Episode 4: For anyone who has a ‘Difficult Parent’, this one’s for you! With Molly Darsow from Still Waters Mediation

Caregiving in the Sandwich Generation is already a full-contact sport. One minute you’re negotiating with a toddler over broccoli, the next your parents are on the phone… also negotiating, but with guilt trips and passive-aggressive commentary. Cool, cool, cool. So what’s the move when everyone needs something and someone’s being downright difficult?In this episode of The Sandwich Generation Pod, Robyn and Eliesa talk with family mediator Molly Darsow, owner of Still Waters Mediation. (Yes—family mediator. Because sometimes families need a referee.) Molly shares expert advice on setting boundaries with parents, managing emotional triggers, and improving communication in challenging family dynamics.If you’ve ever thought “there has to be a better way to deal with this,” this one’s for you.If you’re caring for aging parents while raising kids, navigating sibling tension, or just trying not to lose your mind during one more “interesting” phone call—this episode will give you tools, validation, and maybe even a little laugh.TakeawaysWe are born into family systems and when our parents age or pass away, those roles within the system are wildly disrupted. We always hold onto our inner child. When we’re family, we all know each other’s triggers - that never leaves us.There might be a generational difference in how we talk about our emotions.There is A LOT of vulnerability in aging. Shutting down bad behaviors is totally legit. It sounds annoying but acceptance, compassion and time are three of the best ways to handle a difficult parent.Communication takes active practice on everyone’s part and Molly gives tips on doing this effectively.Chapters00:00 Introduction with Molly Darsow of Still Waters Mediation02:55 What is Mediation and why might I need it?09:40 Managing Triggers and Emotional Responses11:39 Strategies for Difficult Conversations30:31 Establishing Boundaries with Parents33:47 Acknowledging Loss and Change38:49 The Driving Conversation - is anything more difficult than this?48:18 What to do when a parent is guilting you?58:07 Sibling Relationships and Triangulation01:05:50 Managing Difficult Parents in Front of Children01:11:11 OutroLinks and Resources:Still Waters Mediation Care out Loud Conversation starter Cards