Episode 73: What We’d Tell Our Younger Selves: The Truth About Turning 40

Episode Description:What would you tell the version of yourself you were in each decade of your life?Now that we’re both officially in our 40s, we’re looking back decade by decade, from childhood through our teens, 20s and 30s, at the versions of ourselves that got us here. And one thing became very clear: a LOT can happen in ten years. The person you are at the beginning of a decade can be almost unrecognizable by the end of it.We’re talking about the things we worried about that never mattered, the choices that mattered more than we ever could have known, friendships and relationships, marriage, motherhood, identity, and the very humbling experience of realizing that maybe we don’t need to have it all figured out after all.From learning that butterflies aren’t always the sign of love we thought they were, to navigating changing friendships, becoming mothers, losing and finding pieces of ourselves, and finally reaching an age where we feel less pressure to explain who we are, this one gets nostalgic, funny, emotional and very honest.And maybe the biggest lesson? We spent a lot of years auditioning for our own lives, only to realize no one is reading the résumé.In This Episode:What we’d tell ourselves in each decade, and why the advice changes depending on which end of that decade you’re talking toThe friendships, heartbreaks and insecurities we gave WAY too much powerChoosing your partner and realizing years later just how much that one decision can anchor your entire lifeButterflies vs. safety and what we misunderstood about love when we were youngerThe fear, comparison and friendship merry-go-round that can creep in as life gets more complicatedMotherhood, postpartum and the identity shifts that completely reshaped our 30sLearning to stop forcing friendships, opportunities and versions of ourselves that no longer fitWhy turning 40 feels surprisingly less like an identity crisis and more like an exhaleWhat we’d change and, more importantly, what we’d tell our younger selves to leave exactly alone💗 Pink SpotlightsT: Her biggest flex at 40? Not needing the 60-second explanation of who she is anymore. No résumé, no audition, no list of accomplishments. Just: “I’m Kristina Bontempo.” That’s it.Christina: Needed’s Perimenopause Multi, because apparently turning 40 also means your multivitamin knows exactly which era you’re in. 😂Follow, Review and Subscribe to PIPAIf you loved this episode, make sure you’re following Pretty in Pink Again wherever you listen, and take a second to rate and review the show. It truly helps more women find us and helps PIPA continue to grow. 💗Come hang out with us between episodes on Instagram @prettyinpinkagain and now on Facebook at Pretty in Pink Again, where we’re sharing more of what we’re watching, reading, loving, and talking about off the mic.You can also find us individually on Instagram at @christinatarabishy and @kristinabontempo.Hey PIPAS! Send us a text for episode feedback, ideas, and questions!