episode 88 - how to be happily single, right now

In this episode of 'It's Cool Us Too', Nicole and Meagan explore the complexities of being women in their 30s, particularly focusing on the feelings of loneliness and societal pressures that arise during the winter months. They share personal anecdotes about dating, the excitement of preparing for a Taylor Swift concert, and the challenges of cooking and self-care. The conversation delves into the impact of social media on mental health and the importance of reframing feelings of singlehood. Through humor and vulnerability, they navigate the ups and downs of this stage in life, emphasizing the need for connection and understanding. In this conversation, Nicole and Meagan explore the complexities of being single in their 30s, discussing the societal pressures of timelines in relationships, the joys of singlehood, and the emotional struggles that come with it. They emphasize the importance of acknowledging feelings, celebrating personal freedom, and finding community while navigating the ups and downs of love and connection. Takeaways It's important to celebrate being single, especially in winter. The winter months can amplify feelings of loneliness. Cooking can be a therapeutic distraction. Social media can negatively impact mental health. Comparison with friends in relationships is common. Finding joy in small moments is essential. Creating your own fun and excitement is key. Having supportive friends can help navigate tough feelings. It's okay to feel overwhelmed during the holidays. Embracing vulnerability can lead to deeper connections. Meeting a partner doesn't have a strict timeline. Singlehood can offer unique joys and freedoms. It's okay to feel bitterness while celebrating friends' successes. Acknowledging feelings is crucial for emotional health. Finding community can help shift negative energy. New experiences can enrich your life and perspective. Manifesting love involves believing it's possible for you. Self-criticism can compound feelings of inadequacy. Celebrating personal achievements is important, even if not recognized by society. It's essential to focus on personal growth and connection. Chapters 00:00 Introduction to the Podcast and Weekend Recap 03:00 Navigating the Excitement and Challenges of Dating 05:53 Preparing for the Taylor Swift Concert 09:01 The Impact of Seasonal Changes on Mental Health 12:03 Feeling Lonely in November 14:59 Coping Mechanisms for Singlehood in Winter 17:59 The Comparison Game and Societal Pressures 19:58 The Pressure of Timelines in Relationships 22:41 Celebrating Singlehood and Personal Freedom 24:15 Navigating Emotions: Bitterness and Joy 27:05 Acknowledging Feelings and Moving Forward 31:42 Finding Community and New Experiences 35:56 Manifesting Love and Connection TikToks referenced by @melrobbins and @notskinnybutnotfat