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Jan 2, 2026 9 min

Episode 43- Boundary Settings (Part 3)

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You finally set a boundary. You say no. You choose yourself. And then the guilt shows up. In episode 43 of Tabling Thoughts, I talk about the part of boundary-setting almost no one prepares you for: what happens after you finally say no. I explore why guilt appears right after self-respect, why we replay conversations and over-explain our needs, and why disappointing others can feel more dangerous than abandoning ourselves. This episode isn’t about blaming you. It’s about understanding the patterns that taught us love means disappearing, and learning how to stay with ourselves after choosing ourselves. If you struggle with guilt, people-pleasing, or emotional self-abandonment, this episode is for you. Listen on YouTube, Castbox, Apple Podcasts, and Spotify. Link to Reflect and Colour Book by Solmaz Barghgir Setting Boundaries Workshop The Miracle of Meditation to Overcome Fear Self Steam Course Relationship Course Stress Course Solmaz LinkedIn Copyright Notice: All rights to this podcast and its content are exclusively owned by Solmaz Barghigr. This content is legally protected, and any unauthorized downloading, reproduction, or redistribution may have legal consequences. If you wish to share an episode, please do so only by sharing the official link from the platform where you are listening (such as Spotify, YouTube, Castbox, Buzzsprout, Apple Podcasts) Music: Song: Retro Groove (Upbeat Fun Retro)_ Main Version License: Individual License, Commercial, APRA/AMCOS Composer: Henrique Tavares Dib - APRA IPI: 00611600895 Email: [email protected] Solmaz_Barghgir_Coach Instagram Tabling Thoughts Instagram Lam Ta Kalaam CastBox Lam Ta Kalaam Apple Podcast Website: www.barghgir.com YouTube: https://youtube.com/@solmazbarghgir

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You finally set a boundary. You say no. You choose yourself. And then the guilt shows up. In episode 43 of Tabling Thoughts, I talk about the part of boundary-setting almost no one prepares you for: what happens after you finally say no. I explore why guilt appears right after self-respect, why we replay conversations and over-explain our needs, and why disappointing others can feel more dangerous than abandoning ourselves. This episode isn’t about blaming you. It’s about understanding the pa...

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