I sit down with spiritual guide and dream worker Maelle (known as Oneiraya — “queen of dreams”) to explore what’s really happening when you sleep, and why your dreams may be far more intentional than you’ve been taught to believe.We dive into the inner dynamics that shape your dream world — including the protector and persecutor parts of the mind that influence whether your dreams feel supportive, symbolic, or unsettling. You’ll start to see how even your most confusing or uncomfortable dreams aren’t random… they’re messages.We also talk about: • Why some people believe they “can’t dream” (and what’s actually going on) • How to begin noticing patterns, themes, and recurring symbols • Simple ways to prime your mind for deeper, more meaningful dreams • How to build self-trust by learning your own internal language • The connection between trauma, healing, and dream awarenessMaelle also shares pieces of her own story and how her experiences led her into this work — which adds a powerful, human layer to the conversation.If you’ve ever woken up from a dream and felt like there was something there… something just out of reach… this episode will help you start paying attention in a completely different way.Your dreams aren’t here to entertain you. They’re here to guide you.—✨ If this episode resonates, you can connect with Maelle / Oneiraya online and explore more of her work around dream interpretation and inner guidance. https://www.instagram.com/oneiraya_/✨ And if you’re ready to go deeper into your own patterns and subconscious programming, you can book a free 30-minute Root Cause Call with me using the link in the show notes. Set up your Free Call Today! Support the showReady to stop overthinking your past relationship and start feeling like yourself again?Visit www.radiatenrise.com and explore coaching programs, self-paced courses, resources, and tools designed to help you break free from emotional abuse, rumination, and self-doubt.✍🏻 Wanna Talk? Set up a for a FREE Call and discover what's really keeping you stuck, along with the next steps to help you move forward.https://www.radiatenrise.com/application-form📧 Questions? Email: [email protected]💬 Come say hi on Instagram or Facebook:Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/allisonkdagney/Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/allisonkdagney/Formerly The Emotional Abuse Recovery Podcast

Leave a text or voice message so we can respondIf you’ve ever felt stuck in patterns you know aren’t serving you—whether it’s alcohol, emotional eating, overthinking, or constantly seeking validation from someone—this episode will change the way you see it.In today’s episode, we’re breaking down the truth about coping mechanisms and why it’s not about willpower, discipline, or “just stopping.” You’ll learn how your brain and nervous system create coping strategies to regulate emotional pain after toxic or emotionally abusive relationships—and why those patterns can feel so hard to break.We talk about the deeper root of behaviors like needing reassurance in dating, attachment to someone you barely know, and the cycle of reaching for temporary relief instead of addressing what’s underneath. If you’ve ever asked yourself, “Why do I keep doing this?”—this episode will give you clarity.You’ll walk away understanding:Why coping mechanisms aren’t the problem—but the solution your mind createdWhat you’re actually trying to avoid or regulate emotionallyWhy you can’t just “stop” without addressing the root causeHow to begin shifting these patterns in a real, lasting wayThis is a powerful episode for anyone healing from emotional abuse, trauma bonding, anxious attachment, or struggling with self-sabotage and emotional regulation.✨ My new book, Hack Your Mind, Heal Your Heart: A Trauma-Informed Path to Healing from Emotional Abuse, is officially out today—April 21, 2026—and available now on Amazon in paperback and ebook. If you’re ready to break free from these patterns and finally understand your mind, this book will guide you step-by-step.GET THE BOOK HERE Set up your Free Call Today! Support the showReady to stop overthinking your past relationship and start feeling like yourself again?Visit www.radiatenrise.com and explore coaching programs, self-paced courses, resources, and tools designed to help you break free from emotional abuse, rumination, and self-doubt.✍🏻 Wanna Talk? Set up a for a FREE Call and discover what's really keeping you stuck, along with the next steps to help you move forward.https://www.radiatenrise.com/application-form📧 Questions? Email: [email protected]💬 Come say hi on Instagram or Facebook:Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/allisonkdagney/Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/allisonkdagney/Formerly The Emotional Abuse Recovery Podcast

Leave a text or voice message so we can respondWhat actually happens in the brain after emotional abuse—and why can healing feel so difficult even when you know the relationship was unhealthy?In this episode, I’m sharing a conversation from my recent appearance on Chantal Contorines’ podcast, The Survivor’s Playbook. Chantal is a high-conflict divorce and recovery coach who supports people navigating the complicated reality of leaving toxic or emotionally abusive relationships.Together, we dive into the science behind emotional abuse recovery, exploring why the brain often continues replaying painful relationships long after they’ve ended and what needs to happen for real healing to begin.In this candid conversation, we discuss:• What emotional abuse does to the brain and nervous system • Why people often experience rumination, overthinking, and mental loops after a toxic relationship • The subconscious patterns that can keep someone emotionally stuck • Why leaving an unhealthy relationship is rarely as simple as people think • What it actually takes to retrain the mind and begin healingWe also talk about ideas from my upcoming book Hack Your Mind, Heal Your Heart, which explores how subconscious programming shapes the way we think, react, and stay attached to painful relationship patterns—and how those patterns can be interrupted so real change can happen.This episode is an honest, informative conversation between two women working in the world of emotional abuse recovery, trauma healing, and personal growth, sharing insights from the work we do with clients every day.If you’re navigating the aftermath of a toxic relationship, struggling with rumination, or trying to understand why your mind keeps going back to the past, this conversation will help you see what’s really happening beneath the surface.You can learn more about Chantal Contorines and her podcast The Survivor’s Playbook by searching for her online or on your favorite podcast platform. Her work focuses on supporting people through high-conflict relationships, co-parenting challenges, and rebuilding life after emotional abuse.Keywords: emotional abuse recovery, healing after emotional abuse, toxic relationships, rumination after breakup, trauma bonding, brain science of trauma, narcissistic abuse recovery, high conflict relationships, relationship trauma healing, subconscious patterns, healing after toxic relationships.Contact Chantal here: https://www.instagram.com/chantal.contorines.coaching/ Set up your Free Call Today! Support the showReady to stop overthinking your past relationship and start feeling like yourself again?Visit www.radiatenrise.com and explore coaching programs, self-paced courses, resources, and tools designed to help you break free from emotional abuse, rumination, and self-doubt.✍🏻 Wanna Talk? Set up a for a FREE Call and discover what's really keeping you stuck, along with the next steps to help you move forward.https://www.radiatenrise.com/application-form📧 Questions? Email: [email protected]💬 Come say hi on Instagram or Facebook:Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/allisonkdagney/Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/allisonkdagney/Formerly The Emotional Abuse Recovery Podcast

