Grief Leave: Navigating Loss With Compassion, Spaciousness, And Self Care

Grief is a profound journey, but you don’t have to walk it alone. In this episode, I share my personal experience with "grief leave" and offer tools to help you navigate loss with compassion, presence, and self-care. From understanding the layers of grief to simple practices that soothe the heart and body, this episode is here to support you through tender times. In the episode we'll explore: How a grief leave creates space for deep healing and transformation in this tender time Why taking the time to lean into these emotions rather than avoid them brings powerful understanding and appreciation for the life you're living Learn a powerful breathing practice to help you self-regulate and hold yourself through the hardest moments. 💌 Don’t forget to download the free Power Pause Pocket Guide for more grounding tools and resources to help you find calm and clarity during difficult times: https://www.megan-nolan.com/pocket  You’re not alone in this journey—let’s navigate it together.   Please find the show notes below. Since it is a transcription there may be spelling errors and/or weird grammar. Ignore that and enjoy!   100:00:00,320 --> 00:00:02,400Hello and welcome to a movement of people 200:00:02,400 --> 00:00:05,040who care so much about how they feel that 300:00:05,040 --> 00:00:06,480they make time for themselves and their 400:00:06,480 --> 00:00:08,480health every day. I'm a leader of this 500:00:08,480 --> 00:00:10,720movement and the host of this podcast, 600:00:11,080 --> 00:00:13,120and my name is Megan Nolan. I am a 700:00:13,120 --> 00:00:15,120personal trainer, a yoga instructor, a 800:00:15,120 --> 00:00:17,040mental fitness coach, a best-selling 900:00:17,040 --> 00:00:19,600author, an award-winning speaker, and I'm 1000:00:19,600 --> 00:00:21,840neurodivergent. So yeah, I got lots going 1100:00:21,840 --> 00:00:24,800on too. But I'm on a mission to help 1200:00:24,800 --> 00:00:27,440you make sure that not only you get to do 1300:00:27,440 --> 00:00:28,960all the big, incredible things that are 1400:00:28,960 --> 00:00:30,800on your heart to do in the world, but you 1500:00:30,800 --> 00:00:33,600also get to actually enjoy your 1600:00:33,600 --> 00:00:36,000life and everything that you've created 1700:00:36,160 --> 00:00:38,560too. And that's what this podcast is all 1800:00:38,560 --> 00:00:41,040about, helping you to do just that. So 1900:00:41,280 --> 00:00:43,361let's jump in to today's episode. 2000:00:45,201 --> 00:00:46,921Hello and welcome back. Today we're 2100:00:46,921 --> 00:00:49,241talking about taking a grief leave. 2200:00:49,921 --> 00:00:51,921Navigating loss through compassion, 2300:00:51,921 --> 00:00:54,841spaciousness and self-care. Welcome to 2400:00:54,961 --> 00:00:57,201this episode of the Movement, Mind and 2500:00:57,201 --> 00:00:59,081Meaning podcast and I'm your host, Megan 2600:00:59,081 --> 00:01:01,561Nolan. So I don't know if I 2700:01:01,561 --> 00:01:04,481officially made it up, but last week 2800:01:04,721 --> 00:01:07,201I came up with a term grief leave 2900:01:08,001 --> 00:01:10,081and I looked it up and there wasn't 3000:01:10,081 --> 00:01:12,801really anything that came through, but I 3100:01:12,801 --> 00:01:15,201uncovered that there is something that is 3200:01:15,201 --> 00:01:17,921traditionally recognized as a bereavement 3300:01:17,921 --> 00:01:19,881leave. And essentially, they mean the 3400:01:19,881 --> 00:01:22,841same thing when you're experiencing the 3500:01:23,841 --> 00:01:26,641grief or the mourning or the sadness 3600:01:26,641 --> 00:01:29,361or the confusion or the void or 3700:01:29,841 --> 00:01:32,761the emptiness that comes after you 3800:01:32,761 --> 00:01:35,121lose someone or something that you love. 3900:01:35,521 --> 00:01:37,601That period of grief 4000:01:38,161 --> 00:01:40,961that needs to be honored, that deserves 4100:01:40,961 --> 00:01:43,681to be tended to, is 4200:01:43,721 --> 00:01:46,641what?I feel is what we're 4300:01:46,641 --> 00:01:49,361doing when we take space for 4400:01:49,361 --> 00:01:51,681ourselves and taking a leave and 4500:01:51,681 --> 00:01:54,561mourning, mourning the loss and 4600:01:54,561 --> 00:01:57,521bereavement is an older word that 4700:01:57,521 --> 00:02:00,161means all of that and actually comes from 4800:02:00,641 --> 00:02:03,281the root is to take away or to 4900:02:03,281 --> 00:02:05,602deprive and so it really 5000:02:05,602 --> 00:02:08,202represents that. You know, when we lose 5100:02:08,202 --> 00:02:09,842someone or something that that's been 5200:02:09,922 --> 00:02:11,882taken away and removed from our life and 5300:02:11,882 --> 00:02:14,042we're we're mourning the absence of that 5400:02:14,042 --> 00:02:16,162person or that being or that 5500:02:17,202 --> 00:02:19,282quality or what relationship or whatever 5600:02:19,282 --> 00:02:21,602it is, right?Because we can grieve many 5700:02:21,602 --> 00:02:24,122things. And I think it's really important 5800:02:24,122 --> 00:02:26,642that we honor the tenderness. 5900:02:27,042 --> 00:02:29,602And when I'm presented this 6000:02:30,002 --> 00:02:32,722on my social media to acknowledge 6100:02:32,722 --> 00:02:35,442that I was taking this. So many 6200:02:35,442 --> 00:02:37,522people were grateful for this recognition 6300:02:37,522 --> 00:02:39,362because The thing is, is that we all 6400:02:39,362 --> 00:02:41,762experience grief, unfortunately, right?If 6500:02:41,762 --> 00:02:44,042we're lucky enough to to love and to 6600:02:44,042 --> 00:02:46,642lose, to live long enough 6700:02:47,042 --> 00:02:49,362to be able to experience this deep 6800:02:49,362 --> 00:02:51,202connection in this love and relationship 6900:02:51,202 --> 00:02:54,122with something. And oftentimes the 7000:02:54,162 --> 00:02:56,562other side of that is to lose that 7100:02:56,882 --> 00:02:58,482right is to have that be taken away. 7200:02:58,482 --> 00:03:00,802Because as much as some people resist 7300:03:00,802 --> 00:03:02,842this, death is a natural part of life and 7400:03:03,122 --> 00:03:05,682andWhether it's death or a change in 7500:03:05,682 --> 00:03:07,322relationship or whatever it is that 7600:03:07,322 --> 00:03:09,562you're grieving, you know, oftentimes 7700:03:09,562 --> 00:03:11,562it's, and in my case it was the loss of 7800:03:11,562 --> 00:03:14,282our pet. So Bailey was our 16 year old 7900:03:14,282 --> 00:03:16,562dog and he had congestive heart disease 8000:03:16,562 --> 00:03:18,442and it was time, you know, and it was a 8100:03:18,482 --> 00:03:20,402compassionate decision. It was a really, 8200:03:20,402 --> 00:03:22,322really hard decision. 