Episode 85 - Why We Need to Reframe Shame with ADHD

In this episode of Grandma Has ADHD, Jami Shapiro sits down with psychologist and adult ADHD expert Dr. Shawn Horn for an honest and empowering conversation about one of the heaviest emotions many people with ADHD carry: shame.Dr. Horn shares how shame can quietly shape relationships, confidence, communication, and emotional regulation — and why healing begins when we stop judging ourselves and start understanding what’s really going on.Together, Jami and Dr. Horn explore how reframing shame can open the door to stronger relationships, more self-compassion, and practical strategies that actually work for the ADHD brain.What You’ll LearnWhy shame is so common in adults with ADHDHow late diagnosis can reshape your self-imageThe difference between guilt and shameHow rejection sensitivity (RSD) impacts relationshipsWhy nervous system regulation matters in communicationHow ADHD can affect connection, conflict, and emotional reactionPractical ways to build self-compassion and resilienceWhy understanding your brain changes everythingWhy This MattersMany adults with ADHD spend years believing they are the problem.This episode is a reminder that ADHD challenges are not character flaws. When shame is replaced with understanding, people can begin to build healthier relationships with themselves and others.The ADHD Button QuestionJami asks every guest: If there were a button that could remove your ADHD forever, would you press it?This conversation highlights a common theme on the podcast: while ADHD can bring real struggles, many people also discover strengths, creativity, empathy, and resilience through understanding how their brain works.About the GuestDr. Shawn Horn, PsyD is a licensed clinical psychologist, TEDx speaker, podcast host, and adult ADHD expert known online as the “Shame-Busting Psychologist.” She helps adults with ADHD turn shame into resilience and thrive socially and emotionally. She is the author of Thrive Socially with Adult ADHD: Shame-Busting Strategies to Build Better Relationships Using Polyvagal Theory & Neuroscience.About the HostJami Shapiro is an ADHD coach, speaker, and founder of Silver Linings Transitions. Through her podcast Grandma Has ADHD, she brings awareness to ADHD in older adults, especially women, helping listeners better understand their brains and navigate life with more clarity and compassion.ResourcesThrive Socially with Adult ADHD by Dr. Shawn HornPolyvagal Theory resourcesADHD relationship and communication strategiesLinks & SupportWebsite: https://www.jamishapiro.meSilver Linings Transitions: Support for downsizing, organizing, and life transitionsBook: This Explains So Much by Jami ShapiroThank you for joining us for this episode of Grandma Has ADHD! We hope Jami's journey and insights into ADHD shed light on the unique challenges faced by older adults. Stay tuned for more episodes where we’ll explore helpful resources, share personal stories, and provide guidance for those navigating ADHD. Don’t forget to subscribe and share this podcast with friends who might benefit. Remember, Make the rest of your life the best of your life.Follow us:Instagram:@grandma_has_adhd@silverliningstransitionsFacebook:Silver Linings TransitionsGrandma Has ADHD (Facebook Page & Group)Youtube:Grandma Has ADHD