Leave a text or voice message so we can respondIf you’ve ever felt like you’ve done the work to move on from a toxic or emotionally abusive relationship—but something still lingers—this episode is for you.In this powerful conversation, we’re breaking down the “ick” that won’t go away… the emotional residue that stays in your thoughts, your body, and your sense of self long after the relationship has ended.You’ll learn why healing from emotional abuse isn’t just about time or mindset, but about understanding how your brain and nervous system adapted to survive the relationship. We talk about why you still second-guess yourself, replay conversations, and feel disconnected from who you used to be—and why that doesn’t mean you’re stuck or broken.This episode will help you understand the root cause of rumination, self-doubt, and emotional triggers, while giving you a new perspective on what it actually takes to heal at a deeper level. If you’re ready to stop trying to “move on” and start feeling like yourself again, this is the missing piece.✨ My new book, Hack Your Mind, Heal Your Heart: A Trauma-Informed Path to Healing from Emotional Abuse, is available April 21st on Amazon and will guide you step-by-step through the process of rewiring the patterns that keep you stuck. Set up your Free Call Today! Support the showReady to stop overthinking your past relationship and start feeling like yourself again?Visit www.radiatenrise.com and explore coaching programs, self-paced courses, resources, and tools designed to help you break free from emotional abuse, rumination, and self-doubt.✍🏻 Wanna Talk? Set up a for a FREE Call and discover what's really keeping you stuck, along with the next steps to help you move forward.https://www.radiatenrise.com/application-form📧 Questions? Email: [email protected]💬 Come say hi on Instagram or Facebook:Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/allisonkdagney/Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/allisonkdagney/Formerly The Emotional Abuse Recovery Podcast

Leave a text or voice message so we can respondHave you ever looked back at a relationship and wondered, How did I stay so long when I knew something wasn’t right?In this episode, we’re unpacking a powerful truth that many people struggle to admit: intelligence does not protect you from toxic relationships. In fact, the very qualities that make someone thoughtful, capable, and self-aware can sometimes keep them stuck longer.We explore why smart, self-aware people often stay in unhealthy or emotionally abusive relationships, including how empathy, problem-solving, overanalysis, and a deep desire to understand others can unintentionally keep you trapped in difficult dynamics.You’ll learn how the brain’s need for explanation, closure, and resolution can create powerful mental and emotional loops, and why understanding the relationship isn’t always enough to break free from it.In this episode, we discuss:• Why intelligent, capable people stay in toxic or emotionally abusive relationships • The role of subconscious programming and attachment patterns • How overthinking and analysis can keep you stuck in relationship loops • Why intermittent reinforcement makes toxic dynamics so hard to leave • The difference between understanding your patterns and actually changing them • How to start identifying the deeper beliefs and emotional patterns that keep pulling you backIf you’ve ever struggled with rumination after a breakup, emotional abuse recovery, toxic relationship patterns, or trusting yourself again, this episode will help you understand what’s really happening beneath the surface.We’ll also touch on ideas from my upcoming book, Hack Your Mind, Heal Your Heart, where I explain how subconscious patterns shape the way we think, react, and stay stuck in relationship cycles—and what it actually takes to interrupt those patterns so you can move forward with clarity and self-trust.If you’re ready to stop overanalyzing the past and start changing the patterns that keep repeating it, this episode is for you.Keywords: toxic relationships, emotional abuse recovery, why smart people stay in toxic relationships, trauma bonding, rumination after breakup, relationship psychology, subconscious patterns, narcissistic relationships, healing after emotional abuse, overthinking relationships, break toxic relationship patterns, trust yourself again, personal growth podcast. Set up your Free Call Today! Support the showReady to stop overthinking your past relationship and start feeling like yourself again?Visit www.radiatenrise.com and explore coaching programs, self-paced courses, resources, and tools designed to help you break free from emotional abuse, rumination, and self-doubt.✍🏻 Wanna Talk? Set up a for a FREE Call and discover what's really keeping you stuck, along with the next steps to help you move forward.https://www.radiatenrise.com/application-form📧 Questions? Email: [email protected]💬 Come say hi on Instagram or Facebook:Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/allisonkdagney/Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/allisonkdagney/Formerly The Emotional Abuse Recovery Podcast

Leave a text or voice message so we can respondIf you’ve ever thought, “I could write a book about my life…” but don’t know where to start—this episode is for you.In this powerful conversation, I sit down with author and storytelling coach Heather Hutzel, who has written over 20 books and spent the last two decades mastering the art of storytelling.We dive into what actually makes a story compelling—not just something that happened, but something people feel and can’t put down. Heather breaks down the hero’s journey, the biggest mistakes new writers make, and why most people stay stuck before they ever begin.We also talk about how to turn personal pain into something meaningful—without getting lost in it.At the beginning of the episode, Heather shares a deeply vulnerable story of loss that shaped her path as a writer. And by the end, she reveals the most important thing you need to focus on if you truly want to bring your story into the world.If you’re a survivor, a healer, or someone who knows there’s a story inside of you waiting to be told—this episode will show you how to start.🎧 In this episode, you’ll learn:Why most people never finish writing their storyThe biggest mistakes new authors make (and how to avoid them)What actually makes a story engaging and unforgettableHow the hero’s journey applies to your real lifeWhere to start when you feel overwhelmed or unsureThe one thing that matters most when telling your storyThis isn’t about writing a perfect book. It’s about finally telling the truth of your life in a way that lands.JOIN HEATHER'S WORKSHOP: https://hrhutzel.store/products/threshold-workshopContact Heather: https://www.hrhutzel.com/ Set up your Free Call Today! Support the showReady to stop overthinking your past relationship and start feeling like yourself again?Visit www.radiatenrise.com and explore coaching programs, self-paced courses, resources, and tools designed to help you break free from emotional abuse, rumination, and self-doubt.✍🏻 Wanna Talk? Set up a for a FREE Call and discover what's really keeping you stuck, along with the next steps to help you move forward.https://www.radiatenrise.com/application-form📧 Questions? Email: [email protected]💬 Come say hi on Instagram or Facebook:Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/allisonkdagney/Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/allisonkdagney/Formerly The Emotional Abuse Recovery Podcast

Leave a text or voice message so we can respondVenting can feel good in the moment—but what if constantly talking about your pain is actually keeping you stuck?In this episode, we’re diving into the hidden dangers of co-rumination—the cycle of repeatedly discussing problems, betrayal, stress, or emotional wounds with others in a way that reinforces pain instead of helping you heal. While validation and support are important, constantly rehashing the same experiences can strengthen rumination loops, increase anxiety, and train your brain to keep searching for more evidence of the hurt.You’ll learn how co-rumination affects your mental health, nervous system, and even physical well-being, why it can create an addictive cycle of temporary relief, and how it can quietly halt your healing after emotional abuse or difficult relationships.We’ll also talk about something most people never consider: how therapy sessions, coaching, or conversations with friends can unintentionally become co-rumination if the focus stays on repeating the story rather than creating real movement and change.Inside this episode, you’ll discover:• What co-rumination is and why it feels so validating • How repeated venting can strengthen rumination and emotional loops • The role of the brain’s Reticular Activating System (RAS) in keeping you focused on pain • The mental and physical health impacts of constantly reliving stressful experiences • Signs your therapist, coach, or support system may be reinforcing the loop • Practical ways to set boundaries, shift beliefs, and interrupt the cycleIf you’ve ever felt stuck replaying conversations, overanalyzing the past, or needing to vent about the same issue over and over just to get relief, this episode will help you understand why—and what to do instead.We’ll also touch on ideas from my upcoming book, Hack Your Mind, Heal Your Heart, where I break down how subconscious patterns, rumination, and repetition shape the way we think, feel, and react—and how to interrupt those loops so real healing can begin.If you’re ready to stop rehearsing pain and start creating real change, this episode is for you.Keywords: co-rumination, rumination, emotional abuse recovery, trauma healing, toxic relationships, nervous system healing, overthinking, venting addiction, mental health, subconscious patterns, stop rumination, relationship trauma, healing after abuse, personal growth podcast.BOOK LIST: www.allisonkdagney.com Set up your Free Call Today! Support the showReady to stop overthinking your past relationship and start feeling like yourself again?Visit www.radiatenrise.com and explore coaching programs, self-paced courses, resources, and tools designed to help you break free from emotional abuse, rumination, and self-doubt.✍🏻 Wanna Talk? Set up a for a FREE Call and discover what's really keeping you stuck, along with the next steps to help you move forward.https://www.radiatenrise.com/application-form📧 Questions? Email: [email protected]💬 Come say hi on Instagram or Facebook:Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/allisonkdagney/Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/allisonkdagney/Formerly The Emotional Abuse Recovery Podcast