8300:03:23,122 --> 00:03:25,962And at the point of recording 8400:03:25,962 --> 00:03:27,042this, it's been a week 8500:03:29,083 --> 00:03:31,843and I'm 8600:03:31,843 --> 00:03:33,563really, I'm navigating it. 8700:03:34,403 --> 00:03:36,723Because the reality is, is that when we 8800:03:36,723 --> 00:03:39,683are tender in the heart space 8900:03:40,203 --> 00:03:42,323and we're navigating what it feels like 9000:03:43,523 --> 00:03:45,203to be in this space of 9100:03:45,843 --> 00:03:48,443fragility and to 9200:03:48,443 --> 00:03:50,523navigate what it feels like to have feel 9300:03:50,523 --> 00:03:53,123like our heart is broken and and 9400:03:53,123 --> 00:03:55,843sad and heavy and still 9500:03:57,203 --> 00:04:00,003navigate life at the same time, that can 9600:04:00,003 --> 00:04:02,403be extremely difficult. Because the one 9700:04:02,403 --> 00:04:05,243thing I've come to realize about grief is 9800:04:05,243 --> 00:04:06,883that the only thing that's predictable 9900:04:06,883 --> 00:04:09,123about it is its unpredictability, 10000:04:10,083 --> 00:04:12,683and how it literally just 10100:04:12,683 --> 00:04:15,523blindsides you out of nowhere, and 10200:04:15,523 --> 00:04:18,243how it's so important for us to 10300:04:19,523 --> 00:04:21,763take the time to hold 10400:04:21,803 --> 00:04:24,083ourself in this tenderness 10500:04:24,483 --> 00:04:27,363and in this feeling 10600:04:27,723 --> 00:04:30,283of. Sadness and loss and 10700:04:30,283 --> 00:04:33,003grief and pain and anger and resentment 10800:04:33,003 --> 00:04:35,403and frustration and and and 10900:04:35,403 --> 00:04:37,523denial and acceptance and all of these 11000:04:37,843 --> 00:04:40,123aspects of the spiral that is grief. And 11100:04:40,123 --> 00:04:41,923it's not a linear process, right?You 11200:04:41,923 --> 00:04:44,083know, and you've likely heard of those 11300:04:44,483 --> 00:04:46,563those stages of grief by Elisabeth 11400:04:46,563 --> 00:04:48,643Kubler-Ross and and she 11500:04:49,363 --> 00:04:51,324reworked that a little bit because people 11600:04:51,324 --> 00:04:52,484were frustrated that they weren't 11700:04:52,484 --> 00:04:54,204naturally progressing through the stages. 11800:04:54,204 --> 00:04:55,684And that's what she uncovered is that 11900:04:55,684 --> 00:04:58,324there's no. Natural, you know, step by 12000:04:58,324 --> 00:05:00,164step of this is that these are things 12100:05:00,164 --> 00:05:02,324that you likely might experience, but not 12200:05:02,324 --> 00:05:04,484necessarily in sequential order and maybe 12300:05:04,484 --> 00:05:06,524sometimes all at the same time. And The 12400:05:06,524 --> 00:05:08,404thing is, is that when we're experiencing 12500:05:08,404 --> 00:05:10,884this tender vulnerability of loss, 12600:05:11,524 --> 00:05:14,284it can be really challenging for us to 12700:05:15,044 --> 00:05:17,364be present to the the natural 12800:05:17,764 --> 00:05:19,924demands and requirements of our 12900:05:19,924 --> 00:05:22,724day-to-day the way that you normally 13000:05:22,724 --> 00:05:25,524would be. Essentially there's 13100:05:25,524 --> 00:05:28,404this. It's almost like emotionally 13200:05:28,964 --> 00:05:31,404we are needing this space to 13300:05:31,404 --> 00:05:33,924heal, like when we have an 13400:05:33,924 --> 00:05:35,524illness, right?Well, like when we're 13500:05:35,524 --> 00:05:38,124sick, it's that energy that we're in. 13600:05:38,124 --> 00:05:40,524When we're in grief, it requires a 13700:05:40,524 --> 00:05:43,364slowing down. It requires a 13800:05:43,364 --> 00:05:45,964gentle tending that isn't 13900:05:45,964 --> 00:05:48,444necessarily going to happen. If we just 14000:05:48,444 --> 00:05:51,284jump right back into life and we try 14100:05:51,284 --> 00:05:53,684to pretend like we're not feeling this 14200:05:53,684 --> 00:05:55,444way and try to just, you know, put on a 14300:05:55,444 --> 00:05:58,004happy face and go about it, which 14400:05:59,844 --> 00:06:02,084for many of us who've had mental health 14500:06:02,084 --> 00:06:05,044challenges is unfortunately something you 14600:06:05,044 --> 00:06:07,524might be capable of doing, right?And so 14700:06:07,524 --> 00:06:10,164this is called masking. It's just putting 14800:06:10,164 --> 00:06:12,364on a happy face and putting on a mask and 14900:06:12,364 --> 00:06:13,604pretending that it's, you know, 15000:06:13,844 --> 00:06:16,485everything's fine and. If you were 15100:06:16,485 --> 00:06:18,245dealing with anxiety or depression, you 15200:06:18,245 --> 00:06:19,765likely are familiar with that, right?You 15300:06:19,765 --> 00:06:22,005just kind of plodding through life or 15400:06:22,005 --> 00:06:23,525making your way through the day when 15500:06:23,525 --> 00:06:24,885you're feeling this way internally and 15600:06:24,885 --> 00:06:27,485you know how conflicted it is. But I feel 15700:06:27,485 --> 00:06:30,405like there's a level that we we can't do 15800:06:30,405 --> 00:06:32,565that at, at least for me. There's a level 15900:06:32,565 --> 00:06:35,125that of emotional intensity that I simply 16000:06:35,125 --> 00:06:37,805cannot pretend that I'm OK. And that to 16100:06:37,805 --> 00:06:39,765me is why the grief leave is so 16200:06:39,765 --> 00:06:42,485important, because it