From Self Doubt to Success: 5 Ways You Self Silence And How To Overcome It

Today’s episode of the podcast is an interview with Fifi Mason, where we are talking all about what self-silencing is and how it can impact you in business In this episode, Fifi shares some amazing insights into the reasons you might be self-silencing, as well as her top tips to move past self-silencing, so that you can show up for those you want to serve. Fifi Mason is a Personal Brand & Visibility Coach, her mission and purpose is to help individuals with quieter voices show up authentically, amplify their impact and create the change they wish to see in the world. KEY TAKEAWAYS COVERED IN THE PODCAST Reasons you might be self silencing and the impact it has on your business Practical ways to overcome self silencing The mindset shift that takes you from self doubt to serving your audience If you enjoyed this episode then please feel free to go and share it on your social media or head over to iTunes and give me a review, I would be so very grateful.   LINKS TO RESOURCES MENTIONED IN TODAY’S EPISODE Buy Fifi's mini book 'Stop Self Silencing' Connect with Fifi Mason Connect with Teresa on Instagram, LinkedIn or Facebook Transcript Teresa: Hello and welcome to this week's episode of the Dream Business Podcast. How are you doing? So we have another interview this week, which I am really looking forward to, for lots of reasons. I very much admire this woman. One of the main reasons is because she's put on one of the best summits I've ever been to as a speaker. And it's almost like. She quietly just gets on with things and they are all amazing, which is awesome. I love it. So this week we have the very lovely Fifi Mason. She is a personal brand and visibility coach and her mission and purpose is to help. I knew I'd get that messed up. I do this all the time, people, you know, I don't like reading. I shouldn't read on the podcast. So I will just go back because whenever I read a bio, I hate it. You know, that someone was talking to me just as like digression the other day about they're getting a new teleprompter. And I was like, could you even imagine if I had to read a teleprompter? I'd be a nightmare. So. I'm going to start again. Fifi Mason is a personal brand and visibility coach. Her mission and purpose is to help individuals with quieter voices show up authentically, amplify their impact and create the change they wish to see in the world. Fifi, welcome to the podcast. Fifi: Thank you so much for having me. And it's interesting that you're struggling with that because I find it much easier to just read. So, which Teresa: completely offers it . Yeah. And I do know that by some people, some people script their entire podcast. Mm-Hmm. I lit. Could you imagine? I literal have to read like a sentence. . I I, it would be an absolute disaster. So for me, I am so much better off the cuff the same. If someone wants something prerecorded, I treat it like it's live. So if I slightly mess up, I start again or not start again. I just keep going. Yeah. 'cause if I try to do it perfectly, I will mess it up massively. So apart from being an amazing summit host, which you are, and Fifi is very kindly giving me some of her time, because as you've heard me maybe mention on the podcast, but only very briefly, I am planning a summit in March, which now gives me even more respect for Fifi because it's a ton of work. But Fifi, just tell us a bit about a bit more about who you are and what you do. Fifi: Yes, of course I can do that. So, as you said, I'm Fifi Mason and I am a personal brand invisibility coach and I work specifically with quiet impact makers and quiet coaches, helping them to Show up in a way that feels more natural, aligned with who they are, their personality, and really just start putting themselves out there in a way that feels comfortable to them, without having to be the loudest in the room, the one that's Shouting the loudest in their kind of marketing message, they can still embrace their quiet nature and, and put themselves out there in that way and find a way that works for them. So that's predominantly who I help and how I do it. So. Teresa: And people would find this hard to understand because I am an extrovert and I don't mind putting myself out there, but even I sometimes get intimidated by some of the people who have the loudest voices and often the people who have the loudest voices tend to be the ones who get the business, which Even I find frustrating, so I can't imagine who someone who wouldn't maybe class themselves as extroverted as I am, how frustrating that must be for them, and also how disheartening and how almost what's the point, like, how do you get over that whole, actually I can still create what I want without having to try and match what they're doing, because it just wouldn't be authentic, would it? Fifi: Yeah, and that's the goal really to, to be authentically you. And I think, I think there is a shift going on where people aren't just going for the loudest person in the room anymore. They are going for those who are genuine, authentic and being themselves. And you can see that in the way that people are connecting and the changes in people's. Decisions in their buying decisions, because they're not just going for those that are out there and, and don't, they don't align with, they're going with the people that they do, that they like, that they get on with, who, who have the same values as them, who are just being authentically themselves. But that is often a struggle for a lot of people as well, just to have that freedom and the. And feel comfortable being themselves in front of people. And that's predominantly why I help my clients with really getting clear on who they are, what they stand for, and how they're going to communicate that in a way that feels authentic and aligned and start moving past some of the struggles that they might have, which. which is around, often around self silencing. Teresa: So what do you mean by the term self silencing? Fifi: So, self silencing at its core is when we, when we hold back our thoughts, our ideas, our opinions, and even sharing our story and our experiences for the fear of Mostly potential consequences or mostly perceived consequences, things that we think are going to happen, but tend not to happen. And so it's the struggle of just, just being yourself and really talking about the things that you think about the thing, the ideas that you have, the, the experiences you've had in your life, you find it really difficult to. To express them, to talk about them out loud in the world on social media. Um, and it can, it can really impact the connection that you make with those clients and, and really impact how they perceive you if you're not being your true self. Um, so this is a quite a, quite a big problem that I find. That a lot of, a lot of people face, but predominantly the quieter, more introverted types struggle with this a lot Teresa: more. What do they think? You know, this must be something that, that comes up a lot and I have some thoughts of my own on this, but like, like you said, people aren't doing it because there's a fear. So what is it that they're fearing? What do they think is going to happen if they use their voice, if they show up authentically, if they give an opinion on something? Fifi: Well, it really starts in in this 5 different reasons that I've identified that make. But that kind of show up will help us to see how it shows up. So, so the five reasons, the core reasons we might be self silencing for each one, they, they have different things, different, different scenarios that, that could potentially be holding you back. So, so I can go through those. That'd be great. Yeah. One by one. So the first one is that you worry that those you care about the most. We'll see you differently and judge you differently and this one specific, this one is specifically because it's specifically your close friends and family because they're, they're the ones that we hold or their opinion. We hold that dear to us, so we going to be more fearful of what they think, what they, what their opinion is all of us, then, then someone that we don't know in the world. And I see this show up a lot with those that are definitely new to business when they're doing something new in their business, and they're, they're worried that maybe. Close friends and family, colleagues or ex colleagues, maybe peers in their industry will judge them for what they're doing, what they're putting out there on. If they're, if they're just suddenly showing up on social media, if they, if they. Saying things that, that people have just never heard them say before, who, who know them. They're going to be surprised and start questioning, well, why are you all of a sudden doing this? This, this is not something you've ever done...