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EPISODE · Feb 24, 2026 · 12 MIN

Feeling Like You’re the Problem in an Anxious–Avoidant Relationship

from LET’S TALK ATTACHMENTS · host Jessica Da Silva, LMFT

In this episode, we unpack why anxious attachers often feel like they’re “too much” in relationships — especially when paired with avoidants. I break down how this dynamic creates a distorted sense of responsibility, why you’re not actually the problem, and how unmet needs drive anxious expression. We’ll also cover how to find balance, when it’s time to walk away, and what both anxious and avoidant partners can do to create healthier, more secure connection. Work with Jessica 1-1 HERE.

In this episode, we unpack why anxious attachers often feel like they’re “too much” in relationships — especially when paired with avoidants. I break down how this dynamic creates a distorted sense of responsibility, why you’re not actually the problem, and how unmet needs drive anxious expression. We’ll also cover how to find balance, when it’s time to walk away, and what both anxious and avoidant partners can do to create healthier, more secure connection. Work with Jessica 1-1 HERE.

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