really 16300:06:42,485 --> 00:06:44,165does support us. 16400:06:45,285 --> 00:06:47,485In being present to the 16500:06:47,485 --> 00:06:48,805emotions and 16600:06:50,005 --> 00:06:52,765acknowledging that it is a difficult and 16700:06:52,765 --> 00:06:55,525challenging place to be by slowing 16800:06:55,525 --> 00:06:57,205down and 16900:06:58,245 --> 00:07:01,205really being a witness to the 17000:07:01,205 --> 00:07:03,685spirals of it and how it catches you and 17100:07:03,685 --> 00:07:05,605to use the tools, right. And we're going 17200:07:05,605 --> 00:07:07,005to use a tool in a little bit. We're 17300:07:07,005 --> 00:07:08,485going to take a power pause. I'm going to 17400:07:08,485 --> 00:07:10,885teach you a breathing pattern that's 17500:07:10,885 --> 00:07:13,045really been super helpful for me 17600:07:13,765 --> 00:07:15,925and there's a lot of tools. And a lot of 17700:07:15,925 --> 00:07:18,725it is just allowing yourself to 17800:07:18,725 --> 00:07:21,365witness the feeling and to feel 17900:07:21,365 --> 00:07:22,965into it. And that might seem 18000:07:22,965 --> 00:07:25,685counterproductive because when 18100:07:25,685 --> 00:07:28,165I started to explore this with my 18200:07:28,165 --> 00:07:31,045therapist is that to feel the feeling 18300:07:31,045 --> 00:07:32,885seems terrifying because it's already so 18400:07:32,885 --> 00:07:35,565painful. But the crazy thing is, is that 18500:07:35,565 --> 00:07:38,006when we are just looping in the mind. 18600:07:38,406 --> 00:07:40,006And having the mind tell us all these 18700:07:40,006 --> 00:07:42,126stories and just be in this torment and 18800:07:42,126 --> 00:07:44,326the pain and and acknowledge that. I 18900:07:44,326 --> 00:07:46,486acknowledge that that's very real. But 19000:07:46,486 --> 00:07:48,726when we allow ourselves to settle 19100:07:49,606 --> 00:07:51,526and to be in the feeling, to be in the 19200:07:51,526 --> 00:07:54,006heaviness, to be in it, but be resourced, 19300:07:54,006 --> 00:07:56,806be held in in love and be surrounded 19400:07:57,006 --> 00:07:58,886either, you know, energetically by your 19500:07:59,126 --> 00:08:00,926your seen and unseen team, right?You 19600:08:00,926 --> 00:08:03,166know, your spirit guides or you're just 19700:08:03,166 --> 00:08:06,086surrounded by. By this knowing that you 19800:08:06,086 --> 00:08:07,686know this too will pass, like there's so 19900:08:07,686 --> 00:08:10,486many beautiful ways to to resource 20000:08:10,486 --> 00:08:12,566yourself, to support yourself through 20100:08:12,566 --> 00:08:15,206these moments. And for me that has been 20200:08:15,206 --> 00:08:17,126to just really visualize this 20300:08:17,606 --> 00:08:20,006beautiful, almost 20400:08:20,166 --> 00:08:23,046big, massive healing 20500:08:23,126 --> 00:08:25,766energy in the in the shape of a heart, in 20600:08:25,766 --> 00:08:28,326the shape of of love, of of 20700:08:28,806 --> 00:08:31,446the unending on. 20800:08:32,326 --> 00:08:35,246Deniable presence of the energy 20900:08:35,246 --> 00:08:37,206of the universe, the energy of creation, 21000:08:37,206 --> 00:08:40,006the energy of the divine that is at its 21100:08:40,006 --> 00:08:42,886deepest core love. And that in 21200:08:42,886 --> 00:08:45,766order for us to be able to be 21300:08:45,766 --> 00:08:48,406present with this sadness and this grief 21400:08:48,726 --> 00:08:50,966is an acknowledgement of the love that we 21500:08:50,966 --> 00:08:53,846had for whatever you may or may not have 21600:08:53,846 --> 00:08:56,766lost and. That's really 21700:08:56,766 --> 00:08:58,686what grief is. It's it's the opposite 21800:08:58,686 --> 00:09:00,886side to the depth of which we loved 21900:09:00,886 --> 00:09:03,607someone or something and appreciated it. 22000:09:04,087 --> 00:09:06,047It's the balance, right?It's the yin and 22100:09:06,047 --> 00:09:08,247the yang and the duality. And so it's 22200:09:08,247 --> 00:09:10,527this really interesting thing is to think 22300:09:10,527 --> 00:09:13,247about like when we go into that feeling 22400:09:13,247 --> 00:09:15,847of sadness and we feel the grief and we 22500:09:15,847 --> 00:09:18,727allow ourselves to be in it and we be 22600:09:18,727 --> 00:09:20,887in the feeling of it, but in that place 22700:09:20,887 --> 00:09:22,887of being held by this resource of 22800:09:22,887 --> 00:09:25,607whatever it is of the. The waves of love 22900:09:25,607 --> 00:09:27,767or this feeling, or like the warm blanket 23000:09:27,767 --> 00:09:29,447that's supporting you, the mat, the floor 23100:09:29,447 --> 00:09:31,367that's underneath you, like to be held by 23200:09:31,367 --> 00:09:34,167something or someone, right?If 23300:09:34,167 --> 00:09:36,247you if you have people around you that 23400:09:36,247 --> 00:09:39,207can hold you, it's literally really 23500:09:39,207 --> 00:09:41,447taking you to a place where you can, 23600:09:41,807 --> 00:09:44,567where you can allow 23700:09:44,567 --> 00:09:47,367yourself to feel. Because so much of what 23800:09:47,367 --> 00:09:49,927we do in the mind is is to try to bypass 23900:09:49,927 --> 00:09:52,767the the harder emotions. And not 24000:09:52,767 --> 00:09:55,247feel them to get to the other side. And 24100:09:55,247 --> 00:09:57,927that's where this practice of 24200:09:58,007 --> 00:10:00,367just allowing yourself to be in it and to 24300:10:00,367 --> 00:10:03,287it's a sacred practice in a sense, 24400:10:03,447 --> 00:10:04,927right. And you're allowing yourself to 24500:10:04,927 --> 00:10:07,047feel the emotions because if we're just 24600:10:07,047 --> 00:10:09,367trying to get back to regular life, we 24700:10:09,367 --> 00:10:12,047bypass it and we're not allowing 24800:10:12,047 --> 00:10:14,967ourselves the that beautiful richness 24900:10:15,007 --> 00:10:17,047of this part of the human experience that 25000:10:17,047 --> 00:10:19,847is the opposite to this deep love is 25100:10:19,847 --> 00:10:22,247this grief. And so it's. 25200:10:22,647 --> 00:10:24,808Really holding space for yourself in this 25300:10:24,808 --> 00:10:27,048compassionate way and 25400:10:27,688 --> 00:10:28,888you know there's so many beautiful 25500:10:28,888 --> 00:10:30,968practices and and I think of in the 25600:10:30,968 --> 00:10:33,128Jewish tradition where they sit in Shiva 25700:10:33,328 --> 00:10:36,008and Shiva and they sit together 25800:10:36,248 --> 00:10:38,048and they sit and they are there and they 25900:10:38,048 --> 00:10:39,968are in stillness and they they are in 26000:10:39,968 --> 00:10:42,888that place together and 26100:10:43,208 --> 00:10:46,168it's that nobody knows what to say. So 26200:10:46,648 --> 00:10:48,408you know and and I'm not super familiar 26300:10:48,408 --> 00:10:50,168with the practice so please you know I. 26400:10:50,568 --> 00:10:52,728I'm only going on what little I know, but 26500:10:52,728 --> 00:10:54,968I do know that it is a beautiful, sacred 26600:10:54,968 --> 00:10:55,688container. 26700:10:57,968 --> 00:10:59,288And we all need that. 26800:11:00,888 --> 00:11:03,128We need, we need these 26900:11:03,128 --> 00:11:05,608practices to truly experience these 27000:11:05,608 --> 00:11:07,608feelings. And when it's these 27100:11:08,488 --> 00:11:11,168tighter, contractive emotions, we tend to 27200:11:11,168 --> 00:11:14,008not want to feel them. But grief is such 27300:11:14,008 --> 00:11:16,808a rich, deep 27400:11:16,888 --> 00:11:19,048place and. 27500:11:19,768 --> 00:11:22,568It is, of course it's not comfortable. 27600:11:23,448 --> 00:11:25,568And so really just watching that, you 27700:11:25,568 --> 00:11:27,768know, for me at least I can speak to is 27800:11:27,768 --> 00:11:30,408that at least lately, 27900:11:31,288 --> 00:11:32,888you know, I'm sitting in it allowing 28000:11:32,888 --> 00:11:34,408myself to grieve. I'm having these 28100:11:34,408 --> 00:11:37,288periods of of intentional grieving, right? 28200:11:37,288 --> 00:11:40,008And and during this, this spaciousness 28300:11:40,008 --> 00:11:42,168that I'm giving myself in my life, I'm 28400:11:42,168 --> 00:11:44,008taking these periods throughout the day 28500:11:44,248 --> 00:11:46,608and when they come, you know, as needed 28600:11:46,608 --> 00:11:48,169because they just come when they want to 28700:11:48,169 --> 00:11:50,409come sometimes. But I am taking these 28800:11:50,409 --> 00:11:52,809intentional moments to be in the energy 28900:11:53,089 --> 00:11:55,969of the feeling that I feel and to, 29000:11:56,489 --> 00:11:59,409you know, feel my my heart weeping these 29100:11:59,409 --> 00:12:02,249tears of sadness for this absence of this 29200:12:02,249 --> 00:12:04,409beautiful being that was my doggy for so 29300:12:04,409 --> 00:12:07,329many years. And I 29400:12:07,329 --> 00:12:10,129allow that to come and I and it just it 29500:12:10,809 --> 00:12:12,849it's rough, right?It's rough and it's 29600:12:12,849 --> 00:12:14,689intense and I'm feeling it and I'm there 29700:12:14,689 --> 00:12:16,329and I'm in it. But then this 29800:12:17,209 --> 00:12:20,129settling comes after. And 29900:12:20,129 --> 00:12:22,089this groundedness comes after 30000:12:22,649 --> 00:12:24,969and this feeling of 30100:12:26,089 --> 00:12:28,169peace comes after because that's what 30200:12:28,169 --> 00:12:30,569we're looking for, right?And in order for 30300:12:30,569 --> 00:12:33,369us to get to the other side and to have 30400:12:33,369 --> 00:12:36,209that be our reality again is we 30500:12:36,209 --> 00:12:38,009have to go through it. We can't ignore 30600:12:38,009 --> 00:12:40,809it. We can't bypass it. We can't pretend 30700:12:40,809 --> 00:12:42,489it's not happening because it won't let 30800:12:42,569 --> 00:12:45,449you, right?For me, it won't let me. It 30900:12:45,449 --> 00:12:47,089just comes at me in waves and it just 31000:12:47,089 --> 00:12:49,169keeps coming back because. We haven't 31100:12:49,169 --> 00:12:51,289equalized in this new reality yet. We 31200:12:51,289 --> 00:12:53,929haven't recalibrated to this new reality 31300:12:53,929 --> 00:12:56,809where that loved one is not physically 31400:12:56,809 --> 00:12:59,769present anymore, and it takes time for 31500:12:59,769 --> 00:13:02,009that to happen. And 31600:13:02,569 --> 00:13:05,129navigating these periods with this 31700:13:05,289 --> 00:13:07,369devotion to your healing 31800:13:08,249 --> 00:13:11,130is so powerful and that's so intentional 31900:13:11,690 --> 00:13:14,530because it's really important to 32000:13:14,530 --> 00:13:16,610do this and to take the grief leave. And 32100:13:16,610 --> 00:13:19,450so maybe you're able to. Take some actual 32200:13:19,450 --> 00:13:21,610time away from work, you knowAnd 32300:13:21,610 --> 00:13:23,530traditionally some employers do have a 32400:13:23,530 --> 00:13:26,410bereavement leave and time for 32500:13:26,410 --> 00:13:28,330mourning and time for that spaciousness. 32600:13:28,730 --> 00:13:31,210If you're self-employed like me, you're 32700:13:31,210 --> 00:13:33,530the one that needs to make that call, 32800:13:33,930 --> 00:13:36,890right?And so this is where this 32900:13:36,890 --> 00:13:39,210really interesting protective pattern is 33000:13:39,210 --> 00:13:42,170coming in. And I'm witnessing of OK, 33100:13:42,210 --> 00:13:44,330I'm taking this grief leave, but what do 33200:13:44,330 --> 00:13:47,130I do?And I'm finding this interesting. 33300:13:47,410 --> 00:13:50,250Desire to do, you know, and to to 33400:13:50,490 --> 00:13:53,410to make the most of the time, which is 33500:13:53,850 --> 00:13:56,730totally counterproductive. But, you know, 33600:13:57,290 --> 00:13:59,370I don't need to be productive on my grief 33700:13:59,370 --> 00:14:01,450leave. And in fact, that's not really 33800:14:01,450 --> 00:14:03,530honoring the grief leave. If I feel like 33900:14:03,530 --> 00:14:05,850I need to. For example, yesterday I was 34000:14:05,850 --> 00:14:08,090trying to tell myself I should clean 34100:14:08,090 --> 00:14:09,290under the kitchen sink 34200:14:12,250 --> 00:14:14,370because it's something I, you know, have 34300:14:14,370 --> 00:14:15,890been thinking about doing for a while. 