Feel the Fear & Do It Anyway, But First IMAGINE It: Life Lessons from a Trauma Therapist

In this insightful conversation, Mary Vicario shares her personal journey from education to trauma-informed care, emphasizing the importance of creating safe spaces and understanding behavior as communication. Discover practical strategies for fostering resilience and healing in both children and adults.Guest BioMary Vicario, LPCC-S is the Founder of Finding Hope Consulting and a Licensed Professional Clinical Counselor Supervisor, Certified Trauma Specialist who holds a Certificate in Traumatic Studies from Bessel van der Kolk’s Trauma Center at the Justice Resource Institute. Through her affiliation with the Jean Baker Miller Training Institute at Wellesley College and ongoing training at Harvard Medical School, Mary translates Relational-Cultural Theory (RCT) and neuroscience into in-home and community-based trauma programming to build resilience and improve stability for individuals of all ages and ability levels. Sound bites"Limits connected with safety give us felt safety.""Shame makes people feel like they are the mistake.""Resilience is adaptation, not bouncing back."Chapters00:00 Introduction and guest introduction01:02 Mary Vicario's background and journey03:20 Story of Sue and Steve: Building trust and safety1033:18:52 The importance of saying no before saying yes17305:32:24 Applying trauma-informed principles in adult life20333:19:08 Using limits and safety to foster healing24111:05:50 Creating safe spaces and the significance of safety signs26916:39:13 The brain's negativity bias and resilience33416:39:13 Practicing fear and imagining success36888:52:33 The power of positive prediction and visualization43388:52:36 Trauma-responsive care and understanding behavior52916:39:34 The layers of emotion: anger, sadness, fear60999:59:46 The impact of shame and guilt on behavior70138:53:12 The message of resilience and healing83944:26:40 Resources and closing remarksKeywordstrauma-informed care, resilience, safe spaces, behavior as communication, healing, education, mental health, neuroscience, connection, safetyResources – Reading List From This EpisodeBruce Perry: What Happened to You: Conversations of Trauma, Resilience, and HealingLou Cozolino: The Neuroscience of Human Relationships: Attachment and the Developing Social BrainBrene Brown: The Gifts of ImperfectionDaniel Siegel: Personality and Wholeness in Therapy: Integrating 9 Patterns of Developmental Pathways in Clinical PracticeResources – Mentioned in This EpisodeChief Tom Synan on Compass Stories: Watch Full Convo HearMatthew Gellen on Compass Stories: Watch Full Convo HearConnect With Mary:Home | Finding Hope Consulting, LLCConnect with Veronicahttps://www.veronicasterling.com