Episode 68, Throwback: The Cost Of People-Pleasing And The Courage To Choose Yourself

Send us Fan MailWhat if the real reason you can’t slow down is because your nervous system thinks chaos is home? We sit down with coach Lisa Carpenter to explore the gritty truth behind overdoing, people-pleasing, and why peace can feel unbearably awkward when you’ve built an identity around being “the responsible one.” Through raw stories and practical tools, we map a way out of busy culture and into a life that feels grounded, spacious, and deeply yours.Lisa breaks down the difference between a busy life and a full life and introduces the Doing Diary, a simple practice that reveals where your time and energy actually go. We talk boundaries without buzzwords: how to hold a line, ride the wave of guilt, and stop rescuing others at the cost of your health and money. Personal power becomes the throughline—knowing what you feel, honoring what you need, and acting in your best interest without abandoning compassion for others. We also unpack the scripts many women inherit about sharing, being “nice,” and not being “too much,” and how those beliefs quietly drain agency and joy.This conversation spans nervous system regulation, discomfort tolerance, and the courage to let some relationships evolve—or end—so better ones can take root. We challenge listeners to schedule one day each month for nothing, creating the white space that creativity and healing require. If you’ve ever tried to “optimize” your way to peace with more tasks, more supplements, or more certifications, this is your nudge to look inward. The tools help, but your beliefs and behaviors do the heavy lifting.We just reopened our retired programs, the ones that changed so many lives. If you’re ready for deeper healing work to pair with the podcast, this bundle is your next step. These three programs were originally valued at $700, and now we’ve bundled them for just $97, over 85% off. It gives you real tools to support your body, calm your nervous system, and move forward on your healing path. Click on this link to start today. Support the showFollow us on Instagram, leave a review, and share your experiences – we'd love to hear what resonates with you! And don't forget we have a PREMIUM channel as well on Apple! Bonus episodes to help you heal faster.Ready to take your healing journey up a notch? Our new audio course will walk you through the real foundations that have to come first before anything else can stick—awareness, emotions, nervous system regulation, boundaries, and trust.The 1% shift that takes you from zero to one. And from one, everything else becomes possible. Learn more HERE. Follow our Instagram page Follow Kira on IGFollow Denise on IGClick here to download Kira's free self-love hypnosis audio or her free gut guide Book a complimentary consult with Kira