34400:14:15,890 --> 00:14:18,850I'm like, really?Am I gonna throw out 34500:14:18,850 --> 00:14:21,210all cleaning products when I'm in this 34600:14:21,210 --> 00:14:24,090place?No, noLike, it doesn't need to 34700:14:24,090 --> 00:14:26,650be a productive time. And in fact, the 34800:14:26,650 --> 00:14:29,410slowing down and the spaciousness and 34900:14:29,410 --> 00:14:32,330observing that tendency to want to go 35000:14:32,330 --> 00:14:34,171back into that protective pattern of 35100:14:34,171 --> 00:14:36,331doing and taking action and just getting 35200:14:36,331 --> 00:14:38,931through, you know, fast tracking it in a 35300:14:38,931 --> 00:14:40,971sense. I'm like, wow, that's crazy. 35400:14:41,451 --> 00:14:43,451That's really interesting, you know, of 35500:14:43,451 --> 00:14:45,251how this tendency to. 35600:14:46,731 --> 00:14:49,531Make, you knowThis tendency 35700:14:49,531 --> 00:14:52,171to want to distract myself, which is 35800:14:52,171 --> 00:14:54,571normal, but we don't need to distract 35900:14:54,571 --> 00:14:57,291ourselves by going back to to 36000:14:57,291 --> 00:14:59,371work and just going back into the old 36100:14:59,371 --> 00:15:01,611patterns. And the interesting thing I'm 36200:15:01,611 --> 00:15:03,691noticing, and this might be something for 36300:15:03,691 --> 00:15:06,571you to consider, is that in 36400:15:06,571 --> 00:15:09,371this moment when it feels like 36500:15:09,451 --> 00:15:12,411everything has fallen apart and you don't 36600:15:12,411 --> 00:15:15,291recognize the world or the reality that 36700:15:15,291 --> 00:15:18,011you're living in because of the loss. 36800:15:18,411 --> 00:15:20,731And it feels like everything is in 36900:15:20,731 --> 00:15:23,371shambles and everything is just scattered 37000:15:23,371 --> 00:15:26,131all over the floor, which is where I feel 37100:15:26,131 --> 00:15:27,611like I'm at currently. And 37200:15:29,451 --> 00:15:30,811we get to look at 37300:15:32,171 --> 00:15:34,571this as an opportunity. 37400:15:35,451 --> 00:15:37,771What are you gonna let go of too?Because 37500:15:37,771 --> 00:15:39,611you're letting go of this loved one, 37600:15:39,611 --> 00:15:42,011right?What patterns in yourself 37700:15:42,651 --> 00:15:45,131are you willing to let go and to be done 37800:15:45,131 --> 00:15:48,091with and to allow to fade away and shed? 37900:15:48,651 --> 00:15:51,371Because the brain 38000:15:51,371 --> 00:15:53,531wants to just go back to the status quo. 38100:15:53,611 --> 00:15:55,331And that's why you may find yourself just 38200:15:55,331 --> 00:15:56,651wanting to, you know, get back to, get 38300:15:56,971 --> 00:15:58,572back to it and this and that. And there 38400:15:58,572 --> 00:16:00,252will be a time and you will know when 38500:16:00,252 --> 00:16:01,852that's time. But 38600:16:02,892 --> 00:16:05,452what are you going to pick up back up off 38700:16:05,452 --> 00:16:07,852the floor and bring back into your 38800:16:07,852 --> 00:16:10,092reality?That's what you get to decide in 38900:16:10,092 --> 00:16:12,012this grief leave and 39000:16:12,972 --> 00:16:15,052looking at it from this place of what's 39100:16:15,052 --> 00:16:17,772really important, right?Because. death 39200:16:17,772 --> 00:16:19,532always gives us this perspective of 39300:16:19,532 --> 00:16:22,332what's really important in life and 39400:16:22,972 --> 00:16:25,172What you were doing before may not 39500:16:25,172 --> 00:16:27,692necessarily Feel like 39600:16:27,692 --> 00:16:30,612something you want to continue because 39700:16:30,612 --> 00:16:32,572when you go through these powerful 39800:16:32,572 --> 00:16:34,492experiences these portals of 39900:16:34,492 --> 00:16:36,892transformation of loss of deep loss 40000:16:37,692 --> 00:16:39,492You come through the other side as a 40100:16:39,492 --> 00:16:42,372different person 1000% 40200:16:43,212 --> 00:16:45,852and in this moment of this sort of 40300:16:47,692 --> 00:16:50,012Uncertainty and unsteadiness and this 40400:16:50,012 --> 00:16:51,932agitation and this discomfort. 40500:16:52,812 --> 00:16:55,372It is, of course our mind just wants to 40600:16:55,372 --> 00:16:56,612get us through to the other side and not 40700:16:56,612 --> 00:16:58,532want to deal with this. But in the 40800:16:59,692 --> 00:17:01,892discomfort is the 40900:17:01,932 --> 00:17:04,812opportunity for transformation. Ram 41000:17:04,812 --> 00:17:07,292Dass calls it the sandpaper of 41100:17:07,292 --> 00:17:10,172suffering. And so it's that 41200:17:10,172 --> 00:17:13,012polishing away at these old patterns. And 41300:17:13,012 --> 00:17:15,652so as you walk through this. Period in 41400:17:15,652 --> 00:17:17,452your life and you take this grief leave, 41500:17:17,452 --> 00:17:19,132hopefully in whatever form. And it might 41600:17:19,132 --> 00:17:21,213just be taking these moments throughout 41700:17:21,213 --> 00:17:22,973the day to really sit in the sacred 41800:17:22,973 --> 00:17:24,653practice of grieving and be present with 41900:17:24,653 --> 00:17:27,453it intentionally so that 42000:17:27,693 --> 00:17:30,493it lessens it a little bit gradually. Or 42100:17:30,493 --> 00:17:32,253maybe you're able to take some time off. 42200:17:32,653 --> 00:17:34,653It is this sense of 42300:17:35,853 --> 00:17:38,493who are you becoming in this process and. 42400:17:39,333 --> 00:17:41,333What are you really seeing as valuable 42500:17:41,333 --> 00:17:42,573and important?And there's such a 42600:17:42,573 --> 00:17:44,293tenderness because you're deep in your 42700:17:44,293 --> 00:17:46,693heart space and you're very present. And 42800:17:46,693 --> 00:17:49,293many indigenous practices and 42900:17:49,293 --> 00:17:52,253cultures and traditions suggest that 43000:17:52,253 --> 00:17:54,013when someone is in