Leave a text or voice message so we can respondIn this powerful episode of The Be a Better You Podcast, we dive deep into neurodivergence, neuroplasticity, and what it truly means to work with your brain instead of against it — especially when you're recovering from emotional abuse, narcissistic abuse, or toxic relationships that made you believe something was fundamentally wrong with you.What we cover:What neurodivergence really means — and why it may describe far more of us than traditional diagnoses suggestThe little-known facts about ADHD, executive dysfunction, and emotional dysregulation that nobody talks aboutWhy survivors of narcissistic abuse and emotional abuse often experience patterns that look and feel neurodivergent — and what that means for your healingThe neuroscience of neural plasticity: how your brain can literally rewire itself at any age, and why recovery is not just possible — it's biologicalA real listener story (T's story) about freezing, overwhelm, and the panic of trying to build new habits after years of survivingThe one question that can unlock your ability to take action and finally follow throughA practical, evidence-based method for shifting the limiting beliefs installed by narcissistic abuse, gaslighting, and chronic self-doubtTools for ADHD brains, anxious brains, and trauma-conditioned brains to regulate, start, and completeWhether you have a formal diagnosis of ADHD, autism, or another neurodivergent condition — or you simply feel like your brain works differently and nobody has ever explained why — this episode will normalize your experience, validate your struggle, and give you a real, science-backed path forward.If you've been told you're "too much," "too scattered," "too sensitive," or "not capable of following through," this episode is your answer. Narcissistic abusers and emotional abusers often weaponize the way our minds work. Today, we take that back.Topics: emotional abuse recovery, narcissistic abuse recovery, neurodivergence, ADHD and emotional abuse, neural plasticity, brain rewiring, limiting beliefs, habit building with ADHD, executive dysfunction, trauma and the brain, healing from toxic relationships, self-worth after narcissistic abuse, nervous system regulation, belief reprogramming, be a better youemotional abuse recovery, narcissistic abuse, neurodivergence, ADHD, neural plasticity, brain rewiring, limiting beliefs, trauma recovery, executive dysfunction, habit building, nervous system regulation, toxic relationships, healing, self-worth, belief reprogramming Set up your Free Call Today! Support the showReady to stop overthinking your past relationship and start feeling like yourself again?Visit www.radiatenrise.com and explore coaching programs, self-paced courses, resources, and tools designed to help you break free from emotional abuse, rumination, and self-doubt.✍🏻 Wanna Talk? Set up a for a FREE Call and discover what's really keeping you stuck, along with the next steps to help you move forward.https://www.radiatenrise.com/application-form📧 Questions? Email: [email protected]💬 Come say hi on Instagram or Facebook:Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/allisonkdagney/Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/allisonkdagney/Formerly The Emotional Abuse Recovery Podcast

Leave a text or voice message so we can respondImposter syndrome after emotional abuse looks like doubting your memory.Minimizing what happened. Feeling dramatic for having boundaries.Questioning whether it was “really that bad.”In this episode, we unpack how emotional abuse and trauma conditioning create deep self-doubt — and why you feel like an imposter in your own story.You’ll learn:• How other people's voices rewire your perception• Why people-pleasing fuels imposter syndrome• Hidden beliefs keeping you stuck in self-doubt• Practical steps to interrupt the Imposter Voice (aka ego)This episode will help you understand what’s actually happening inside your nervous system — and how to stop allowing the imposter to keep you from being your best self. Healing from emotional abuse requires more than mindset shifts. It requires breaking the self-doubt loop at the root and taking aligned action to reinforce the beliefs that serve you well.  Set up your Free Call Today! Support the showReady to stop overthinking your past relationship and start feeling like yourself again?Visit www.radiatenrise.com and explore coaching programs, self-paced courses, resources, and tools designed to help you break free from emotional abuse, rumination, and self-doubt.✍🏻 Wanna Talk? Set up a for a FREE Call and discover what's really keeping you stuck, along with the next steps to help you move forward.https://www.radiatenrise.com/application-form📧 Questions? Email: [email protected]💬 Come say hi on Instagram or Facebook:Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/allisonkdagney/Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/allisonkdagney/Formerly The Emotional Abuse Recovery Podcast

Leave a text or voice message so we can respondHave you ever walked away from a relationship wondering how you became so confused, reactive, or unsure of yourself? In this episode, we unpack why so many emotionally intelligent, self-aware people end up questioning their own reality in unhealthy relationships—and why that doesn’t mean anything was wrong with you.You’ll learn how emotional inconsistency, mixed signals, and subtle invalidation can slowly erode self-trust, leading you to internalize beliefs like “I’m too sensitive” or “I can’t trust my perception.” We’ll explore gentle belief shifts—asking what else might be possible—and how confusion is often a nervous-system response, not a personal failure.If you’ve ever replayed conversations, doubted your memory, or felt like you lost yourself trying to make sense of someone else’s behavior, this episode will help you reconnect with clarity and self-trust.You’ll also hear how identifying the beliefs formed in these dynamics can be a powerful first step toward healing, and where to go if you’re ready to interrupt the loop at the root. Set up your Free Call Today! Support the showReady to stop overthinking your past relationship and start feeling like yourself again?Visit www.radiatenrise.com and explore coaching programs, self-paced courses, resources, and tools designed to help you break free from emotional abuse, rumination, and self-doubt.✍🏻 Wanna Talk? Set up a for a FREE Call and discover what's really keeping you stuck, along with the next steps to help you move forward.https://www.radiatenrise.com/application-form📧 Questions? Email: [email protected]💬 Come say hi on Instagram or Facebook:Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/allisonkdagney/Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/allisonkdagney/Formerly The Emotional Abuse Recovery Podcast

