Episode 195: The Narcissistic Hoover Season & How to Combat it

Leave a text or voice message so we can respondFree Starter Pack with "how to truly stay no contact" https://www.radiatenrise.com/survivor-starter-packIt’s officially Hoover Season — that magical time of year when toxic exes suddenly remember you exist and send a “Merry Christmas ❤️” text that derails your entire night. If you’ve ever felt your heart drop, your stomach twist, or your brain spiral from one message… this episode is for you.We’re breaking down why narcissists and emotionally abusive partners love the holidays, why they come back during December, and what their sudden “I’ve changed” or “I miss us” messages actually mean (spoiler: it’s not love). You’ll learn the psychology behind hoovering, how to decode the emotional bait, and why your nervous system reacts even when you know better.Inside this episode, you’ll learn: ✨ The 6 flavors of holiday hoovering and how to spot each one ✨ How to decode the “Merry Christmas 🎄❤️” text without spiraling into fantasy ✨ Why YOU feel the emotional pull even when you don’t want them back ✨ How nostalgia, loneliness, and old trauma bonds get activated this time of year ✨ A powerful reframe: they’re not reaching out because they value you — you’re a dopamine hit ✨ The 3-step Hoover-Proof Protocol to take your power back and protect your peaceIf you struggle with no contact, boundary-setting, or emotional guilt when a hoover hits, you’ll hear exactly what to do — and what NOT to do — so this season doesn’t suck you back into a cycle you worked so hard to leave.Want to break this pattern for good? Book your free 30-minute Root Cause Call and let’s uncover the belief driving the trauma bond so you can finally end this cycle.Helpful extras: 🎧 Listen to Episode 19 for deeper boundary work 📦 Grab the free Survivor Starter Pack for the hidden gem “How to Stay No Contact” audioThis year, you get to be unavailable for manipulation — and fully available for peace.Set up your Free Call Today! Support the showReady to stop overthinking your past relationship and start feeling like yourself again?Get Your FREE HEALING BUNDLE www.radiatenrise.com and explore coaching programs, self-paced courses, resources, and tools designed to help you break free from emotional abuse, rumination, and self-doubt.✍🏻 Set up a for a FREE Call and discover what's really keeping you stuck, along with the next steps to help you move forward.📧 Questions? Email: [email protected]💬 Come say hi on Instagram or Facebook:Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/allisonkdagney/Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/allisonkdagney/Formerly The Emotional Abuse Recovery Podcast