Grieving a parent you never knew with Miranda Malone | Preverbal loss

She has no memories of her mother's voice, her laugh, or ever being held by her. Miranda Malone - clinical therapist, hypnotherapist, "dead mom girly," and founder of the Dead Mom Club - lost her mum Rosalie when she was just five months old.In this episode of Death on the Daily, Miranda and I go deep into what it means to grieve a parent you never consciously knew: how preverbal loss roots itself into the nervous system, why so many early-loss daughters become high achievers as a way of outrunning the feeling, and how to tell if a relationship is safe enough to hold your grief. We also talk about grief rituals (including the coffee ritual that made her famous), micro-dosing grief instead of saving it for the big anniversaries, and the permission slips every griever deserves to give themselves. Are you journeying with grief?JOIN GRIEF COCOON, my new monthly virtual support session - a sacred space for grief in busy lives: https://tanyawilkinson.co.uk/grief-cocoon DOWNLOAD MY FREE Grief, Grace & Growth journaling ebook: https://tanyawilkinson.co.uk/grief-grace-growth-journalGUIDED "FIND YOUR SAFE PLACE" MEDITATION: https://youtu.be/RO1G2oAOIEU  Disclaimer: This podcast is for entertainment purposes only and does not constitute professional advice. Nor is it a substitute for professional support. In this episode:What it's like to grieve someone you have zero conscious memory ofWhy early mother-loss often creates "high-functioning overachievers"How to spot whether someone is safe to grieve in front ofPractical grief rituals: the coffee ritual, digital altars, and "micro-dosing" griefSpirituality, soul contracts, and what her mum might think of her life nowThe permission slips every griever needs to hearFollow Death on the Daily:Do Like, Comment & Subscribe to this channel  @deathonthedaily  Share this episode with a friend who might need it. Subscribe to my Substack: https://open.substack.com/pub/deathonthedaily/Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/tanyawilkinson_ YouTube: http://youtube.com/@deathonthedailyFind out about my work as a Grief & Life Transitions Coach and connect with me here: https://www.tanyawilkinson.co.ukYou can connect with Miranda Malone here:Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/deadmomtherapistCheck out Miranda's website for her offerings including membership, plus merch: https://www.mirandamalone.com The theme music for Death on the Daily is ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Set Free by Katie Gray⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠, which is used with artist's permission. You can connect with Katie and her music and work here ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.katiegray.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠. This podcast is edited by David Strutt, who you can contact here for any editing needs: [email protected]:0:00 – Intro: growing up with no memory of your mother1:20 – Miranda's story: losing her mum at 5 months old2:37 – Grief that lives in the body, not just memory5:32 – High-functioning grief and the overachiever pattern8:32 – Grief, empathy, and vulnerability to toxic relationships10:26 – The "safe person" checkpoint: can they hold your grieving inner child?14:32 – How to show up for a grieving friend, even years later19:10 – Fragments, stories, and building a picture of who they were22:28 – Becoming older than your mother ever lived to be23:31 – Soul contracts and what her mum might think of her life now26:13 – Storytelling, graveyards, and immortalising the people we've lost29:23 – Positive nihilism and making peace with being forgotten32:18 – Numbing out vs. spiritual connection through grief35:57 – The coffee ritual — how it started and what it means39:16 – Microdosing grief instead of saving it for the big days40:26 – Restorative vs. performative: the test for any grief ritual41:13 – The permission slips every griever deserves