Everything I Wish I Knew About Sex When I Was In My 20s

Intimacy expert Susan Bratton breaks down what actually leads to better sex, deeper intimacy, and lasting connection - and why so many people are unknowingly settling for far less. Drawing on science-backed principles of desire, arousal, and communication, she explains where most couples go wrong and what truly drives attraction and satisfaction over time. Susan also shares her personal journey, including years without orgasms, how radical honesty saved her sex life and why so many couples fall into “duty sex” without realising it. Along the way, she challenges myths about sex, aging, and performance, offering a more confident, connected approach rooted in learning, communication and curiosity.This is an eye-opening, provocative and educational conversation that will change how you think about sex - and what’s possible in your relationships.Susan Bratton, We Need To Talk (00:00) Intro (02:32) What Does Susan Do? (04:32) Susan’s Definition of Intimacy (08:14) Understanding the Yoni and Its Anatomy (10:34) Susan’s Definition of an Orgasm (13:52) How Often Should We Experience Pleasure? (16:46) “Duty Sex” (18:13) How Susan and Her Partner Rebuilt Their Intimate Connection (24:24) Susan’s Experience of Remote Intimacy (28:03) Similarities in Male and Female Anatomy (29:33) Scepticism Around Technology in the Bedroom (31:27) Understanding the Length of an Orgasm (33:12) Solutions for Premature Ejaculation (35:02) Does Size Matter? (40:58) Shopify Ad (42:10) Exploring Intimacy Tools (47:44) How Many People Are Having Truly Fulfilling Intimacy? (50:41) Sex Education Today (51:28) Using Play-Doh to Demonstrate Similarities in Erectile Tissue (57:15) Foreplay: What It Is and Why It Matters (01:03:02) The Mind’s Effect on Sexual Performance (01:05:53) Sharing “Frames” With a Partner (01:12:29) The Sexual Script and How to Overcome It (01:13:52) Susan Breaks Down Aphrodisiacs (01:19:01) Most Memorable Conversation (01:22:59) Paul’s Takeaways Follow me here: https://www.instagram.com/needtotalk  https://www.tiktok.com/@weneedtotalkpod Support Susan here: Instagram: www.instagram.com/susanbratton Websites: https://susanbratton.com/ and drivedesire.com Sponsored by: Shopify: www.shopify.co.uk/needtotalk Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices