Episode 32: Overcoming Self-Judgment: Why Are We So Hard On Ourselves?

Join Dr. Mary in an introspective and transformative episode where she explores the depths of self-criticism and its profound effects on our lives. (Previously episode 3 of season 2) Through her own personal experiences and professional insights, Dr. Mary delves into the notion of why we are often our own harshest critics. She shares her past tendencies to judge others as a projection of self-judgment and discusses societal influences that shape women’s perceptions, reinforcing negative self-talk around beauty and body image.Dr. Mary emphasizes the importance of recognizing and challenging these internalized societal beliefs as a pathway to healthier self-perception. She introduces the concept of neuroplasticity, illustrating how intentional practices can help shift deeply ingrained negative thought patterns. Throughout the episode, Dr. Mary encourages embracing joy and cautions against getting trapped in shame spirals.Listeners will gain valuable insights into identifying negative self-talk, methods to shift mindsets, and embracing joy and happiness. By sharing her struggles with complex PTSD, self-criticism, and the impact of societal pressures, Dr. Mary provides a relatable narrative that underscores the importance of self-compassion and internal validation.The episode also touches on the subconscious brain’s role in harboring beliefs and self-talk patterns from past experiences, necessitating conscious recognition and growth. Dr. Mary advocates for a mindset shift from seeking external validation to accepting self-worth and fostering natural relationships and experiences.Through her mission to bridge the gap between medical and realistic perspectives on self-criticism, Dr. Mary offers actionable advice and heartfelt encouragement to help others overcome similar challenges. Tune in to this enlightening episode for a heartfelt discussion on self-compassion, the significance of positive self-talk, and the journey toward a more joyful and fulfilling life.***Episode Timestamps00:00 Lost joy; need understanding to find happiness.05:06 Inner critic exhausts, debilitates, prevents fulfillment.07:49 Fear-driven friendship approach drains authenticity.13:32 Inner critics often stem from childhood bullying.14:36 Absorbing abuse led to negative self-perception.18:59 Positive affirmations don’t work, change requires self-awareness and inner work23:25 Recognizing biases reduces their control over us.27:17 Redirect thoughts, embrace joy, overcome old patterns.30:12 Connect with intuition to pursue genuine happiness.33:36 Practice self-awareness for more joy and peace.Want support for perimenopause that goes beyond hormones?Whether you (or your clients) are taking HRT but still having symptoms, not ready for it, or can’t tolerate it...there’s more we can do.I’ll be sharing practical tools from a movement and rehab perspective, focusing on the nervous system, fascia, lymph, viscera, and musculoskeletal system.If you want updates on workshops, resources, and strategies to support this phase of life more fully, would love you to join my email list.Subscribe to my email list hereI’ll see you in 2 weeks!PS:If you are interested in being a guest on the show, please fill out the form here.