Leave a text or voice message so we can respondIn this episode of the "Be A Better You Podcast," we're diving deeper into the journey of breaking trauma bonds, offering advanced strategies and practical tools for healing. Building on  discussions about identifying and challenging harmful beliefs, this episode focuses on actionable steps to reprogram the mind, foster self-compassion, and establish healthy boundaries.We'll begin by exploring specific techniques for reprogramming the mind, such as using affirmations and positive self-talk to replace negative beliefs, engaging in visualization exercises to imagine a future free from trauma bonds, and utilizing journaling prompts to uncover and challenge deep-seated beliefs. These practices help reshape your thought patterns, making it easier to let go of the past and embrace a healthier mindset.Next, we'll discuss the importance of self-compassion in the healing process. By incorporating mindfulness and meditation practices, you can connect with your inner self and cultivate a compassionate self-dialogue. Establishing regular self-care rituals will further nurture your mind, body, and spirit, helping you build resilience and strength.Setting healthy boundaries is another crucial aspect of breaking trauma bonds. Protecting yourself from further harm and fostering healthy relationships is essential for long-term healing.Join us for this episode as we dive into these advanced strategies and provide you with the tools and resources needed to accelerate your journey to freedom and reclaim your life.Support the showReady to stop overthinking your past relationship and start feeling like yourself again?Visit www.radiatenrise.com and explore coaching programs, self-paced courses, resources, and tools designed to help you break free from emotional abuse, rumination, and self-doubt.✍🏻 Wanna Talk? Set up a for a FREE Call and discover what's really keeping you stuck, along with the next steps to help you move forward.https://www.radiatenrise.com/application-form📧 Questions? Email: [email protected]💬 Come say hi on Instagram or Facebook:Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/allisonkdagney/Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/allisonkdagney/Formerly The Emotional Abuse Recovery Podcast

Leave a text or voice message so we can respondAfter emotional abuse, it’s common to either distrust everyone or to rely too heavily on words, promises, and explanations. In this episode, we talk about how to rebuild discernment by learning how to read people accurately—through patterns of behavior rather than intention or language.We explore why accepting what someone says over what they consistently do often leads to confusion and self-doubt, and how emotional abuse conditions people to override their instincts in favor of hope, reassurance, or potential. You’ll learn how to recognize integrity as a pattern, not a personality trait, and why behavior over time is the clearest indicator of safety in any relationship.This episode also gently turns the lens inward. We talk about how your own patterns—follow-through, boundaries, repair, and self-honoring—become a mirror that helps you read others more clearly. Not from shame or self-criticism, but from alignment and awareness. Because when your relationship with yourself is grounded in integrity, clarity with others comes more naturally. Set up your Free Call Today! Support the showReady to stop overthinking your past relationship and start feeling like yourself again?Visit www.radiatenrise.com and explore coaching programs, self-paced courses, resources, and tools designed to help you break free from emotional abuse, rumination, and self-doubt.✍🏻 Wanna Talk? Set up a for a FREE Call and discover what's really keeping you stuck, along with the next steps to help you move forward.https://www.radiatenrise.com/application-form📧 Questions? Email: [email protected]💬 Come say hi on Instagram or Facebook:Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/allisonkdagney/Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/allisonkdagney/Formerly The Emotional Abuse Recovery Podcast

Leave a text or voice message so we can respondMany people don’t relate to the word abuse—not because nothing happened, but because emotional control often doesn’t look dramatic, obvious, or cruel. In emotionally abusive or controlling relationships, the most damaging patterns are often subtle, gradual, and reinforced in ways that are easy to miss while you’re in them.In this episode, we explore the subtle signs of emotional control that don’t look like abuse, including how conditioning, self-doubt, and relief-based compliance can quietly train you to minimize your needs, question your perception, and adapt in ways you didn’t consciously choose. You’ll learn why so many people struggle to name emotional abuse, how shame and conditioning keep experiences minimized, and why recognizing these patterns is not about blame—but about clarity and empowerment.This episode is for anyone who has ever thought “It wasn’t that bad” while still feeling smaller, more careful, or less like themselves. If you’re trying to make sense of lingering confusion after a relationship and want language for what actually happened, this conversation will help you see it clearly—and understand why naming it can be the beginning of real healing. Set up your Free Call Today! Support the showReady to stop overthinking your past relationship and start feeling like yourself again?Visit www.radiatenrise.com and explore coaching programs, self-paced courses, resources, and tools designed to help you break free from emotional abuse, rumination, and self-doubt.✍🏻 Wanna Talk? Set up a for a FREE Call and discover what's really keeping you stuck, along with the next steps to help you move forward.https://www.radiatenrise.com/application-form📧 Questions? Email: [email protected]💬 Come say hi on Instagram or Facebook:Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/allisonkdagney/Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/allisonkdagney/Formerly The Emotional Abuse Recovery Podcast

Leave a text or voice message so we can respondLeaving an emotionally abusive or toxic relationship doesn’t always bring the relief you expect. For many people, the trauma bond actually feels stronger after it’s over—bringing increased rumination, anxiety, longing, and confusion that can make you question yourself and your decision.In this episode, I explain why trauma bonds often intensify after you leave, what’s happening in your nervous system during this phase, and why this reaction has nothing to do with weakness, love, or making the wrong choice. You’ll learn how withdrawal from the trauma bond works, why time and insight alone don’t stop the loop, and how these patterns keep people stuck in self-blame.I also share two practical tools you can use immediately to interrupt the cycle—tools designed to help your body settle so the bond can actually unwind, rather than reinforcing it through willpower or distraction.If you’ve been wondering why it feels harder now—or why you can’t seem to stop thinking about them—this episode will help you understand what’s really going on and why your experience makes sense. Set up your Free Call Today! Support the showReady to stop overthinking your past relationship and start feeling like yourself again?Visit www.radiatenrise.com and explore coaching programs, self-paced courses, resources, and tools designed to help you break free from emotional abuse, rumination, and self-doubt.✍🏻 Wanna Talk? Set up a for a FREE Call and discover what's really keeping you stuck, along with the next steps to help you move forward.https://www.radiatenrise.com/application-form📧 Questions? Email: [email protected]💬 Come say hi on Instagram or Facebook:Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/allisonkdagney/Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/allisonkdagney/Formerly The Emotional Abuse Recovery Podcast

Leave a text or voice message so we can respondIf you’ve ever caught yourself missing someone who made you anxious, small, or constantly on edge… this episode is for you.Because what you’re feeling is withdrawal, not a personal flaw.After emotionally unsafe, narcissistic abuse, or abusive relationships, the nervous system gets conditioned to extreme highs and lows. A few good days followed by sudden blowups. Relief after tension. Chaos mistaken for chemistry. And when it ends, your body doesn’t miss the person — it misses the dopamine-driven cycle it learned to survive in.In this episode, we’re talking about emotional sobriety — what it actually means to detox from intensity, why calm can feel boring or wrong at first, and how your system recalibrates after chaos. We’ll break down why stable relationships don’t feel exciting in the beginning, why your brain edits the past when you’re vulnerable, and how to tell the difference between love and nervous-system addiction.I’ll also share real, relatable examples from my work with clients and my Radiate & Rise community that show how people stop craving the highs and lows — not by trying harder, but by healing the root cause.✨ If you’re in that in-between space — missing what hurt you and questioning your decision — you don’t have to white-knuckle this alone. Book a free Root Cause Call and let’s uncover what your nervous system is still attached to, so you can move forward without getting pulled back. Set up your Free Call Today! Support the showReady to stop overthinking your past relationship and start feeling like yourself again?Visit www.radiatenrise.com and explore coaching programs, self-paced courses, resources, and tools designed to help you break free from emotional abuse, rumination, and self-doubt.✍🏻 Wanna Talk? Set up a for a FREE Call and discover what's really keeping you stuck, along with the next steps to help you move forward.https://www.radiatenrise.com/application-form📧 Questions? Email: [email protected]💬 Come say hi on Instagram or Facebook:Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/allisonkdagney/Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/allisonkdagney/Formerly The Emotional Abuse Recovery Podcast