grief, you are far 43100:17:54,013 --> 00:17:56,253closer to the spirit realm and you get so 43200:17:56,253 --> 00:17:58,733many more insights and so much more 43300:17:58,733 --> 00:18:01,693guidance. And it's it's a really potent 43400:18:01,693 --> 00:18:04,573place to be if you allow yourself 43500:18:04,573 --> 00:18:06,973to be there, right?And. And because in 43600:18:06,973 --> 00:18:08,613our culture, we're, you know, we kind of 43700:18:08,613 --> 00:18:10,253try to want to bypass the negative 43800:18:10,253 --> 00:18:13,093emotions. But here in this community, all 43900:18:13,093 --> 00:18:15,813of you is welcome. All of all emotions 44000:18:15,813 --> 00:18:18,093are valid. And so it's important that we 44100:18:18,413 --> 00:18:20,973allow ourselves to sit in this and of 44200:18:20,973 --> 00:18:22,653course get support, get support, you 44300:18:22,653 --> 00:18:23,893know, reach out to your friends and 44400:18:23,893 --> 00:18:25,293family, your loved ones, maybe your 44500:18:25,293 --> 00:18:26,973therapist, maybe different modalities, 44600:18:27,373 --> 00:18:29,453get support, right as needed, of course. 44700:18:29,933 --> 00:18:31,933But really what we're doing here is we're 44800:18:31,933 --> 00:18:34,333practicing this, this intentional 44900:18:34,813 --> 00:18:37,773gentleness. And you 45000:18:37,773 --> 00:18:40,093know, what I uncovered with my therapist 45100:18:40,093 --> 00:18:42,573was this pattern in my brain that said, 45200:18:42,813 --> 00:18:44,534you know, you have to have these big 45300:18:44,534 --> 00:18:47,214emotions to to to not be alone in 45400:18:47,214 --> 00:18:50,094this or or it's it's 45500:18:50,094 --> 00:18:52,294going to be so brutal to go through this 45600:18:52,294 --> 00:18:53,654and why would you want to sit in it?It's 45700:18:53,654 --> 00:18:55,614just going to be horrible. And that's the 45800:18:55,614 --> 00:18:58,094mind keeping us in this 45900:18:58,094 --> 00:19:00,494protective pattern. Because when I go 46000:19:00,494 --> 00:19:02,654into my heart and do the practice I was 46100:19:02,654 --> 00:19:05,054speaking to earlier of. Feeling where I 46200:19:05,054 --> 00:19:07,854feel it in my body, holding myself like 46300:19:07,854 --> 00:19:10,134I'm wrapping an energetic blanket around 46400:19:10,134 --> 00:19:12,334this part of myself, sitting in it, 46500:19:12,334 --> 00:19:15,054breathing in it. And the peace that 46600:19:15,054 --> 00:19:17,294comes, and sometimes it 46700:19:18,334 --> 00:19:20,494takes time, it takes breath to get there, 46800:19:20,494 --> 00:19:22,734it takes patience. Sometimes it's rather 46900:19:22,734 --> 00:19:25,694quick. And I recognize that in the body, 47000:19:26,174 --> 00:19:28,014that sense of knowing, that sense of 47100:19:28,014 --> 00:19:30,734peace, that sense of deep, deep, deep 47200:19:30,734 --> 00:19:33,294love, it's always right there. It's 47300:19:33,294 --> 00:19:35,654always available to us and we can just 47400:19:35,654 --> 00:19:37,934drop into it and it gets to be gentle 47500:19:38,974 --> 00:19:41,854and it's just a different approach. 47600:19:42,654 --> 00:19:44,654And it's that that willingness to 47700:19:44,654 --> 00:19:47,294navigate the waves, right?And to to 47800:19:47,534 --> 00:19:49,774tend to ourselves and to turn towards 47900:19:49,774 --> 00:19:51,774ourselves, that part of ourselves that is 48000:19:52,014 --> 00:19:54,494feeling that deep loss. And notice the 48100:19:54,494 --> 00:19:56,574part that's the mind that's like, why 48200:19:56,574 --> 00:19:57,934would you do that?You can't do this, you 48300:19:57,934 --> 00:19:59,214know, and like, don't go into that dark 48400:19:59,214 --> 00:20:00,974place. And and of course there's this 48500:20:00,974 --> 00:20:03,134balance, right?Especially if we are prone 48600:20:03,134 --> 00:20:04,974to that slippery slope of sadness. But 48700:20:04,974 --> 00:20:07,535it's it's just that acknowledgement of 48800:20:07,535 --> 00:20:09,455this part of you that deserves to be 48900:20:09,455 --> 00:20:11,775witnessed. So one of the 49000:20:11,775 --> 00:20:14,015tools that I've been using 49100:20:15,055 --> 00:20:16,535and that I would love to share with you 49200:20:16,535 --> 00:20:19,175now is the 49300:20:19,695 --> 00:20:22,495breath of release. Learning how to 49400:20:22,495 --> 00:20:24,735release tension and stress from your body 49500:20:25,295 --> 00:20:27,295through the breath. So we're gonna take a 49600:20:27,295 --> 00:20:28,855power pause. I'm gonna teach you how to 49700:20:28,855 --> 00:20:31,775do this now. And I would love 49800:20:31,775 --> 00:20:34,215for you to place your hands, one on your 49900:20:34,215 --> 00:20:36,935belly, one on your heart. So this is the 50000:20:38,095 --> 00:20:40,655physiological sigh. And you may be 50100:20:40,975 --> 00:20:42,495in these moments here when you've been 50200:20:42,495 --> 00:20:44,255experiencing grief and sadness and 50300:20:44,255 --> 00:20:46,015heaviness, you might have heard yourself 50400:20:46,495 --> 00:20:48,215make this same sound, that ah 50500:20:49,775 --> 00:20:51,415And you kind of, you know that sort of 50600:20:51,415 --> 00:20:54,255shuddery breath that happens after we 50700:20:54,255 --> 00:20:56,335cry. It's actually a reset for the 50800:20:56,335 --> 00:20:58,815nervous system that you are doing 50900:20:59,135 --> 00:21:01,935instinctively. So when we use this 51000:21:01,935 --> 00:21:03,535breath of release, you're doing it 51100:21:03,535 --> 00:21:06,295actively to achieve the same calming and 51200:21:06,295 --> 00:21:08,615regulating impact on your nervous system. 51300:21:09,055 --> 00:21:10,855So it's a two-part inhale. We fill the 51400:21:10,855 --> 00:21:13,455lungs once and then right to the top on 51500:21:13,455 --> 00:21:15,935the second inhale and then on the exhale 51600:21:15,935 --> 00:21:18,895we. Settle and sink 51700:21:18,895 --> 00:21:20,775and ground yourself. So we try it 51800:21:20,775 --> 00:21:21,615together. Ready. 