Episode 312: Why The Complementarian Bar for Men is in the Basement

from Bare Marriage · host Sheila Gregoire

Send us Fan MailWe're tackling three really problematic things that have happened recently with evangelical leaders that show just how low the bar has gotten for men. From Jonathan Podluka announcing he wants to sleep with multiple beautiful women, to pastors responding to Philip Yancey's affair by saying "it could be any of us," to Tim Challies telling people in miserable marriages to just stick it out until they die—it's all connected to this theology that refuses to hold men accountable and tells women they just need to accept it. The common thread? A theology of male hierarchy that steals intimacy from marriages, justice from victims, and Jesus from people who are hurting.THE MARRIAGE YOU WANT:Get our book that corrects this horrible teaching! It's got a study guide and video series too!Subscribe to the Good Fruit Faith channel for our Love & Respect podcast coming soon!TO SUPPORT US: Join our Patreon for as little as $5 a month to support our workAnd check out our Merch, or any of our courses!Give to the Good Fruit Faith Initiative of the Bosko FoundationJoin our email list!LINKS MENTIONED: Tim Challies' article on if you chose poorlyMy article about Philip YanceyMy reel with the clips of Jonathan PokludaSheila's article about Jonathan Podluka’s 2023 sermon, and my new op ed Sarah Diefendorf's peer-reviewed articleMy recommended books on pornOur podcast on the 5-point complementarian plan for marriageSupport the showJoin Sheila at Bare Marriage.com!Check out her books:The Great Sex Rescue She Deserves BetterThe Marriage You Want and the Study Guide The Good Girl's Guide to Great Sex and The Good Guy's Guide to Great SexAnd she has an Orgasm Course and a Libido course too!Check out all her courses, FREE resources, social media, books, and so much more at Sheila's LinkTree.

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