Leave a text or voice message so we can respondTwo hundred episodes in, certain truths become impossible to ignore.After years of conversations, client work, and pattern-spotting, one thing is clear: people don’t struggle because they lack insight, discipline, or desire to change. They struggle because their nervous systems are overloaded — and most healing tools ask for effort at the exact moment capacity is lowest.In this milestone episode, I’m sharing what 200 episodes have taught me about why insight alone doesn’t stick, why willpower fails under stress, and why real change begins with regulation rather than force. We’ll talk about the role of safety in healing, why the body always leads the process, and how support has to work when you’re tired, triggered, or overwhelmed — not just when you’re feeling motivated.I’ll also share why sound-based nervous system support became non-negotiable in my work, and how creating ease — not pressure — changed the way people heal between sessions and in real life.✨ If you’re ready for steadier change instead of another cycle of pushing and burnout, there’s a free audio mentioned in this episode that lets you experience this approach firsthand — and an optional Root Cause Call if you want clarity around the patterns your system is still holding.About the music: This episode is layered with a subtle, ambient soundscape designed to support nervous system regulation while you listen. The music is intentionally minimal — steady, warm, and unobtrusive — meant to hold focus and create a sense of calm without pulling attention away from the conversation. Think of it as quiet support in the background, helping your body stay present as the message lands.🎧  GET YOUR FREE "STOP THE LOOP" AUDIO HERE 🎧Support the showReady to stop overthinking your past relationship and start feeling like yourself again?Visit www.radiatenrise.com and explore coaching programs, self-paced courses, resources, and tools designed to help you break free from emotional abuse, rumination, and self-doubt.✍🏻 Wanna Talk? Set up a for a FREE Call and discover what's really keeping you stuck, along with the next steps to help you move forward.https://www.radiatenrise.com/application-form📧 Questions? Email: [email protected]💬 Come say hi on Instagram or Facebook:Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/allisonkdagney/Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/allisonkdagney/Formerly The Emotional Abuse Recovery Podcast

Leave a text or voice message so we can respondDating after emotional abuse isn’t about learning better lines or spotting red flags faster. It’s about understanding what gets activated inside you when intimacy returns.In this episode, I sit down with Tina Joy, and we go far beyond surface-level dating advice. We talk about what really happens when someone starts dating again after a narcissistic or emotionally abusive relationship—and why so many people feel confused, triggered, or afraid even when nothing is “wrong.”We explore:What to focus on before dating again after abuseHow to tell the difference between real red flags and old wounds getting activatedWhy emotionally intelligent, self-aware women are often told they’re “too much”How abuse distorts self-worth—and what it takes to rebuild itThe green flags that actually matter when you want a healthy, emotionally safe partnerAnd honestly? We talked about a lot more than we planned—because this conversation opened doors.This episode is for anyone who wants to date again without losing themselves… for anyone who doesn’t want to repeat old patterns… and for anyone who wants connection without chaos.Tina Joy is a literal joy to talk to—grounded, insightful, and refreshingly real. Tina is a distinguished Relationship Coach and Matchmaker known for her success in guiding high-profile clients toward meaningful connections. She has curated transformative relationship strategies for over 200,000 individuals, leveraging a blend of personal insight and sophisticated matchmaking techniques.In addition to her coaching prowess, Tina has a vibrant background in entertainment as a successful actress, bringing a unique perspective on personal charisma and storytelling to her coaching practice. Her career also includes significant achievements as a Special Events Coordinator, where she skillfully managed high-profile events, TikTok Branded Live-streaming Host, and as a Personal Trainer/Stretch Therapist, crafting tailored wellness programs for diverse clients.With a powerful combination of coaching expertise, VIP matchmaking, and a dynamic presence from her acting career, Tina offers a compelling perspective on creating impactful relationships and navigating high-profile environments. She is an ideal guest for podcasts exploring elite coaching, relationship dynamics, matchmaking and the intersection of entertainment and personal development.Connect with her: https://www.instagram.com/iamtinajoy/ Set up your Free Call Today! Support the showReady to stop overthinking your past relationship and start feeling like yourself again?Visit www.radiatenrise.com and explore coaching programs, self-paced courses, resources, and tools designed to help you break free from emotional abuse, rumination, and self-doubt.✍🏻 Wanna Talk? Set up a for a FREE Call and discover what's really keeping you stuck, along with the next steps to help you move forward.https://www.radiatenrise.com/application-form📧 Questions? Email: [email protected]💬 Come say hi on Instagram or Facebook:Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/allisonkdagney/Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/allisonkdagney/Formerly The Emotional Abuse Recovery Podcast

Leave a text or voice message so we can respondEver notice how motivation feels strong for about two weeks and then suddenly disappears?If you’ve ever told yourself “I just can’t stick to things” or “I always fall off,” this episode is going to flip that belief on its head.Because the truth is — your problem isn’t discipline, consistency, or commitment.It’s your nervous system.In this episode, we’re breaking down why willpower always fails, especially after emotional stress, burnout, or abusive relationships — and what’s actually required for change to last. You’ll learn why your brain prioritizes safety over goals, why familiar patterns pull you back even when you want something different, and how consistency becomes effortless once your body feels safe enough to move forward.I’ll also share real examples that show how people stop self-sabotaging without trying harder — simply by addressing the root cause.If you’re ready for this year to be different — not because you pushed harder, but because you finally worked with your system instead of against it — this episode is for you. Set up your Free Call Today! Support the showReady to stop overthinking your past relationship and start feeling like yourself again?Visit www.radiatenrise.com and explore coaching programs, self-paced courses, resources, and tools designed to help you break free from emotional abuse, rumination, and self-doubt.✍🏻 Wanna Talk? Set up a for a FREE Call and discover what's really keeping you stuck, along with the next steps to help you move forward.https://www.radiatenrise.com/application-form📧 Questions? Email: [email protected]💬 Come say hi on Instagram or Facebook:Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/allisonkdagney/Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/allisonkdagney/Formerly The Emotional Abuse Recovery Podcast

Leave a text or voice message so we can respondWelcome to The Be A Better You Podcast, where I am exploring empowering women to break through their subconscious blocks that hinder personal growth and success. In this episode, we explore the hidden barriers that hold us back, from fear-based blocks and resistance to change to unresolved emotions. Through a guided visualization exercise, listeners will visualize their specific blocks and tap into their innate wisdom to find personalized solutions. Join us on this journey of self-discovery and empowerment as we unlock the path to becoming a better version of ourselves together! Set up your Free Call Today! Support the showReady to stop overthinking your past relationship and start feeling like yourself again?Visit www.radiatenrise.com and explore coaching programs, self-paced courses, resources, and tools designed to help you break free from emotional abuse, rumination, and self-doubt.✍🏻 Wanna Talk? Set up a for a FREE Call and discover what's really keeping you stuck, along with the next steps to help you move forward.https://www.radiatenrise.com/application-form📧 Questions? Email: [email protected]💬 Come say hi on Instagram or Facebook:Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/allisonkdagney/Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/allisonkdagney/Formerly The Emotional Abuse Recovery Podcast

