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EPISODE · Mar 4, 2026 · 47 MIN

God, Please Change My Spouse! What to Do When Your Marriage Expectations Don’t Match Reality

from The Family Business with The Alessis: A Christian Parenting and Marriage Podcast · host Steve and Mary Alessi | Pastors | Christian Parenting and Marriage Mentors

Are you praying that the person you married becomes more like the person you THOUGHT you married? In this episode, you'll discover why praying "God, please change my wife / husband" may not be the right kind of prayer... and how you can build a thriving marriage by focusing on personal growth, realistic expectations, and true understanding.Marriage can be beautiful, but it comes with some real challenges—especially when the quirks and habits that once seemed cute become real irritants. To help you navigate this common struggle in marriage, Steve and Mary Alessi explore how to identify when a quirk is just that—and when a situation may warrant setting up healthy boundaries. If you're looking for practical, faith-based advice to strengthen your relationship, avoid common pitfalls, and find humor in the journey, this episode is for you. Whether you're newly married or decades in, you'll walk away with actionable insights for building a marriage that lasts.Key topics in this episode:Why praying for your spouse to change may be the wrong approachThe "couch dance": How dating evolves into marriageHandling personality differences and minor irritantsWhen to set boundaries for serious issuesDon't forget to subscribe, leave a comment, and share with friends who need encouragement for their marriage journey. Family is everybody's business!Text the show! Support the showJOIN THE FAMILY BUSINESS WITH OUR NEWSLETTERSign Up for Our Family Business Newsletter and get more inside news from the Alessis + tips and strategies for a happier family! Get free access to the newsletterCONNECT WITH THE FAMILY BUSINESSFollow Us on Instagram and FacebookSubscribe on YouTubeLeave a reviewMORE PODCASTS YOU'LL ENJOYFind more podcasts coming from our Metro Life Studios team, including:My Morning DevotionalMen's Morning DevotionalThe Mary and Martha Show You can listen to all of these shows on our Metro Life Studios app here! Get The Metro Life Studios app 

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Are you praying that the person you married becomes more like the person you THOUGHT you married? In this episode, you'll discover why praying "God, please change my wife / husband" may not be the right kind of prayer... and how you can build a thriving marriage by focusing on personal growth, realistic expectations, and true understanding. Marriage can be beautiful, but it comes with some real challenges—especially when the quirks and habits that once seemed cute become real irritant...

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