Female Friendships Are Just as Traumatising as Romantic Ones - with Amy Rushworth Dating + Relationship Coach

You've healed your childhood wounds. You've done the work on your romantic relationship. You can spot a red flag in a man from three streets away.But have you ever sat down and actually looked at your friendships the same way?In this episode I'm joined by my friend and dating and relationship coach Amy Rushworth, and we go somewhere the internet basically never goes. Not dating. Not men. Female friendship. The wounds, the patterns, the heartbreak that can be just as brutal as anything a man's ever put us through.Amy's spent years helping women heal their romantic patterns, but she's honest about the fact that the next level of the video game for her was her friendships with women. And once she said that out loud to me, I knew this conversation had to happen.We get into why we'll pour endless energy into fixing our love life and completely ignore the same wounds showing up with our girlfriends. Why being the reliable one, the low maintenance one, the one who always initiates, is quietly costing you. And why decentring men might be the single best thing you can do for your friendships.What we cover:Amy's origin story, from an absolute shit show of a dating life to ten years happily married, and why healing her romantic wounds just uncovered a new layer with womenTaking personal responsibility without turning it into self blame, and why looking in the mirror is always the more empowering moveThe overgiver pattern, why it feels like a gift and quietly comes from a wound, and how it trains people to expect nothing back from youWhy relationships with women can be just as savagely traumatising as romantic onesBeing a self centred woman (not selfish, self centred) and why decentring your man is one of the healthiest things you can do for your marriage, your friendships, and yourselfFriendship red flags to watch for, and the green flags that actually matterWhy the ability to receive is just as important as the ability to give, and how hard that can be for an overgiverAmy's advice for the woman thinking "where the fuck did all my friends go"A few of my favourite moments:"Relationships with women can be just as savagely traumatising as romantic relationships."Amy's take on overgiving as a way to stay in control, so you never have to depend on anyone elseThe reminder that friendship is a goal like any other, and sometimes you just have to be brave enough to ask someone to be your friendIf this episode stirred something up for you, I want to know. Screenshot it, pop it in your Instagram stories, tag us both, and let us know what landed.More from Amy:Instagram: @thisisamyrushworthHer new membership, Chosen Woman, is live now for anyone who wants direct support and coaching around dating and relationships.