Evolve, The greatest gift

How do you see yourself? I believe that life is filled with valleys and peaks. You will be on both sides at points in your life. But I believe this is because as you grow you are supposed to evolve. But evolution does not happen immediately nor does it happen when your life is going amazingly. I believe that while you are in the valley is when the process starts. You learn about yourself, the things that you can tolerate versus the things you can not.  I can express that I have been quite awful a few times during my evolution but that is because I think I am used to being the nice guy. The problem with the nice guy is that people believe they can use you or that you are of low value and they can take advantage of you. A primary example is getting services done like lashes or hair and lying to the hairdresser or lash tech when they chew you out about the state of the service you are getting done. When in reality I am paying and I can damage my hair or lashes if I want to, but I feel like I am forced to lie with some level of shame. However, now that I have evolved I speak my mind with no shame.