Episode 83 - Overcoming the Guilt and Shame of ADHD

In this episode, Jami Shapiro sits down with ADHD coach and educator Jamie Blume for a deeply honest conversation about guilt, shame, and self-compassion in the ADHD journey.Jamie shares her personal story of discovering ADHD through her son’s struggles and how that realization reshaped not only her understanding of him, but of herself and her past.Together, Jami and Jamie explore how guilt shows up in ADHD, why it can feel so heavy, and how shifting from self-blame to self-compassion can open the door to growth, healing, and a more empowered way forward.What You’ll LearnHow ADHD can show up in childhood but go unrecognizedWhy many adults carry guilt about missed signs or late diagnosisThe connection between ADHD, shame, and self-perceptionHow to shift from “should have known” to “what can I do now”The role of self-compassion in moving forwardHow ADHD affects social dynamics and relationshipsWhy structure and systems matter at every stage of lifeHow menopause and life transitions can intensify ADHD symptomsWhy This MattersMany adults spend years looking back with regret, wishing they had known sooner.This episode is a reminder that while those feelings are real, staying there doesn’t move us forward.Understanding ADHD through a new lens can help replace guilt with clarity, and shame with self-compassion.The ADHD Button QuestionJami asks every guest: If there were a button that could remove your ADHD forever, would you press it?Jamie’s answer: No.She shares that ADHD is deeply connected to who she is, her creativity, empathy, and energy, and that with the right tools and awareness, it becomes something to work with, not against.About the GuestJamie Blume is an ADHD coach, educator, and founder of Along Their Way. After her own ADHD diagnosis, she dedicated her work to helping individuals and families better understand and navigate life with ADHD through both science and lived experience.About the HostJami Shapiro is an ADHD coach, speaker, and founder of Silver Linings Transitions. Through her podcast Grandma Has ADHD, she brings awareness to ADHD in older adults, especially women, helping listeners better understand their brains and navigate life with more clarity and compassion.ResourcesAlong Their Way: https://alongtheirway.comADHD coaching and support resourcesThis Explains So Much by Jami ShapiroLinks & SupportWebsite: https://www.jamishapiro.meSilver Linings Transitions: Support for downsizing, organizing, and life transitionsBook: This Explains So Much by Jami ShapiroThank you for joining us for this episode of Grandma Has ADHD! We hope Jami's journey and insights into ADHD shed light on the unique challenges faced by older adults. Stay tuned for more episodes where we’ll explore helpful resources, share personal stories, and provide guidance for those navigating ADHD. Don’t forget to subscribe and share this podcast with friends who might benefit. Remember, Make the rest of your life the best of your life.Follow us:Instagram:@grandma_has_adhd@silverliningstransitionsFacebook:Silver Linings TransitionsGrandma Has ADHD (Facebook Page & Group)Youtube:Grandma Has ADHD