51900:21:24,095 --> 00:21:25,295So two-part inhale. 52000:21:27,855 --> 00:21:29,215You can hear the two parts. 52100:21:31,856 --> 00:21:32,336Try. 52200:21:39,456 --> 00:21:40,336Now do it slower. 52300:21:44,416 --> 00:21:45,536Longer on the exhale. 52400:21:49,856 --> 00:21:50,576With sound, 52500:21:59,226 --> 00:21:59,946keep going, 52600:22:03,466 --> 00:22:05,306keep going. Feel the shift happening. 52700:22:13,626 --> 00:22:14,186One more time. 52800:22:19,786 --> 00:22:20,586Breathe normally. 52900:22:29,296 --> 00:22:31,056So what we're doing in that breath, the 53000:22:31,056 --> 00:22:32,896breath of release, this beautiful power 53100:22:32,896 --> 00:22:35,576pause, is giving yourself the 53200:22:35,616 --> 00:22:38,496opportunity to quiet 53300:22:38,496 --> 00:22:40,256and regulate your nervous system. By 53400:22:40,656 --> 00:22:43,576intentionally slowing down the 53500:22:43,576 --> 00:22:45,376breath, we activate the vagus nerve. We 53600:22:45,376 --> 00:22:47,176turn on the parasympathetic nervous 53700:22:47,176 --> 00:22:50,056system. We shift you into a place of rest 53800:22:50,056 --> 00:22:51,856and digest. We're slowing everything 53900:22:51,856 --> 00:22:54,697down. We are increasing the 54000:22:54,737 --> 00:22:57,617oxygenation of your body as well 54100:22:57,617 --> 00:23:00,497as releasing more carbon dioxide. So 54200:23:00,497 --> 00:23:02,657we're stimulating a balance in the breath 54300:23:02,657 --> 00:23:04,737that way in the nervous system as well. 54400:23:05,137 --> 00:23:07,697And what it does is it mimics that 54500:23:07,697 --> 00:23:09,777natural reset that comes 54600:23:10,017 --> 00:23:11,537after we. 54700:23:12,737 --> 00:23:15,617That that side that happens. And so 54800:23:15,937 --> 00:23:17,697it's such a powerful way. And we're also 54900:23:17,697 --> 00:23:19,817expanding the lung capacity, which is so 55000:23:19,817 --> 00:23:22,257important. We're expanding your capacity 55100:23:22,257 --> 00:23:24,897to hold space for this 55200:23:25,057 --> 00:23:27,977in your body, right, but also in your 55300:23:27,977 --> 00:23:30,657nervous system to hold space in this 55400:23:30,657 --> 00:23:33,617way of. This challenging emotional 55500:23:33,617 --> 00:23:36,097state that is a natural part of our human 55600:23:36,097 --> 00:23:38,297experience. So this is the impact of a 55700:23:38,297 --> 00:23:41,057power pause. And so right now this 55800:23:41,057 --> 00:23:42,817what we did just here is if you're 55900:23:42,817 --> 00:23:44,497watching this on its own as a video on 56000:23:44,497 --> 00:23:46,977YouTube, is part of this full experience 56100:23:46,977 --> 00:23:49,737inside this episode of the 56200:23:49,737 --> 00:23:51,697Movement, Mind and Meaning podcast on a 56300:23:51,697 --> 00:23:54,257taking a grief leave. And if you want to 56400:23:54,257 --> 00:23:56,057watch the video and see what I did, you 56500:23:56,057 --> 00:23:58,857can go over and watch it on YouTube. So I 56600:23:58,857 --> 00:24:00,577would love to share this tool with you 56700:24:00,577 --> 00:24:02,897because it's been so impactful for me and 56800:24:02,897 --> 00:24:05,777power pauses are really an incredible 56900:24:05,777 --> 00:24:08,737way to tend to your body, to shift your 57000:24:08,737 --> 00:24:10,897inner state. So there is a free resource 57100:24:10,897 --> 00:24:13,457in the description below on the Power 57200:24:13,457 --> 00:24:15,777pause pocket guide that you can grab. So 57300:24:17,298 --> 00:24:20,258I would love to really just wrap 57400:24:20,338 --> 00:24:23,138up this episode on taking a 57500:24:23,138 --> 00:24:25,778grief leave of really 57600:24:25,778 --> 00:24:28,418honoring. The lessons 57700:24:28,658 --> 00:24:31,298that grief 57800:24:31,378 --> 00:24:33,578brings, right?It brings a deep 57900:24:33,578 --> 00:24:35,978perspective, a recognition, a 58000:24:35,978 --> 00:24:38,578love and you know it is an 58100:24:38,578 --> 00:24:41,458opportunity for us to to slow 58200:24:41,458 --> 00:24:44,338down and to practice deep, deep 58300:24:44,338 --> 00:24:47,138compassionate self-care and power pausing 58400:24:47,138 --> 00:24:49,538and listening to this and doing what 58500:24:49,538 --> 00:24:51,858feels good for you to tend to yourself 58600:24:51,898 --> 00:24:53,618and and for me over. 58700:24:54,738 --> 00:24:56,818This period of taking this grief leave 58800:24:56,818 --> 00:24:58,818is, you know, not strict, 58900:24:59,538 --> 00:25:02,258but a regimen of 59000:25:02,658 --> 00:25:05,458baths and naps and more 59100:25:05,458 --> 00:25:08,018yoga and more meditation and a lot more 59200:25:08,018 --> 00:25:10,338journaling and a lot more writing has 59300:25:10,338 --> 00:25:12,098been really helpful for me, 59400:25:13,858 --> 00:25:15,938you know, and and allowing the emotions 59500:25:15,938 --> 00:25:17,498to come when they come. But taking these 59600:25:17,498 --> 00:25:20,098secret, sacred moments of devotion to the 59700:25:20,098 --> 00:25:21,938love that I had for Bailey and I still 59800:25:21,938 --> 00:25:24,418have and. Really sensing into his 59900:25:24,418 --> 00:25:27,298presence. Because The thing is, is that 60000:25:27,538 --> 00:25:29,578death is part of this whole life human 60100:25:29,578 --> 00:25:31,218experience and this life experience, and 60200:25:31,218 --> 00:25:34,138that there's this energetic shift. 60300:25:34,138 --> 00:25:35,498Although we can't see them in the 60400:25:35,498 --> 00:25:38,058physical form, their spirit is still very 60500:25:38,058 --> 00:25:40,379much present with you and within you. And 60600:25:40,379 --> 00:25:43,019so it's really allowing yourself to 60700:25:43,939 --> 00:25:46,739keep your heart open while 60800:25:46,899 --> 00:25:49,859it feels maybe like it's broken, 60900:25:50,099 --> 00:25:51,059right?And that might seem 61000:25:51,059 --> 00:25:53,859counterintuitive. But what's happening 61100:25:53,859 --> 00:25:55,899here is that when we allow ourselves to 61200:25:55,899 --> 00:25:58,179deeply feel these emotions in a safe way, 61300:25:58,179 --> 00:26:00,259whatever you have the capacity for, 61400:26:00,979 --> 00:26:03,459is it allows that, you know, that 61500:26:03,539 --> 00:26:05,939crack and that void and that brokenness 61600:26:05,939 --> 00:26:07,539that we might feel like when we feel 61700:26:07,539 --> 00:26:10,179heartbreak, it allows us to 61800:26:10,579 --> 00:26:13,299widen and increase our capacity to feel. 61900:26:14,659 --> 00:26:17,099And in that space that has been 62000:26:17,099 --> 00:26:19,979created, you get to decide what you're 62100:26:19,979 --> 00:26:21,779gonna fill it with. Are you going to fill 62200:26:21,779 --> 00:26:23,619it with spaciousness and compassion and 62300:26:23,619 --> 00:26:24,819love and care 62400:26:26,499 --> 00:26:28,859and allow that deep love and 62500:26:28,859 --> 00:26:30,819appreciation that you had for this being 62600:26:30,819 --> 00:26:33,459or person or whatever you might have 62700:26:33,459 --> 00:26:36,219lost to be able to 62800:26:36,899 --> 00:26:39,619shift who you are at a deep level?Because 62900:26:39,619 --> 00:26:41,299that relationship has changed you and 63000:26:41,299 --> 00:26:42,899your experience of this part of the 63100:26:42,899 --> 00:26:45,459relationship will transform you as well 63200:26:45,459 --> 00:26:47,099if you allow it to become a sacred 63300:26:47,099 --> 00:26:49,139practice. And really that's what this is 63400:26:49,139 --> 00:26:51,779doing is. Is it's giving this a 63500:26:51,779 --> 00:26:53,979sacred respect and a reverence and that's 63600:26:53,979 --> 00:26:56,099ultimately what a bereavement leave is or 63700:26:56,099 --> 00:26:58,259any sort of grieving practice is it's a 63800:26:58,259 --> 00:27:00,259reverence and an appreciation and a love. 63900:27:00,899 --> 00:27:03,540So I am 64000:27:03,540 --> 00:27:05,860sending you my love, my heart's 64100:27:05,860 --> 00:27:07,940compassion if you are experiencing 64200:27:08,260 --> 00:27:10,580similar emotions right now and really 64300:27:10,580 --> 00:27:13,460just honoring you and know that it's 64400:27:13,460 --> 00:27:15,940OK. To feel the way you feel and it's 64500:27:15,940 --> 00:27:18,220important to love and support and hold 64600:27:18,220 --> 00:27:20,340yourself in these moments because 64700:27:22,260 --> 00:27:24,980it's part of life, right?And it's not our 64800:27:24,980 --> 00:27:27,660favorite part of life sometimes or 64900:27:27,660 --> 00:27:29,700anytime probably, but 65000:27:30,900 --> 00:27:32,980it's something that we deal with and it 65100:27:33,060 --> 00:27:35,380just like anything can become a practice 65200:27:35,620 --> 00:27:38,500and it's it's the way that we. 65300:27:39,340 --> 00:27:41,780We feel it and we go through it. That 65400:27:41,780 --> 00:27:43,780shapes our experience of it and it shapes 65500:27:43,780 --> 00:27:46,100who we become on the other side of the 65600:27:46,100 --> 00:27:48,900experience. And we have a tendency to 65700:27:48,900 --> 00:27:51,700bypass these, you know, oh, be 65800:27:51,700 --> 00:27:54,620strong, just get through it. How 65900:27:54,620 --> 00:27:56,580does that feel?To me, that feels like a 66000:27:56,580 --> 00:27:58,420hard no, because I just can't. I don't 66100:27:58,420 --> 00:28:00,140want to. I don't want to. It doesn't feel 66200:28:00,140 --> 00:28:02,020like it's honoring the feelings that I 66300:28:02,020 --> 00:28:04,580felt. So allow yourself to feel this and 66400:28:04,580 --> 00:28:06,260give yourself the time and the space and 66500:28:06,260 --> 00:28:08,420the grace and. And navigate it gently. 66600:28:08,700 --> 00:28:11,060And so that's everything that I have for 66700:28:11,060 --> 00:28:12,940you today. I would offer to 66800:28:13,700 --> 00:28:15,780invite you to check out the Power Pause 66900:28:15,780 --> 00:28:17,380Pocket guide, which is linked up in the 67000:28:17,380 --> 00:28:19,900description below as a tool, right?As a 67100:28:19,900 --> 00:28:22,060tool to help you to navigate through 67200:28:22,060 --> 00:28:24,420these moments and to give yourself what 67300:28:24,420 --> 00:28:26,581you need. And both in the moment of 67400:28:26,581 --> 00:28:28,501grief, but also in other moments of life, 67500:28:28,501 --> 00:28:29,861maybe when you're feeling stress or 67600:28:29,861 --> 00:28:32,421anxiety or worry or sadness, the tools 67700:28:32,421 --> 00:28:34,661are very versatile and so can be used in 67800:28:34,661 --> 00:28:36,821a variety of different ways and settings. 67900:28:37,221 --> 00:28:40,141So that is what I have for you 68000:28:40,261 --> 00:28:42,381this week. Sending you so much love and 68100:28:42,381 --> 00:28:45,301Aloha and I will hear 68200:28:45,341 --> 00:28:47,861and see you next week. And until then, 68300:28:47,941 --> 00:28:49,741take good care of yourself from my tender 68400:28:49,741 --> 00:28:51,541heart to yours. Sending you so much love. 68500:28:51,861 --> 00:28:54,741Bye bye. Thank you so much 68600:28:54,741 --> 00:28:56,741for listening. I hope you really enjoyed 68700:28:56,741 --> 00:28:59,061this episode and got a lot out of it. 68800:28:59,541 --> 00:29:02,181Please let me know what landed for you by 68900:29:02,181 --> 00:29:03,861taking a screenshot and sharing your 69000:29:03,861 --> 00:29:06,501takeaways on your Instagram Stories. Make 69100:29:06,501 --> 00:29:07,301sure to tag me 69200:29:08,101 --> 00:29:10,981@IamMeganNolan for a shout out and future 69300:29:11,021 --> 00:29:13,381episodes. And don't 69400:29:13,381 --> 00:29:15,661forget to grab all the goodies that we 69500:29:15,661 --> 00:29:17,621mentioned during the episode because 69600:29:17,621 --> 00:29:19,981you're gonna love them. So all the links 69700:29:19,981 --> 00:29:22,581are in the show notes. So until 69800:29:22,581 --> 00:29:25,461next time, cheers to you living on 69900:29:25,461 --> 00:29:26,581purpose every day.