Foundations of a Healthy Relationship | HG Vaisesika Dasa and HG Nirakula Dasi | 16 May 2026

I was just thinking about when Prabhu and I first were getting to know each other—before we were even engaged, and obviously before we were married. Just the things that we had to learn about each other. One of the things that sticks in my mind is we lived in LA at the time, and we used to go down to the marina to take walks. He's a foot taller than me—or more than a foot taller than me—and he has got quite a leg span. So, I had to take quicker steps, and I noticed that he also changed his gait so that we could walk together comfortably. I think that's a little bit of what marriage is about: you are individuals, you do things differently, you may see things differently, you may communicate differently, but learning how to bring those things together is part of what makes a really successful marriage relationship. (Excerpt from the talk by HG Nirākulā Dāsī) The other thing that is foundational is the sound vibration. Because every environment, every realm, is defined by the sound vibration therein. Everybody has a soundtrack in his or her environment—or, together, you have a soundtrack. You can determine what your consciousness will be depending on that soundtrack. It is almost, seemingly, too obvious to state, but whatever you consume on a regular basis—whatever you're taking in through your eyes, through your ears—is what's going to be there within your heart. That's the science of the three modes of material nature: how the universe works, and how our consciousness is formed. So, considering any peaks and valleys, it can always be evened out, or we can always rise above those various changes in our lives by readjusting the sound. It's good to know because everyone goes through various challenges, and one of the main teachings in the Bhagavad-gītā that Kṛṣṇa gives is how to remain equipoised while we are facing challenges. It's the reveal of our true character—how we act under duress. Nobody can act civilly under duress unless they have purified their consciousness and that happens especially by purifying the transcendental sound vibration. That's why I like to say: if all else fails—and it will—chant Hare Kṛṣṇa. If you keep the that vibration going and make it ubiquitous in your lives, then you will always stay transcendental above the changes, or aloof enough from the changes to be methodical but dispassionate when you go through anything in your lives. It's just the nature of the world that there are various challenges, and one of the great opportunities to grow together is learning how to face those challenges together. You have to have a strategy ahead of time. Those who assume that there will be no challenges will be disappointed; but those who prepare for challenges will meet them, and those who meet them with the right means to adjust to them, grow in their relationships. (Excerpt from the talk by HG Vaisesika Dasa) Occasion: Wedding reception of Swaraj and Maya ------------------------------------------------------------ To connect with His Grace Vaiśeṣika Dāsa, please visit https://www.fanthespark.com/next-steps/ask-vaisesika-dasa/?utm_source=youtube&utm_medium=video&utm_campaign=launch2025 https://vaisesikadasayatra.blogspot.com/ ------------------------------------------------------------ Add to your wisdom literature collection: https://iskconsv.com/book-store/?utm_source=youtube&utm_medium=video&utm_campaign=launch2025 https://www.bbtacademic.com/books/?utm_source=youtube&utm_medium=video&utm_campaign=launch2025 https://thefourquestionsbook.com/?utm_source=youtube&utm_medium=video&utm_campaign=launch2025 ------------------------------------------------------------ Join us live on Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/FanTheSpark/