Leave a text or voice message so we can respondThe New Year is soon! So let's dive in to being a Better You.Do you ever feel like you’re stuck in life — spinning your wheels, starting over and over but never following through? Maybe you’ve tried to eat healthier, save money, be a better partner, or show up as the mom you want to be… but no matter how hard you try, you just can’t seem to stick with it. That constant cycle of starting, failing, and feeling like you’re not enough can leave you frustrated, sad, or even depressed.In this interactive episode of The Be a Better You Podcast, Allison K. Dagney takes you step by step through a powerful exercise to define what “being a better you” actually looks like — so you finally have clarity instead of vague goals that keep you stuck. You’ll unpack the subconscious beliefs that sabotage your progress, discover the hidden trauma responses that make it harder to take action, and learn how to break free from these old patterns.By the end of this episode, you’ll have a simple but clear roadmap for taking action, plus fresh motivation to believe you really can create a healthier, happier, more successful life.If you’re tired of feeling like you’ll never change, this episode will show you how to finally shift from hopeless and stuck to confident and in control. Set up your Free Call Today! Support the showReady to stop overthinking your past relationship and start feeling like yourself again?Visit www.radiatenrise.com and explore coaching programs, self-paced courses, resources, and tools designed to help you break free from emotional abuse, rumination, and self-doubt.✍🏻 Wanna Talk? Set up a for a FREE Call and discover what's really keeping you stuck, along with the next steps to help you move forward.https://www.radiatenrise.com/application-form📧 Questions? Email: [email protected]💬 Come say hi on Instagram or Facebook:Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/allisonkdagney/Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/allisonkdagney/Formerly The Emotional Abuse Recovery Podcast

Leave a text or voice message so we can respondFree Starter Pack with "how to truly stay no contact" https://www.radiatenrise.com/survivor-starter-packIt’s officially Hoover Season — that magical time of year when toxic exes suddenly remember you exist and send a “Merry Christmas ❤️” text that derails your entire night. If you’ve ever felt your heart drop, your stomach twist, or your brain spiral from one message… this episode is for you.We’re breaking down why narcissists and emotionally abusive partners love the holidays, why they come back during December, and what their sudden “I’ve changed” or “I miss us” messages actually mean (spoiler: it’s not love). You’ll learn the psychology behind hoovering, how to decode the emotional bait, and why your nervous system reacts even when you know better.Inside this episode, you’ll learn: ✨ The 6 flavors of holiday hoovering and how to spot each one ✨ How to decode the “Merry Christmas 🎄❤️” text without spiraling into fantasy ✨ Why YOU feel the emotional pull even when you don’t want them back ✨ How nostalgia, loneliness, and old trauma bonds get activated this time of year ✨ A powerful reframe: they’re not reaching out because they value you — you’re a dopamine hit ✨ The 3-step Hoover-Proof Protocol to take your power back and protect your peaceIf you struggle with no contact, boundary-setting, or emotional guilt when a hoover hits, you’ll hear exactly what to do — and what NOT to do — so this season doesn’t suck you back into a cycle you worked so hard to leave.Want to break this pattern for good? Book your free 30-minute Root Cause Call and let’s uncover the belief driving the trauma bond so you can finally end this cycle.Helpful extras: 🎧 Listen to Episode 19 for deeper boundary work 📦 Grab the free Survivor Starter Pack for the hidden gem “How to Stay No Contact” audioThis year, you get to be unavailable for manipulation — and fully available for peace. Set up your Free Call Today! Support the showReady to stop overthinking your past relationship and start feeling like yourself again?Visit www.radiatenrise.com and explore coaching programs, self-paced courses, resources, and tools designed to help you break free from emotional abuse, rumination, and self-doubt.✍🏻 Wanna Talk? Set up a for a FREE Call and discover what's really keeping you stuck, along with the next steps to help you move forward.https://www.radiatenrise.com/application-form📧 Questions? Email: [email protected]💬 Come say hi on Instagram or Facebook:Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/allisonkdagney/Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/allisonkdagney/Formerly The Emotional Abuse Recovery Podcast

Leave a text or voice message so we can respondIf the holidays hit you harder than any other time of year, you are not alone — and nothing is wrong with you. In this episode, we’re digging into why December activates old emotional wounds, resurfaces trauma you thought you healed, and pulls you back into patterns, people, and feelings you’ve outgrown.We break down what I call the Holiday Regression Effect — the way your nervous system remembers past experiences, holiday chaos, old relationship dynamics, and emotional pain long before your conscious mind catches up. This isn’t weakness. It’s conditioning.You’ll hear a powerful story about a client (fictionalized for privacy) who had been doing incredible work… until holiday nostalgia and loneliness brought her ex back into the picture. You’ll see exactly how the trigger happened, why she wasn’t “slipping,” and how she ultimately reclaimed her power, ended the contact for good, and understood the belief driving her holiday vulnerability.Inside this episode, you’ll learn: ✨ Why your body reacts faster than your logic around holidays ✨ The truth behind holiday nostalgia, trauma bonding, and seasonal triggering ✨ How emotional memories get activated by décor, music, family expectations, and old traditions ✨ Why even healed survivors can feel pulled back toward toxic exes ✨ How to tell the difference between genuine desire and trauma-driven longing ✨ My 3-Step Holiday Trigger Reset to bring you back into the present and out of emotional flashbackIf this season feels overwhelming, nostalgic, lonely, or strangely activating — this episode will help you understand why and give you the tools to move through it with clarity and compassion.Want to explore your specific holiday triggers? Book your free 30-minute Root Cause Call Need community support through the season? Join the Radiate & Rise membership for grounding, tools, and guidance ↓ Press play and take your power back — one grounded breath at a time. Set up your Free Call Today! Support the showReady to stop overthinking your past relationship and start feeling like yourself again?Visit www.radiatenrise.com and explore coaching programs, self-paced courses, resources, and tools designed to help you break free from emotional abuse, rumination, and self-doubt.✍🏻 Wanna Talk? Set up a for a FREE Call and discover what's really keeping you stuck, along with the next steps to help you move forward.https://www.radiatenrise.com/application-form📧 Questions? Email: [email protected]💬 Come say hi on Instagram or Facebook:Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/allisonkdagney/Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/allisonkdagney/Formerly The Emotional Abuse Recovery Podcast

Leave a text or voice message so we can respondIf December turns you into everyone’s emotional paramedic, this episode is your intervention.We’re unpacking the Holiday Savior Complex, that sneaky trauma-driven pattern where you over-function, over-give, manage everyone’s moods, smooth over conflict, and basically try to save the entire holiday season from falling apart.And yes… we’re going there with adults and kids.I’m breaking down why survivors of emotional and narcissistic abuse slip into “fixer mode,” how it drains you, and what it’s really costing your nervous system. You’ll also hear the story of the year I didn’t put up a Christmas tree right before a big move — my kids weren’t thrilled, my friends had opinions, and I learned one of the biggest lessons of my healing journey: I don’t have to rescue anyone from their own emotions. And neither do you.In this episode you’ll learn: ✨ Why the holidays activate old survival patterns ✨ How rescuing creates self-betrayal (even when it feels loving) ✨ What it looks like to stop managing everyone else’s feelings ✨ How to support your kids without over-functioning ✨ Nervous-system resets you can use at holiday gatherings ✨ Permission to do less — without guilt, shame, or burnoutIf this hits a little too close to home, it’s not a coincidence. These patterns come from deep subconscious conditioning — and that’s exactly what I help women unravel. Set up your Free Call Today! Support the showReady to stop overthinking your past relationship and start feeling like yourself again?Visit www.radiatenrise.com and explore coaching programs, self-paced courses, resources, and tools designed to help you break free from emotional abuse, rumination, and self-doubt.✍🏻 Wanna Talk? Set up a for a FREE Call and discover what's really keeping you stuck, along with the next steps to help you move forward.https://www.radiatenrise.com/application-form📧 Questions? Email: [email protected]💬 Come say hi on Instagram or Facebook:Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/allisonkdagney/Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/allisonkdagney/Formerly The Emotional Abuse Recovery Podcast

Leave a text or voice message so we can respondToday I am shedding light on the unique challenges faced by abuse victims and survivors during the holiday season—dubbed "Stressmas." As the festive spirit envelops many, those navigating abuse often find themselves in heightened stress, facing tactics from their abusers that intensify during this time.The episode delves into the common challenges victims experience, exploring the ways abusers may escalate tactics and create additional stress, especially in co-parenting situations involving children. I'm offering valuable insights into setting boundaries, prioritizing self-care, and building a support system during Stressmas.Learn how to navigate the emotional challenges and the importance of self-care. The episode extends its focus to survivors with children, addressing the complexities of protecting children from abuse and creating positive holiday memories despite the adversity.So, if you have experienced narcissistic abuse and/or toxic family and are worried about holiday stress...listen in for some quick tips to help you along the way to make your Holiday less Stressmas and More Christmas!If you'd like to be part of the market research to bring my future healing app to survivors of abuse, I'd love your feedback on this short survey!  https://forms.gle/YhGSecGkZM1cdWQv8 Set up your Free Call Today! Support the showReady to stop overthinking your past relationship and start feeling like yourself again?Visit www.radiatenrise.com and explore coaching programs, self-paced courses, resources, and tools designed to help you break free from emotional abuse, rumination, and self-doubt.✍🏻 Wanna Talk? Set up a for a FREE Call and discover what's really keeping you stuck, along with the next steps to help you move forward.https://www.radiatenrise.com/application-form📧 Questions? Email: [email protected]💬 Come say hi on Instagram or Facebook:Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/allisonkdagney/Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/allisonkdagney/Formerly The Emotional Abuse Recovery Podcast

Leave a text or voice message so we can respondIn this eye-opening episode, we unravel the intriguing complexities behind the world of positive affirmations and why they so often don’t work. We explore the profound impact of subconscious communication, emphasizing the transformative power of images, stories, and analogies that speak directly to the deeper layers of your mind.Discover why positive affirmations can actually backfire—creating cognitive dissonance and even self-gaslighting when your conscious mind repeats words your subconscious doesn’t believe. Instead of building confidence, they can deepen self-doubt, leaving you wondering why you still don’t feel good enough.Through compelling examples and real-life insights, we navigate the psychological landscape of inner resistance and conflicting beliefs, shedding light on how these hidden patterns block true transformation. You’ll learn how the subconscious mind interprets meaning, why it rejects surface-level statements, and how to start reprogramming it in ways that actually stick.Join Allison K. Dagney, emotional-healing coach and subconscious-reprogramming expert, as she shares practical techniques that go beyond mere words—so you can stop wasting time with affirmations that don’t reach your core, and start speaking the language of the subconscious mind to create real, lasting change.✨ Ready to go deeper?Book your Free Root Cause Call with Allison to uncover the beliefs blocking your transformation.Explore the Radiate & Rise Community for guided subconscious tools, live coaching, and genuine support.Because true empowerment doesn’t come from repeating what you wish you believed—it comes from rewiring your mind.If you'd like to be part of the market research to bring my future healing app to survivors of abuse, I'd love your feedback on this short survey!  https://forms.gle/YhGSecGkZM1cdWQv8 Set up your Free Call Today! Support the showReady to stop overthinking your past relationship and start feeling like yourself again?Visit www.radiatenrise.com and explore coaching programs, self-paced courses, resources, and tools designed to help you break free from emotional abuse, rumination, and self-doubt.✍🏻 Wanna Talk? Set up a for a FREE Call and discover what's really keeping you stuck, along with the next steps to help you move forward.https://www.radiatenrise.com/application-form📧 Questions? Email: [email protected]💬 Come say hi on Instagram or Facebook:Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/allisonkdagney/Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/allisonkdagney/Formerly The Emotional Abuse Recovery Podcast

Leave a text or voice message so we can respondHave you read all the books, journaled your heart out, listened to the podcasts, and done all the work — yet still wake up anxious, triggered, or doubting your worth? You’re not broken. You’re just trying to heal with the wrong tools.In this episode, emotional healing coach Allison K. Dagney reveals the real reason survivors stay stuck even after months or years of “doing the work.” You’ll learn why conscious mindset tools don’t always reach the subconscious beliefs that drive your emotional pain — and what to do differently to finally feel free.Allison shares powerful stories of women who were exhausted from trying harder and still feeling the same — and how everything changed once they began rewiring their subconscious mind.In this episode, you’ll discover:Why knowledge isn’t the same as healingThe subconscious patterns that block your progressHow to tell if you’re managing pain instead of transforming itWhat “doing the work” actually means for lasting changeThe real path to peace, confidence, and emotional freedomIf you’ve been wondering “Why am I still stuck?” this conversation will give you the clarity — and hope — you’ve been missing.✨ Ready to go deeper?Book your Free Root Cause Call with Allison to uncover the subconscious blocks keeping you stuck.Join the Radiate & Rise Community for live coaching, emotional healing tools, and support from other survivors who truly get it.Healing after emotional abuse isn’t about trying harder. It’s about finally working with your subconscious mind — not against it.If you'd like to be part of the market research to bring my future healing app to survivors of abuse, I'd love your feedback on this short survey!  https://forms.gle/YhGSecGkZM1cdWQv8 Set up your Free Call Today! Support the showReady to stop overthinking your past relationship and start feeling like yourself again?Visit www.radiatenrise.com and explore coaching programs, self-paced courses, resources, and tools designed to help you break free from emotional abuse, rumination, and self-doubt.✍🏻 Wanna Talk? Set up a for a FREE Call and discover what's really keeping you stuck, along with the next steps to help you move forward.https://www.radiatenrise.com/application-form📧 Questions? Email: [email protected]💬 Come say hi on Instagram or Facebook:Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/allisonkdagney/Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/allisonkdagney/Formerly The Emotional Abuse Recovery Podcast

