flop eras, shrek-gate, ego death, supporting women's rights & wrongs

recording of a tiktok/youtube live on 24.02.2026 !video version: https://youtu.be/xIduRHUSvUM00:00 - recent obsessions02:00 - being a woman in corporate07:15 - dealing with insecure/intimidated women08:03 - navigating a flop era10:22 - current fave beauty products11:56 - not taking things personally/detachment 14:56 - talking stages15:45 - freelancing17:26 - somatic exercises17:51 - comparing yourself on social media18:53 - draining family members19:51 - guy not following up on dates20:06 - being consistent with hobbies21:35 - financial flop era22:31 - getting new hobbies23:01 - putting pressure on yourself24:06 - pivoting from corporate25:20 - visiting perth27:50 - making friends31:24 - asmr & vlogging36:00 - shrek gate46:25 - the emotional spiral, win-win relationships, navigating spaces as a minority 48:13 - women being held to higher moral standards than men48:40 - identifying problems vs creating solutions50:30 - misidentifying issues52:55 - dating when you’re young54:00 - ramadan in shanghai56:26 - when to start dating again57:27 - gender imbalance in china58:30 - ego death??? re-constructing your identity1:00:00 - gender binary and performance of gender in china1:02:00 - reading1:03:00 - pole schedule1:04:00 - post-shrek gate1:09:00 - provider men, going 50/501:13:00 - women benefitting from patriarchy, being hot & having fun, living life to your full potential1:16:00 - analysis paralysis, learning from failure1:17:00 - men and red pill 1:17:20 - the tragedy of heterosexuality by jane ward1:19:58 - passive aggressive behaviour 1:20:16 - gay relationship dynamics1:22:20 - smear campaigns, sh*t talking1:24:20 - don’t confront passive agressive behaviour1:27:18 - i support women’s rights and wrongs1:29:00 - women defending shrek1:35:00 - marginisation in the dominant group1:37:15 - the illusion of binary options1:39:26 - loser mindset with winner entitlement1:41:45 - media literacy1:42:30 - de-centering men, pick-mes, male-centered men1:44:35 - beyond right and wrong1:45:00 - live by example1:47:07 - cognitive offloading1:47:27 - how to make the most authentic decision for you1:48:35 - men aren’t riding for female characters1:49:00 - boundaries around social media