Episode #330: You Were a Child Trying to Make Sense of an Adult Story

As children, we make sense of life with the information available to us. We observe what happens, listen to what we're told, feel what isn't being said, and fill in the missing pieces ourselves.   The problem is, those childhood interpretations can quietly become adult truths.  We may carry beliefs about our parents, family, relationships, or even ourselves for decades without realizing they were formed through the limited perspective of a child.  Personal growth invites us to become curious about those old stories.  What might we see differently now?  When we allow ourselves to view someone beyond the role they played in our lives to imagine them as a child, teenager, or young adult with their own fears, wounds, dreams, and experiences we can then begin to see a fuller human being.  That doesn't mean excusing harmful behavior or pretending painful experiences didn't happen. Compassion doesn't require abandoning our truth.  It simply allows room for more truth.  Sometimes healing comes from discovering information we never had. Other times, it comes from recognizing that our perspective has changed because we have changed.  Growth requires flexibility - the willingness to loosen our grip on what we've always believed and ask:  Is there another way to see this now?  The story doesn't have to change for our relationship with the story to change.  May this conversation be beneficial to your life journey. Many blessings!  Connect with us on Facebook ~Group: Amie & Bev CommunityPage: Amie Wade - Emotional Resiliency Coach