Leave a text or voice message so we can respondHave you ever felt a wave of guilt the moment you finally laughed, smiled, or felt a spark of joy after abuse? You’re not alone. For many survivors, healing can feel like betrayal — especially when your kids, family, or others are still struggling.In this raw and honest episode, Allison K. Dagney, survivor, author, and subconscious reprogramming expert, breaks down why joy can feel unsafe and how subconscious beliefs keep you stuck in guilt. You’ll hear the hidden thoughts that survivors carry, like:“If my kids are hurting, I’m not allowed to be happy.”“If I move on, people will think it wasn’t abuse.”“If I heal, I’ll be leaving others behind.”Through powerful examples and real-life scenarios, you’ll learn how guilt shows up in everyday life — from canceling fun plans, to sabotaging new relationships, to downplaying your progress so no one thinks you’ve forgotten what happened.This episode will help you see why your healing is not abandonment — it’s the most powerful gift you can give yourself and your loved ones.✨ Ready to go deeper?Book your free Root Cause Call with Allison to uncover the beliefs keeping you stuck.Take the free Beliefs Quiz to reveal your hidden patterns.Download the Survivor Starter Pack with journal prompts and bonus podcast episodes designed to help you break free from rumination.Healing after emotional abuse doesn’t have to feel like betrayal. In fact, your joy is the beginning of breaking the cycle. Set up your Free Call Today! Support the showReady to stop overthinking your past relationship and start feeling like yourself again?Visit www.radiatenrise.com and explore coaching programs, self-paced courses, resources, and tools designed to help you break free from emotional abuse, rumination, and self-doubt.✍🏻 Wanna Talk? Set up a for a FREE Call and discover what's really keeping you stuck, along with the next steps to help you move forward.https://www.radiatenrise.com/application-form📧 Questions? Email: [email protected]💬 Come say hi on Instagram or Facebook:Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/allisonkdagney/Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/allisonkdagney/Formerly The Emotional Abuse Recovery Podcast

Leave a text or voice message so we can respondAfter emotional abuse, solitude can feel like safety. You tell yourself, I’m fine on my own. I don’t need anyone. But what if that fierce independence—the “lone wolf” mindset—is actually what’s keeping you from healing?In this episode, author and subconscious-reprogramming coach Allison K. Dagney exposes the hidden cost of trying to heal alone. You’ll learn why isolation keeps your nervous system in survival mode, how hyper-independence is a trauma response, and what happens when you finally allow safe connection back into your life.Listen as Allison shares real stories from women who tried to “do it all themselves” and found that true peace didn’t come until they let someone in. You’ll also discover:The subconscious beliefs that drive the lone-wolf patternWhy your body can mistake safety for anxietyHow co-regulation with safe people rewires your nervous systemWhat starts to shift when you stop surviving and start connectingIf you’ve been strong for too long, this conversation will remind you that strength doesn’t mean isolation—it means feeling safe enough to receive support.✨ Ready to take the next step?Book your Free Root Cause Call with Allison to uncover what’s keeping you stuck at the subconscious level.Explore the Radiate & Rise Community, where survivors heal together through live coaching, emotional-resonance audios, and real connection.Because healing doesn’t happen in silence—it happens when you finally stop doing it all alone. Set up your Free Call Today! Support the showReady to stop overthinking your past relationship and start feeling like yourself again?Visit www.radiatenrise.com and explore coaching programs, self-paced courses, resources, and tools designed to help you break free from emotional abuse, rumination, and self-doubt.✍🏻 Wanna Talk? Set up a for a FREE Call and discover what's really keeping you stuck, along with the next steps to help you move forward.https://www.radiatenrise.com/application-form📧 Questions? Email: [email protected]💬 Come say hi on Instagram or Facebook:Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/allisonkdagney/Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/allisonkdagney/Formerly The Emotional Abuse Recovery Podcast

Leave a text or voice message so we can respondThe wounds of emotional abuse aren’t always visible. Survivors often carry scars that the outside world can’t see—feelings of isolation, anxiety, self-doubt, and the deep loss of identity. These are the hidden costs of emotional abuse, and they are just as damaging as physical violence.In this final episode of the Domestic Violence Awareness Month series, Allison K. Dagney—survivor, author, and subconscious reprogramming expert—shines a light on the long-term impacts of abuse that often go unnoticed.You’ll learn:How isolation keeps survivors trapped and silentWhy the silent treatment and stonewalling leave lasting emotional woundsHow projection and blame-shifting destroy self-trustThe toll abuse takes on your mental health and nervous systemSteps to begin reclaiming your sense of self and reconnecting with your worthThis conversation will help you understand the invisible aftermath of emotional abuse, validate what you’ve been through, and remind you: you are not broken—you were abused.👉 Don’t forget: when you leave a review of this podcast, screenshot it, and tag Allison on social media, you’ll receive her I’m Worthy Immersion Program completely free. This program will help you reprogram outdated beliefs, rebuild your self-worth, and begin healing with confidence.Support the showReady to stop overthinking your past relationship and start feeling like yourself again?Visit www.radiatenrise.com and explore coaching programs, self-paced courses, resources, and tools designed to help you break free from emotional abuse, rumination, and self-doubt.✍🏻 Wanna Talk? Set up a for a FREE Call and discover what's really keeping you stuck, along with the next steps to help you move forward.https://www.radiatenrise.com/application-form📧 Questions? Email: [email protected]💬 Come say hi on Instagram or Facebook:Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/allisonkdagney/Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/allisonkdagney/Formerly The Emotional Abuse Recovery Podcast

Leave a text or voice message so we can respond“Why didn’t you just leave?” It’s the question survivors of abuse hear the most—and the one that causes the deepest shame. The truth is, leaving an abusive relationship isn’t simple. The reason is something called the cycle of abuse and trauma bonding.In honor of Domestic Violence Awareness Month, Allison K. Dagney—survivor, author, and subconscious reprogramming expert—explains why survivors feel trapped even when they want to escape.In this episode, you’ll learn:The four stages of the cycle of abuse: love bombing, devaluation, discard, and hooveringHow trauma bonds form through intermittent reinforcement and brain chemistryWhy the bond feels like love but is actually survivalFirst steps you can take to recognize the pattern in your own lifeThis conversation is for anyone who has ever asked themselves, “Why didn’t I leave?” or struggled to understand why someone else stayed. You’ll walk away with clarity, validation, and a new perspective that removes the shame and puts the responsibility where it belongs—on the abuser.👉 Don’t forget: when you leave a review for this podcast, screenshot it, and tag Allison on social media, you’ll receive her I’m Worthy Immersion Program completely free. This program will help you reprogram limiting beliefs, rebuild self-worth, and begin healing from emotional abuse.Support the showReady to stop overthinking your past relationship and start feeling like yourself again?Visit www.radiatenrise.com and explore coaching programs, self-paced courses, resources, and tools designed to help you break free from emotional abuse, rumination, and self-doubt.✍🏻 Wanna Talk? Set up a for a FREE Call and discover what's really keeping you stuck, along with the next steps to help you move forward.https://www.radiatenrise.com/application-form📧 Questions? Email: [email protected]💬 Come say hi on Instagram or Facebook:Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/allisonkdagney/Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/allisonkdagney/Formerly The Emotional Abuse Recovery Podcast