Exploring the Complexities of Grief with Hillary Owen

"The only time you can do grief wrong is when you judge yourself for grieving."Note: this episode about grief is heavy and it is long. If you are not in a space to address your grief, maybe save this one for later.Shout out to Hillary Owen of Driftwood Healing for joining us in this personal conversation all about grief. This episode opens with a gorgeous poem by Ada Limon - from her book Bright Dead Things - Tossing Around the AshesHillary, Phil, and Jenny have all had different dealings with grief over the years. We’ve all lost and all responded differently.How can we learn from one another and from remaining open about our grief?What might help us collectively and individually in the midst of deep grief?Does our Enneagram number play into how we might handle our grief?Join us as we delve into what makes us human, our capacity for deep love and deep grief. Grief Resources (Things we mentioned, or meant to anyways):Everything Happens for a Reason (and other lies I’ve loved) by: Kate Bowler The Myth of Closure by: Pauline BossHow We Live is How We Die & When Things Fall Apart  by: Pema Chodron Crying In H Mart by: Michelle Zauner On Grief and Grieving by Elizabeth Kubler Ross and David KesslerBreathing Underwater by: Richard Rohr It’s Ok to Not Be OkGrieving and the Enneagram by: Suzanne Stabile Chapters00:00 Introduction and Welcoming Guest01:50 Ada Lamone Poem04:09 Resistance to Talking About Grief07:47 Unresolved Grief and Funeral Experiences09:30 Different Coping Strategies for Grief21:07 Grief as an Antidote to Trauma26:41 Differentiating Trauma and Grief32:08 Engaging with Feelings in Grief36:36 The Importance of Relational Buffering38:26 Individual Approaches to Healthful Grieving40:23 The Need for Supportive Relationships in Grief43:04 Different Approaches to Grief: Thinking, Feeling, and Doing45:27 The Power of Human Connection in the Healing Process47:13 Finding Your Own Path to Healing50:40 The Role of Spiritual Direction and Therapy in Grief52:28 Creating Space for Grief in Society and Faith Communities56:07 Addressing Barriers to Grief Support01:00:38 Embracing Grief as a Part of Human Experience01:03:14 The Practice of Mindfulness in Grief01:05:42 Weird and Unique Ways of Processing Grief01:10:41 Closing Thoughts on Grief and the Importance of Connection